I'm pregnant.

My husband and I found out yesterday we were going to have a baby. We are the proud parents of Scarlet and Samantha 9 month old beautiful twin girls. This pregnancy is big surprise to both of us. I took a home pregancy test about a week ago and had it confirmed with a blood test from my doctor yesterday. This past week has been a big rollercoaster of emotions. I feel guilty when I am sad or upset with the news of the new pregnacy, and I also feel guilty when I start getting excited about the idea. I feel like I am being very unfair to my girls for becoming pregnant. I feelike my husband feels this is all my fault. I know it is too soon and it is going to be tough. I am scared about how things are goig to work out. Basicly I just feel guilty. I am guessing I am around 12 weeks along. I will see my doctor next week and hopefully find out more. Has anyone else felt this way? Will it pass soon? I just need some good advice and little pep talk.

Tammy

 

Congrats!

My girls are alot older than yours and I feel that way. I think what you are feeling is normal. But, I think th advantage of having them so close together is that they really aren't going to realize it was "just the two of them". They'll grow up with it being the three of them from the time they can really remember. I'm sure it will be hard on you and your DH but I think the kids will do great.

As far as when that feeling goes away? I have no idea. I still go through it, like I said. I imagine that there will be moments throughout all three of their lives that I feel guilty for them not having something or not being able to do something because there are two more of them, kwim? But I'm learning to just accept that part of motherhood is guilt. LOL!

 

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Congrats!

My girls are alot older than yours and I feel that way. I think what you are feeling is normal. But, I think th advantage of having them so close together is that they really aren't going to realize it was "just the two of them". They'll grow up with it being the three of them from the time they can really remember. I'm sure it will be hard on you and your DH but I think the kids will do great.

As far as when that feeling goes away? I have no idea. I still go through it, like I said. I imagine that there will be moments throughout all three of their lives that I feel guilty for them not having something or not being able to do something because there are two more of them, kwim? But I'm learning to just accept that part of motherhood is guilt. LOL!


Ditto this! I too have those feelings at times that my girls will be "jipped" out of something when the baby comes and I find myself thinking more about what I will do to make THEM feel special after the baby is here than the stuff I need to be getting for the baby, etc. I think those feelings are totally normal. They are your first born children (as are twins for a lot of us on here) so you feel the need to protect them and do everything for them....then another comes along and life just isn't that simple anymore.

I cant' give too much advice, I'm only half-way through my pregnancy...but I do know that you are never given more than you can handle and you will be fine! Your twins will be around 18 months or so and will start becoming more self-sufficient around that time and maybe even offer to be little helpers!

By the way....CONGRATS!!!

 

Congratulations! Everything works out in the end... your kids will enjoy having another sibling so close in age!

 

I had mixed emotions when I found out I was pregnant too. I have 19 month old twins and one has cerebal palsy which keeps me really busy between therapy and doctors appts......I wasn't sure I had time for the new baby or if I was emotionally ready for a new child.....I'm still feeling quite a loss over what is going on with my son. I soon realized that god wouldn't give me more than I could handle and I have now embraced the idea of the new baby and are becoming really excited about it. Don't feel guilty It will come with time and you will love this baby and the twins will love it too.

 

I was in the same position as you - only we had boys . I felt the same exact way. I still do sometimes. I cant tell you how many nights i cried myself to sleep or would just cry when i sit and look at the boys in their highchairs. I feel like I cant give them all the attention that they need b/c I'll have another baby to care for. Now even more b/c we found out that the new baby has a heart defect and will need special and quick medical attention right off teh bat. I'm not even going to be able to see the boys after i have the baby for awhile and I feel so bad...but it happened and what happenes i guess happens for a reason. I love my boys and nothing will change that and i keep reminding myself that ehy're all goign to be so close. Our boys will be 16.5 months when Peyton is born (next week) and it's goign to be hard but....i'll get through it and i'm sure tha tyou will.....and i'm sure taht we've all felt that way.
Congrats by the way and beautiful girls!
Amanda

 

Those emotions are totally normal on your second pg. I felt sooooo guilty for my first dd's sake during my twin pg. And that was planned!! (well the pg was, not the twin!! LOL!) But now I wouldn't change a thing...they love each other so much. My twin were born when my dd was 20 months old. you'll do just fine. I have a fellow twin mom who did actually plan to get pg when her twins were around 6 months old. She has all boys! And she loves it. Her third ds was born when her twins were around 15 months old. I think the nice thing about close spacing is that you've never moved too far beyond the infant stage...so you kind of stay acclimated to it... whereas when you've been away from it for awhile it can feel really rough to go back there again.

Congrats...cry if you want to..be happy if you want to... don't stress, it's totally normal. And talk with your dh about your feelings. He needs to suck it up and realize he played a 50/50 role here too. You didn't get pg without his knowledge...he was there when it happened!! LOL!

 

Congratulations!! So many emotions come with pregnancy, dont feel bad or guilty for the ones you are having. Like Jackie said everything will work out in the end!!

 

Thanks for all the advice.

Tammy

 

Can't add anything that hasn't already been said, so I will just say CONGRATS!!