Im so tired.....

We are just under 2 weeks with our girls now & I feel really overwhelmed.
So so tired........
Is it normal to feel lack of confidence when doing things for these sweet babies?
I cried about giving them baths, I was so nervous that I was going to do something wrong!
Luckily my husband is home with me for at least another week and a half, but then I am on my own & am petrified for some reason?
I feel so bad when one is bawling her head off when I just started feeding the other ~ right now my hubby can come & help, but I am not sure what to do when I am home alone?
We have one quiet baby & one loud baby that is a lot more vocal & seems to get upset if she doesnt get fed right away.
I feel bad always making Chloe (the quiet one) take a backseat to the screamer (Sydney).
Today is much better than the past few, I think I might be suffering from the Baby Blues a little bit? Anyone have any advice for this new mommy?

heres to hoping each day brings more confidence

~tamara

 

I had a very hard couple of months.. I also had one screamer and one quiet one.. They have switched roles now..
But the feeling you are having all comes with being a new mommy and beinga mommy of twins. You are lucky that your DH is able to stay home with you for at aleast another week. I got DH for 1 day... then it was all up to me. DH would get up at night with me for the first 1.5 months and now i do everything at night. You will feel better about taking care of them the older they get. You will not do anything wrong!!

Both of mine ended up having colic.. It cant get any worse than that.. 3 months is really that magical age..

PM me if you have specific questions on how to do something. We are here for you and you are a great mommy!!!

 

QUOTE(tamaras @ Jan 9 2008, 09:48 PM) [snapback]565525[/snapback]
I feel bad always making Chloe (the quiet one) take a backseat to the screamer (Sydney).


:hug99: That is EXACTLY how I felt when my two were newborns. I had a loud/needy one and the quiet/happy one always got put in the backseat. Please, don't feel bad about it, they will switch places and it all evens out! You are doing a terrific job, and it's okay if they cry, I promise you. Just take it one day at a time, actually one hour at a time. When you are feeling overwhelmed, go outside and take a deep breathe or a few and then go at it again. It will get easier as they get bigger. :hug99: Just keep chanting "I can do this, I can do this" and have a good cry if you need one, it always helps to get it out.

I hope tomorrow is better for you. :hug99:

 

:hug99: Honey you are right in the thick of it right now! :hug99: I am going to agree with Liz here. It always evens out. I swear mine switch places every couple of months and when they were little it was every two weeks it seemed! Sleep deprivation is an awful thing. It makes every single thing seem worse, and your emotions will be ALL over the place. :hug99: It will get better. Try and get as much rest as you can. Accept help from anyone who will give it.

 

I think babies take what they need, and kids for that matter. If they are needing a snuggle, they will let you know. If they are content to watch you with the other baby, let it happen. I agree, it will switch around. If they need attention (hmm, maybe my four year old) they too will let you know, perhaps by drawing on their grandmas carpeted stairs with a black crayon.

Anyway, you can do this!!! You were chosen to be a mommy of twins for some reason!

 

I have had the same feeling, sometimes I wonder if I am going to be able to do this. Monday all I wanted to do was cry, thankfully when my DH came home from work he sent me to bed after we ate. I went upstairs and cried myself to sleep, but when I woke up I felt a better. Everyone keeps saying it does get better, we just need to hang in there. I try to tell myself that God wanted me to have twins for a reason and that I need to enjoy that. Not everyone is blessed(most of the time) with 2 beautiful babies. It is hard having twins but I know we are all going to get through the rough part. Thankfully we have this board to talk about are problems and also to talk about the good things that happen.

 

thank you gals so so much, i cried as i read your replies.
i think the extra encouragment and confirmation that this is 'normal' helps alot.
I appreciate you guys!

 

It does get better with time. I am just now getting to the point where the babies are easier to handle. Mine are 4 months old (2 1/2 months adjusted). The newborn stage is the hardest and it will get better soon. I promise. The do switch roles too. My DS was an angel the first 2 months. Then he started being very very needy and DD is now the calm one. I feel guilty sometimes b/c I am always holding DS and not DD. DS is finually getting a little bit better about not being held 24/7.

It is very normal not to have confidence in taking care of the babies. I have two older kids and I still underestimate myself sometimes when caring for the twins.

It will get better. Just hang in there and take lots of pictures and try to enjoy the little ones. When they start smiling soon it will just melt your heart and you will realize it is all worth it.

 

Yes my friend this is normal...I too have a loud one and a quiet one...still do and the quiet one had colic! I was so scared when my husband went to work after two weeks. I called my mom at least 4 times that day, not stressed or anything just to make sure someone was out there. Now we are 5 months old my quiet one is still quiet but she has a voice and when she needs to she uses it! Never fear it does get better. :love0028: The bath thing mine got washcloths baths until they were two months old I was too scared!

 

QUOTE(TwinLove @ Jan 9 2008, 08:56 PM) [snapback]565544[/snapback]
You are doing a terrific job, and it's okay if they cry, I promise you.

And it's OK if you cry! :hug99: I cried the whole first month, and on and off after that until who knows when. Those precious little bundles can definitely be scary, but you are the mom, and you are a wonderful mom. You are doing great so far, so hang in there! And come cry here anytime you need a little encouragement!

 

Try to sleeep whenever you can. That will help. I remember just crying holding my DD who had colic as she would scream. WE all lived through it. YOu can do it too. If you are bf I would recommend feeding at the same time. Get a EZ 2 nurse pillow. For that matter you can do it with bottles but it is hard. Put them both in bouncy and sit by them and feed both. You can do this when you are desperate. I would practice while you still have your husband home so you know you can do it when you are alone. I would also ask for help. See if someone can come over to watch them while you sleep so you don't have to worry between feedings.

 

QUOTE(tamaras @ Jan 9 2008, 09:48 PM) [snapback]565525[/snapback]
We are just under 2 weeks with our girls now & I feel really overwhelmed.
So so tired........
Is it normal to feel lack of confidence when doing things for these sweet babies?
I cried about giving them baths, I was so nervous that I was going to do something wrong!
Luckily my husband is home with me for at least another week and a half, but then I am on my own & am petrified for some reason?
I feel so bad when one is bawling her head off when I just started feeding the other ~ right now my hubby can come & help, but I am not sure what to do when I am home alone?
We have one quiet baby & one loud baby that is a lot more vocal & seems to get upset if she doesnt get fed right away.
I feel bad always making Chloe (the quiet one) take a backseat to the screamer (Sydney).
Today is much better than the past few, I think I might be suffering from the Baby Blues a little bit? Anyone have any advice for this new mommy?

heres to hoping each day brings more confidence

~tamara

I have frequently felt this way. My DH went back to work last night and my Mom will be here until Saturday to help out and then I am on my own. I feel like that I will be depriving my twins of one on one time with Mommy by feeding them at the same time. It's very hard for me to hear either one cry and be only able to attend to one at a time. Plus, I had a c-section and my mobility is still limited. I can't say that I thought it would be easy but I also did not think it would be this hard. Mom was afraid that I was suffering from PPD but I was just tired and frustrated....I think this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life...

 

I just wanted to share this sticky from the First Year Handbook
Surviving Twinfants

Many stories have been shared there and it will show that you are not alone. The beginning is so difficult. I hope you find some tips or comfort in reading some of the stories.