I'm so mad right now. I set up a babysitter for tonight. I sent my 2 yr old to my aunts house and my big girls were going to help my parents with the babies. My aunt took my 2 yr old, but all of a sudden my mom won't keep the babies unless I'm home by 10. It's already 7:15. WTH?! She told me over and over how as soon as I have these babies she was going to come over and help me every day and take the big girls sometimes or help with the house. She hasn't done anything. I know I sound selfish right now, but I don't even care. My friend is here from England for the summer and she found a babysitter for her 3 kids, DH is in school full time and got all his homework done early so we could all go out and have one freaking child-free night and my mom is too tired because she worked all day today and has to be at work at 10 am. She will take my 9 and 6 yr olds though if I can find someone to watch the babies. Or if I just want to have only the babies. I just want to scream!!!! Thanks for letting me get it all off my chest and sorry if it doesn't really make sense.
I'm sorry :hug99: I hope you gusy still went even if you or just DH had to leave early to be home by 10. It probbaly doesn't help now, but you have a lot of company on this board of being disappointed that the promises made during pregnancy don't materialize!! I don't think you sound selfish (very understandable actually!!), although next time I would make plans when she didn't have to work the next morning.
I don't think you sound selfish at all. I understand why you are disappointed and think you have every right to feel that way. :hug99: I hope the rest of your weekend is better than tonight.
Thanks guys. My oldest DD (10) said she thought she could handle being alone with all of the kids if they were all asleep so we could go out. It made me smile and then feel guilty for being such a whiner. I just realized in my first post I said my oldest was 9 not 10. I think I'm getting old
I totally understand.. On our 1st anniversary the twins were 5 months old. and my mom was to watch them plus my 4 year old so we could have dinner and a movie. Well we saw the movie and then went to Babies r us (because we werent hungry yet.. too much Pop corn) My mom calls and said we have to come and get the kids. Its been 2 hours and we havent even gotten dinner yet! We got there as soon as my Dad did.. And he said.. What are you doing here so early.. DH and I just looked at eachother and rolled our eyes. My Mom was also big talk about watching them "all the time.." She came over one time in the first 2 months they were alive. ..I shouldnt complain because my Mom really does a lot (now).. but certian things just piss me off...
I'm hoping you got to go out! We have problems finding people who can watch all of our girls, and I understand how disappointing it is when one you think you can count on backs out or changes their plans on you. :hug99:
QUOTE(alliandre @ Jul 26 2008, 01:18 AM) [snapback]896895[/snapback] She told me over and over how as soon as I have these babies she was going to come over and help me every day and take the big girls sometimes or help with the house. She hasn't done anything. I had and have this problem too. It's lovely isn't it?? I am sorry that she did that. :hug99:
I appreciate all the help I do get, but it is incrediblly frustrating when people make promises and don't keep them. My mom promised me she would keep the girls overnight for our anniversary several months ago so DH and I could get a break. Our anniversary was the 23rd and it fell through. It is hard not to be upset about that-she did gives us time to go out to dinner, but DH took the next day off because of her promise. So, I understand where you are coming from!
I know how you feel. It's tough when you have a bunch of kids. When you are told one thing and then they change their mind, it really ticks you off. She shouldn't have agreed in the first place if she knew she had to work both days. I hope you have a better weekend. The last time DH and I did anything was when I was pg with the twins and it amounted to us shopping and going out to lunch. The only reason we got to do that was because the older kids were all at school. :hug99:
QUOTE(DATJMom @ Jul 26 2008, 08:02 PM) [snapback]898048[/snapback] I had and have this problem too. It's lovely isn't it?? I am sorry that she did that. :hug99: Me too. For us it was because my mom was totally freaked out about them being so small (and she was very uncomfortable when they were in the NICU). Once the girls got a little bigger she was much better about helping.
