i'm getting nervous

DH and i took the birthing unit tour last night, and after seeing the rooms, and all the machines, and the OR for c-sections, and after the nurse talked about, "this is where you will labor..." i started getting the shakes and then started crying. i've never had surgery before (besides my wisdom teeth), i hate pain, needles, knives, hospital machines, tubes, wires, etc...
someone tell me they feel the same way i do. and then someone tell me it will all be okay!

 

I was the same as you; I never even had stiches before the c/s and only ever had anesthesia when I got my wisdom teeth pulled.

One thing that really helped me (besides TS of course!) was really liking and trusting my OB. I knew he was a great doctor with loads of experience and I just knew he would do a great job!

Also, keeping focused on seeing my babies really helped me get through. It's so fast you won't believe they're done! And hopefully your DH will be right there with you.

:hug99: s to you!

 

Well I have had 2 other surgeries and I was still nervous. That is totally normal! But you will be okay. Just think of the end result! 2 beautiful babies! :hug99:

 

I am right there with you! I am not looking forward to delivering. I have a really high tolerance for pain (my mother told me to think of it as getting another tattoo, its uncomfortable for a little while but the end result is worth it, mind you she does not have any tattoos whereas I am covered in them).

I was in L&D last week for 2 days and I must say that I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable when they checked my cervix and kept saying 'I dont want to deliver, I dont want to deliver!'
Plus when I go in for the ultrasounds and they measure their little heads I start tweaking because I think they are too big and wont fit out.
And I hate hate hate IVs, needles totally gross me out and I swear I can feel the thing in my arm. Yuck!!

 

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I am right there with you! I am not looking forward to delivering. I have a really high tolerance for pain (my mother told me to think of it as getting another tattoo, its uncomfortable for a little while but the end result is worth it, mind you she does not have any tattoos whereas I am covered in them).

I was in L&D last week for 2 days and I must say that I was EXTREMELY uncomfortable when they checked my cervix and kept saying 'I dont want to deliver, I dont want to deliver!'
Plus when I go in for the ultrasounds and they measure their little heads I start tweaking because I think they are too big and wont fit out.
And I hate hate hate IVs, needles totally gross me out and I swear I can feel the thing in my arm. Yuck!!



i have tattoos, too, and it's not the same! tattoos only go thru a few layers of skin. they'll be cutting all the way thru me, BLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!
and then when i think of the fact that my stomach will be getting "stapled"... i picture this big, old, rusty carpenter's stapler stapling big, rusty staples in my stomach!

but i'm appreciating the positive encouragement from the others... it IS helping a little! keep 'em coming!

 

I feel exactly the same way! The only thing that keeps me going is that my daughter was born via emergency c-section. I was scared to death especially since we never even concidered the possibility of having a c-section. This time I am scared, but for different reasons. I can tell you that the minute I was able to see my daughter I forgot all about the surgery part of things!

 

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i have tattoos, too, and it's not the same! tattoos only go thru a few layers of skin. they'll be cutting all the way thru me, BLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!
and then when i think of the fact that my stomach will be getting "stapled"... i picture this big, old, rusty carpenter's stapler stapling big, rusty staples in my stomach!

but i'm appreciating the positive encouragement from the others... it IS helping a little! keep 'em coming!



:rotflmbo: I definitely dont think they will have some big dirty construction guy coming in and stapling you back up but thats a visual I could live without too.
I have heard really good things about staples though and them healing faster.
I had an ectopic when I was about 20yrs old and the surgery was similar to a c/s and I had stitches and did not heal very well.
Are your babies breech? Or are you hoping for the best / preparing for the worst?

 

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Are your babies breech? Or are you hoping for the best / preparing for the worst?



you know, i don't know what my babies are anymore! baby A keeps flipping around and around... i've been 100% c-section all this time, but lately am thinking that, jeez, i'd recover a whole lot faster if i do vaginal.. but the only way i'd do it vaginally is if they are both head down adn ready to slide right out! i asked my doctor what the chances are of baby B holding on to baby A's ankle and the two of them sliding right out :lol: ... apparantly that's not very likely!

 

I am pretty scared as well but am trying not to think about it. I think I am more scared of getting the epidural more than anything. I;ve always had this 'thing' about being touched on my spine.....it gives me the hee-bee-gee-bees!! The thought of having a NEEDLE in my spine scares me to death.......HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I am very freaked out either way those babies come out of me! These posts are making me even more scared! Maybe it would help to hear from all those Moms whose babies flew out of them or who really "enjoyed' their c/s...it's not going to happen is it?

 

I am the exact same way, in fact, I hate hospitals! As soon as I step in a hospital I get the creeps, I don't know why they just make me uncomfortable. Even though I know happy things like birth happen in hospitals all I can think about is sickness and pain. When we went on the first hospital tour and I saw the birthing suites I started to get tears in my eyes thinking "I'm going to hate this place!" But it will be worth it to be done with pregnancy and have 2 little babies! I just keep thinking that the temporary unpleasantness or things I'm scared of will lead to a lifetime with my babies.

 

I've had multiple stomach surgeries, so I wasn't super scared of c-section. I was more scared of the thought of a vaginal birth. When they were wheeling me to the OR, I was more scared of the babies being ok than anything else.

I'm only one experience, but it's ALWAYS worse in your mind. the anticipation is worse than the reality. And as for my recovery. Not bad at all! Take the pain meds as soon as you can and as often as they offer them. But besides that, by the time I went home (4 days after birth) and was able to do stairs (more trips up and down then you are supposed to). I still took my pain meds when I went home, but they didn't make me incapable of caring for my kids.

I know how scary it is, and no amount of good stories will stop you from being nervous. but really, once you hear those cries and see those little faces, it all goes away, and it's all worth it!

 

I'm getting nervous too, I think it started when we went to the childbirth class and hosptial tour Saturday, just made things feel so much more real. I think the worst part is the waiting, if I would just go into labor then I could deal with it, but all this anticipitation and "is it or isn't it a sign" is driving me crazy!! We are not planning on doing a c/s, but you never know what can happen, that is driving me nuts as well.

 

I feel the same way. I have never been afraid of pregnancy but have always been petrified of delivering; this could be why I am having my first (and last) preganacy at 39 yeas old. When I think about the delivery I get very freaked out sometimes I even have a panic attack. I have a very low tolerance of pain and seeing my own blood sends me into a tizzy. Oy, as much as I want to meet my babies and be a mommy sometimes I wish they would stay inide of me forever; the thought of delivering is just too scary.
But, we will all be fine.....we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine, we will all be fine.
Leslie

 

Awwww, you guys - it isn't THAT bad!! Look at how many I've had.....now would I keep going and having all these babies if it was horrible? AND it just goes to show that a baby is SOOOOO worth it!!!

I do not like the hospital either, but usually the L&D people are very nice and work hard to make you as comfortable as possible. As far as the pain goes, I have never had a c/s so I have no idea on that, but I had six of my seven so far without ANY pain meds at all! I had demerol with #1 and HATED it, so I swore I would never do that again. And I never felt comfortable with the whole needle in the back thing - so that pretty much just left all natural. My first set of twins were vag and med free and I am really hoping this set will be also. I have heard that the EPI is SOOOO wonderful (from a friend who had 7 natural and the last one with the EPI - she HIGHLY recommended it) - so if you are getting one chances are pretty good that you will be fairly comfortable most of the time. Just keep reminding yourself that the pain is only temporary and you can do it for a little while longer, and that it is worth it (BTW I have a tattoo also and the two pains can not be compared at ALL, one is nothing compared to the other!)

It will all be OK- in fact it will be one of the single greatest experiences of your life - five minutes after I give birth I would do it all over again for the baby(ies) I'm holding!!!

 

hahaha, if someone told me that labor was like getting a tattoo I wouldnt be worried at all.
My mother was trying to use an analogy I could understand to calm me down about delivering.... she meant that even though it hurts it doesnt stop me from getting them because I like the end result.

In the meantime I am hoping the doctors figure out a way to teleport these babies out of me!

 

It will be fine! I promise. It goes by really fast - though you don't think so now. I PROMISE. I barely remember being in the hospital now - and I'm only 3 months out.

 

I just had a thought - a mean thought - but never the less a thought.....Men get tattoo's, so the pain from one can't be THAT bad....LOL

 

QUOTE(cohlee @ Sep 13 2007, 08:09 PM) [snapback]406958[/snapback]
In the meantime I am hoping the doctors figure out a way to teleport these babies out of me!



same here

 

You will be so uncomfortable and miserable at the end, your fear of surgery or labor will pale in comparison to the excitement of not being pregnant anymore and getting to meet your babies finally. At least that's how it was for me. I had a c-section and I can honestly say the recovery wasn't bad at all. I can seriously remember a feeling of giddiness during the surgery when they took baby B out....finally I could breathe again! If you have a c-section, it's fast and you won't have to experience hours of labor.

I always remember thinking that being pregnant with twins was like being on a roller coaster. You
had a long, worrying, hill to climb which seemed to take forever (9months or so) then a sudden, fast, scary plunge (the delivery).

Good luck to you all.