I'm sorry can I just vent?

DH is ok but got into a horrible car accident last night. Thank God the boys weren't in the car. He was hit by a FedEx semi truck that ran a red light. Our brand new car is totaled and our insurance sucks because he has to have high risk. I know it wasn't his fault as there were plenty of witnesses and I am so greatful that he is ok but HE IS THE WORST DRIVER! We argue constantly about how careless he is and how he doesn't pay attention, he has been in 5 car accidents over the last 4 years 3 of which "weren't his fault"(technically) but that's just not normal. I can't help but think these things are avoidable. The boys ALWAYS get up at least twice each night and I haven't slept more than a 4 hour stretch in 6 months, I am miserably exhausted and depressed. This is just one more thing that is going to take forever to get worked out and in the meantime we have to front the money for a rental or drive the boys in our crappy car. We are supposed to move in 2 weeks into a bigger place and I can't even get the energy to make dinner let alone move. The FedEx driver is denying fault in this accident so any kind of reimbursment is going to take a long time. DH was at the hospital all night and I didn't get to go to bed until 1:30am so I got about 3 hours of sleep and he has been sleeping all day. I am feeling like I just can't do this anymore. I just don't even know what to do I just need HELP! Sorry for the rant I am just so overwhelmed.

 

YICK What a day. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Try try try to get some sleep. Maybe you need to see someone for the depression? I went through PPD with my 1st and getting on meds was the best thing I have ever done. It is nothing to be ashamed about. Besides taht I really have no advice just want you to know I am thinking of you!

 

:hug99: Oh my gosh, Ericka. I'm so sorry! That is completely overwhelming...I'm so glad your DH is ok.

My DH was in a car accident (his fault) when I was pregnant with the boys and whew...that was expensive! And our house had just flooded, so two claims to the insurance company has set us back quite a bit!

Good luck.

 

I am sorry and hope things get better for you. big hugs :hug99: It does seem like a lot of accidents in such a short time. & I know what you mean about them sleeping all day. Good luck

Missy

 

Ericka,

What rotten luck! I am soooo sorry all of this is snowballing on you at once. I think that the good news is that it HAS to get better and you are overdue for some good luck soon. I am from Hudson, Ohio and my parents still live there. They said the weather is beautiful today - is there anyway you can get outside and get some fresh air. I wish I could help but I do want to send huge hugs your way. Please remember life is completely cyclical and it absolutely CANNOT pour on you every day!

Amy

 

Ericka, I'm so sorry! Glad your DH is okay. Yes, life can be so overwhelming at times. Is there anyone nearby who can help you out a little more? It sounds like you really need some good rest. Can you nap while your boys nap? And just get take-out for dinner or something? I know when things like this happen, our minds just don't seem to stop and then when we REALLY need the rest it seems impossible. Talk to your DH about you feel too...sometimes in the midst of trying times, we can become closer to our spouses. At least that has been the case for me usually.

:hug99:

 

Your husband's driving habits sound just like my DH's. <_< The last 5 (yes, I typed that right. ) were his fault, but luckily they were minor. I wish I could smack some sense into him, but that thick skull of his would just hurt my hand.

I'm sorry your car is totaled. I'm sorry this is going to be such a pain in the tookus to take care of. Hopefully it resolves quickly. :hug99:

 

Oh, man, I'm so sorry! Again, thankfullly he's okay, but now onto cleaning up the mess that follows. I don't have any advice. Good luck....the next couple of days will be trying, but things will start to work themselves out, you'll see.

 

I'm so sorry Ericka! You can vent here anytime. :hug99:

 

Hugs to you! You need some help! Is there a best friend, a church group, your neighbors, your relatives, ANYONE to help you get a break? Obviously you don't want to be forking over more money now....Can you hire a (pre-)teen for a few bucks to play with them while you sleep (you are still in the house then.

You need a break, really, you deserve a break! Maybe DH needs to stay home (off the roads!) while you go out for a bit!

 

WOW! I congratulate you for even having the energy to TYPE this vent! There is not much to say to make things better but I send hugs your way. I know when you're in the thick of those "when it rains it pours" situations, it seems like there's no light at the end of the tunnel. But just rest assured that this WILL end and one day you'll look back on it and laugh...okay so you won't laugh but you will definitely get over it. Hang in there and I know things will work out. And congratulations on having a biogger place for the holidays! I'm jealous...we're in the process of looking right now and DH is driving me crazy acting like it's MY responsibility and he's doing me a favor by looking at the places I'm suggesting. Ugh!

 

:hug99: I'm sorry things look so bad right now. I'm glad DH was ok!

 

Oh, man. I am so sorry -- I'm having a crappy week myself, but I can't even imagine how frazzled you must be. Big, huge hugs to you....it has to get better from here on out, right?

 

Ericka, you need to find a way to get away from the babies for a bit. Can you get DH to watch them and go take a nap at a friend's or a family members? I am so sorry you are overwhelmed right now. :hug99: The first year is a really tough time but it does get easier and you will sleep better eventually. :hug99:

 

I just wanted to thank everyone for their support. DH stayed home and took care of the boys last night while I went out with a girlfriend and that helped a lot. Wouldn't you know it, the boys decided to sleep for 7 hours straight last night! 11-6 and then back to sleep until 8. FedEx called us this morning and are already trying to settle with us, there were cameras on the building at the intersection! Maybe this will turn out to be a blessing. Thank you ladies again.