I'm about to lose it!

Okay Just need to vent a bit.

Well I dont know if she is teething or what but DD is miserable. I have been woken up at 5 am every morning to SCREAMING for the past week and am going on practically no sleep. Both DD and DS were sleeping all throught the night and then would wake up around 7 DH would feed and change them and put them back to bed so I could get a couple more hours of sleep. Well DD wont go back to sleep in the morning she just stays awake and screams. I dont know what she wants shes doesn't want to eat, has a clean diaper, doesn't want to be held just screams no matter what I do. Then of course DS starts crying too because she is SOOOO LOUD. She doesnt nap for more than 10-15 minutes at a time during the day and then its back to the screamfest. This goes on all day long from 5 am to bedtime at 8 pm. When DH comes home at night I end up snapping at him even though its obviously not his fault. I cant take it.

Its driving me nuts I just need a break! I tried to take a nap last night after DH came home but all she did was scream so I finally just got up. I need to get away but I have nowhere to go to get away. I feel like such a bad mommy for saying I just cant take it any more and I need a break. I find myself yelling at her even though I know she is just a baby and doesn't understand but I just lose it. Then DS gets neglected because I am spending all of my time trying to soothe DD.

Gotta go there she goes again

 

I feel like that on NUMEROUS occasions. I am so sorry..if it's been going on for this long you might want to call your pedi. Just to make sure nothing is wrong..I always check their toes for hairs (ever since I heard about one getting tangled) and their whole body to make sure nothing else is going on...I try binkies, rocking, singing, humming, swaddling, just putting down in crib, holding and jogging in place, different positions while holding, reducing stimuli (close blinds, turning off tv etc) ..hope it gets better soon

 

My guess is that it is teeth...have you tried Tylenol? :hug99: If you can't get away from them for a few, can you put them in the car and drive around...maybe get some coffee or something, or walk around the mall? It helps my babies when they have a change of scenery. :hug99: s, come talk to us anytime!

 

I really feel for you, as I have a "screamer" too, but nowhere as bad as yours. Yikes. I can only imagine! I am so sorry. I would suggest that no matter what, when DH gets home, you get out of the house. Get in the car, go to a bookstore, get an ice cream, go to a park and just sit there or just drive around and breathe and relax. You need a break, seriously. And you are not a bad mom for yelling at your daughter, gosh, I have succumbed to sheer frustration and exasperation on occasion and have snapped at my DD, too. And like yours, my poor DS gets neglected and I feel guilty and the tears start flowing and I just feel like a failure. Please know you are not alone, and I know that it doesn't really help to know that, but when I feel close to just throwing in the towel, I think of many of you here and how I am not alone. Somehow it gives me a bit more stamina.

I would call your ped. to make sure there isn't something you are missing. My normally happy go lucky son was miserable a few weeks ago and it turned out he had a bladder infection! I would have never known had I not taken him to his ped. to get checked out. If it seems like teething, try Tylenol or some teething tablets maybe? Have you felt in her mouth to see if there are any teeth poking through?

 

My second child was like this. He was/is very sensitive to stimuli. Just moving him around to face a different direction in the room could set him off. It went on for HOURS!!! It makes life **** and I reallyfeel for you. But it does get better! He is 8 now and he is totally one hundred percent my boy!!! So all the yelling back I did at him, walking out of the room to let him scream while I held a pillow over my head, etc, apparently didn't effect him too much.

I know now I had PPD during this time, which made it harder for me to deal with him and probably set him off more then what he would have screamed. I would definately make an appointment with the doctor to have the baby checked in case it is something like an infection. But I would also see about getting some meds to help you deal. My doctor at the time wouldn't listen to my needs. Fortunately docs are much more aware of PPD now then they were.

 

I think you should take her to the pedi, it may be nothing, BUT she could have an ear infection or something else wrong with her. Also, check to see if she has any hairs wrapped around her fingers or toes. If it is teething try giving Tylenol and/or teething tablets. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with putting her down in a safe place for 15 minutes and taking a breather!

:hug99: This has got to be so hard for you, I had a colicky baby so I can understand some of what you're feeling. It's normal to feel frustrated when babies scream like that, because all you want to do is help! :hug99:

 

I would take her to the doctor to make sure she doesn't have an ear infection. My dd cries all night when she has one...no other symptoms. Now I know thats what it is, at first, I had no idea what was wrong with her.

 

First of all, I am really sorry you have to go through this ... it sounds really bad.

Besides a possible medical issue ... OK ... shoot me ... but could she be overtired? First of all, I don't think it's that weird that she doesn't want to go back down at 7 am in the morning. We start the day at 7 am and many babies / kids do the same, especially when they get past the newborn stage.

If she only sleeps 10-15 minutes a day, than she doesn't get enough sleep and that could cause an overtired child (who most likely cries and screams a lot). My babies are almost the same age ... they go to bed at 6 pm every day (I believe in early bedtimes but also I need time for my toddler, she's in bed at 7 pm), then they sleep 11-12 hours, eat and go back down until 7 am. At 7 am my oldest wakes and I wake the twins. I then put them down at 9 am and they'll nap until 10-11 am. Then I put them back down around 1 pm, and they'll sleep for another 1-2 hours. They should take a short nap in the afternoon but that one usually doesn't really work b/c of my oldest, so that's why I have an early bedtime. Sometimes they cat nap in the car or the stroller.

Like most of you know, I follow Weissbluth, since he's our pediatrician and a believer of early bedtimes and he also stresses the 9 am morning nap (biological). At our 4 month, he told me to push their afternoon nap as close to 1 pm as possible (since my oldest also goes down at 1 pm) even if they get a little fussy. So far so good.

I am not saying she won't be teething or don't have an ear infection, but since she doesn't seem to sleep enough during the day and looking at my kids, I know what that can do to them ...

Don't feel bad, I've been yelling at all my kids too including the tiny twins. It's a lot to handle sometimes. Go to the doctor and make sure medically everything is fine. Then try an early bed time for a few days in a row to see whether she can catch up some sleep. Keep intervals of wakefulness short for her. You may have to seperate them temporarily (our ds is still in our walk in closet ...).

 

Thank you ladies for all of your responses and for being here to let me vent

I gave her a bit of Tylenol and she went to sleep and has been sleeping for an hour or so. :banana: so hopefully that will last a bit longer

It's just so frustrating because they have always been really good babies up to this point and now this. I'm pretty sure its teething because she is constantly chewing on her hands and anything else she can manage to get in her mouth and drooling alot. When DS had an ear infection he had a stuffy nose and wouldn't eat so I didn't even think it could be that. I guess I'll call the Pedi in the morning and see if they can fit her in.

I hate to get mad at her for it because I know if I was in pain I wouldn't be very happy about it either. But its just so frustrating when I want so much for her just to stop but dont know how to help her.

Anyway I have decided I am going to the post office BY MYSELF when DH gets home (I sell on ebay and usually take the babies with me when I ship stuff) But I am going all by myself and might just make a couple extra stops on the way. I know not exciting but to me just going to the bathroom alone is exciting at this point.

 

:hug99: Your little errand trip may be boring to some but I think it will be great to get a little time by yourself...take your time!!!
I'm happy that the tylonel seems to have worked! don't worry about being a bad mom by wanting her to stop screaming, we have all been there at one point. I hope her teething "symptoms" end soon! :hug99: