I saw a triplet mom today and stopped her to talk. I avoided the cliches but she had a look in her eyes which is probably similar to the look I usually have. I apologized and told her I get the same thing having twins. I walked off pretty embarrassed because like I usually say, she wasn't there for my amusement. I saw her again and she laughed and told me she didn't see I had twins. She said having multiples gives me a right to enquire. Anyone else feel that way? I never mind talking to twin moms but I get irritated with my cousin's father's brother's great aunt has twins or similar stories.
Yes, I get irritated by it too. I usually don't mind if it IS a multiples mom. I figure she has paid her dues
It does get annoying doesn't it?? I think my babies are the most gorgeous creatures who've ever lived (don't we all?) so I don't mind showing them off and the attention they get. But I'm not sure why everyone has to name off all the twins they know and act like an authority on the subject become as pp said, their third cousin twice removed has twins.
Erykah, I did the same thing this weekend @ Target. I saw a double snap & go, & I went. DH had the girls in another part of the store and when I went to look at the twins, I too got this LOOK!. I immediately saw me standing there and was quick to explain that I had twins. Then it was a sigh of relief and we talked for about 20 minutes or so... Isn't that funny that we are annoyed by others but if it is another MOM we embrace it. only those with experience know.
I also made a good friend at Target!! She overheard me talking and came up to me because she has twins, too! I was not bothered at all because I knew she understood what I was going through and v/v... But, I also am sick of everyone telling me about the twins they know. But, people are just trying to find a connection. They are being nice.
I was in Target last week and a man came up and said "Oooooh twins!" I was all ready to just smile politely and walk off when he called over his (very) pregnant wife and told me that they were expecting twins. That changed everything for me and we ended up talking for 15 - 20 minutes.
What’s with Target? I met a triplet mom at Target today. She is actually the president of the multiples group in my area. We exchanged information and she invited me to a meeting tomorrow night. She said they also get together for dinner once a month. I am so excited to get involved. I don't mind when people stop me to look at the twins and ask me questions. I hate when people walk by and say "here comes double trouble, my you have your hands full, glad its you and not me," etc.
quote: I don't mind when people stop me to look at the twins and ask me questions. I hate when people walk by and say "here comes double trouble, my you have your hands full, glad its you and not me," etc. Ditto! When it's a positive comment, it's great, but when people are negative for no reason, it's irritating!
Maybe we need a secret handshake... LOL I always approach multiples moms too. Sometimes I get "that look" too, but I usually start out by saying... I noticed you have multiples.. I have a set of x year old triplets.
In our walks in the neighborhood we often run into one set of twins and one set of triplets. They're all very near my girl's age. I always enjoy hello's with their mother or grandmother but we don't stop to chat. I think they're the only ones I run into with children in strollers that I really enjoy seeing. It's like we have an understanding or something
Ha, I made a beeline for a woman who had older twins in a double stroller yesterday but then she started yelling at one of them so I backed off ... but I get excited to see other twin moms out there! People who know exactly what you are going through.
I can always tell a mom of multiples from a mom of singletons. Moms of older twins will look at the boys and tell me that I will survive. That's good to know. I work in retail and there are parents of triplets that come into the store and they are so nice. They seem as curious about my boys as I am about their kids.
quote: Originally posted by Ruth K.: Maybe we need a secret handshake... LOL We definatly need one I dont approach them because I dont want to bother them, but I have no problem stopping for a multiple mom either, its just the "others" that get to me
I swear it must be a target thing~! I met the nicest mom of twins there yesterday! Right after my boys were born, I was at Target and notices a woman stalking me...it was really weird until she finally approached me and asked me how I liked my stroller as her sister was expecting twins and registering that day. I ended up chatting with her and her sister (who I have since run into several times now that she has had the babies!) for a good 30-40 minutes! Ya just gotta love those other moms who truly get it when you have "the look"! Nicole
