If yours were in night-time pull-ups at 4

Both my girls still wear pull-ups at night and are soaked in the morning. They are completely dry during waking hours, and Amy is dry at nap but Sarah is not. Physiologically I don't think they're ready to stay dry at night, and psychologically they have no interest -- they actually love their pull-ups.

I'm definitely in the "don't rush it" school of potty training -- both of them only day trained around age 3, but when they did, it was quick and complete. So I'm not really in a hurry for them to start wearing underwear at night.

But I had been assuming at some point they'd just start waking up dry more often than not. And then we'd switch to underwear and get into the whole business of going potty at night. Now I'm starting to wonder if I'm going to eventually need to do something to move the process along? I don't want them to still be wearing pull-ups when they're 7....

 

No advice. My girls are younger than yours and potty trained around age 2. At nap they stay dry, but at night, they still get pull ups and like you said are really wet. I have always heard that it isn't a learned behavior, so I haven't been sweating it too much. :hug: I am sure they won't be 7, but if they are, that is why they make bigger kids pull-ups. :hug:

 

My DD just started wearing underware to bed about a month ago. She does wake to use the bathroom and has had only 1 accident. My DS still wears a pull up at night only and is dry about 1/2 the time. I think he's a bit more sound of a sleeper (although he's the earliest waker).

ETA: Mine turned 4 on Sept. 20th.

 

I have no advice, but will share my own experience. It seems like my three potty "trained" a lot like yours did. They were a bit older and it just happened one day and needed very little training or work and we had very few accidents.

With that said, my five year old still wears pull-ups at night and wakes up soaked every morning. Over the summer (before she turned 5) I tried to use an incentive to get her to stay dry. She had to stay dry for five nights and could get a new baby doll. It took her six weeks to get five dry nights. That wasn't quite how I had intended the incentive to work, but it was causing her stress and anxiety, and she was trying SO hard, so she "earned" the baby doll anyway and I have since stopped putting any pressure on her to stay dry at night. As she continues to get older, she is more aware of things like making sure she goes potty before bed and doesn't drink water after a certain time. I just tell her it'll happen when her body is ready (kind of like your attitude is).

 

I will just say that I personally didn't stay dry at night until I was 11. Half of the nights I woke up in the morning soaked in pee. I wish they made pull ups when I was growing up instead of having to deal with the embarassment. Have you tried dream peeing? Waking them up to go potty in the middle of the night (like when you're going to bed).

 

I may try dream peeing if nothing's changed by the time they're 5. I suppose I could also start nudging them to go potty before they go to bed, but right now if I suggest that, they just say, "No, I'll just go in my pull-up." And since I don't expect them to actually stay dry anyway, it seems silly to argue against that. :unknw:

I don't personally care how long it takes (other than the cost of pull-ups, but that's not such a big deal), but I just worry a little that they'll reach an age where other kids find out and make fun of them. But I guess kids always get made fun of for something.... (I'm not looking forward to that part of parenting. Preschoolers are mean to each other sometimes, but it's rarely personal.)

I am grateful that they make pull-ups for big kids now. :good:

 

Nadia wasn't fully dry at night until close to 5 -- maybe a couple months before? I still kept her in pull-ups until well after her 5th birthday, even though she didn't need them by then -- I just didn't want to deal with a wet bed in the middle of the night. (She was totally day trained at 26 months.)

So based on my experience, I wouldn't worry until after their 5th birthday. I know several other kids in Nadia's kindergarten class that still need pull-ups at night (the moms were talking about it one day) -- and I'm fairly sure the kids don't discuss it!

ETA -- just read your last post. We did always require a potty visit as the last thing before bed, and it wasn't negotiable.

 

Jessy is dry most every night but Jazzy is wet almost every night. We have tried little to no liquid and peeing before bed neither really have helped

 

Lily trained at 2 1/2 but wore pull ups at night still until around 3y4m. Grace trained closer to 3y4m, but when she trained, she was completely trained and never needed a pull up at night.

But my niece wore pull ups at night until she was 6. I think it just varies child to child. Mine do drink water at night but I honestly can't remember the last night time accident we had. It's been many, many months (knocking on wood).

 

I have one in a pull-up and one not. My night dry one just was dry for a week or two and was waking to go potty at night on her own, so we stopped using them. It was her own doing and we never discussed it as a 'need to do'. Night maturity depends on the child totally- they have no control when sleeping. If they are heavy sleepers they tend to train later since they dont feel the signals. There is also a familial history-- late night trainers tend to run in families, and also are more often (though not always) boys.

 

My 5.5 year old is wearing pull-ups at night. Some nights they are soaked - and every once in awhile he'll wake up dry. Just this week we started giving him his cup of milk with dinner (instead of before bed) and just giving him 1/4 of a cup of milk before bed and he's had 2 dry nights out of 4, so I think some of it has to do with his getting liquids too close to bed. He just does not wake up to pee yet. It isn't all that unusual and I know when his body is ready, he'll stay dry.

Try not to worry or stress about it! :hug:

 

they will eventually start to be dry at night. My two trained during the day just after age 3 and it was at least a year for one and longer for the other for nightime. It started with an odd night dry and gradually increased. When they had been dry for 5 nights in a row we got rid of pullups.

 

Am I the only one whose son still wakes up with a poopy AND wet pull-up in the morning? He's almost 4 and has been day potty trained for over a year.

 

I'm in the exact same situation with my girls, and I have the same attitude about it as you. Idont want to push, but I would like to get them out of pull-ups if they don't really need them. We did recently catch them peeing in their pull-ups before going to sleep. They are usually awake for about 30 min before falling asleep, and we noticed that they had peed sometimes when we came in for a check/reminder to go to sleep. Anyway, I had to do some threatening of losing dolls that they sleep with, so that had stopped. Now I need to get them to get up and go pee right away in the morning. Bea has announced that she has been dry the past two mornings, so maybe there is some progress!

Shoot, I forgot to say that I wasn't really sure if they were wet in the morning because they were actually peeing in their sleep, or because they were peeing at night before falling asleep and/or in the am before taking off their pull-ups.

 

Well, we are going to have an impromptu try at underwear for Bea. I didn't realize we were out of pull-ups in the house. There's a whole box in the garage, but I'm not going out in two feet of snow to go get it. So, Bea says she's ready to try underwear. Ainsley, I'm going to squeeze into one of Caleb's overnight diapers. Wish me luck!

 

My little girls, 3 and 4, wear panties and will wake up to pee at night. Annie just turned 7 and is still in a pull up. It will come...eventually!

 

Jonathan stopped wearing pull ups the day he stopped needing them during the day. Marcus trained during the day 6 months earlier (at 3 years, 4 months) and wore a pull up at night until he was almost 5. I had it in my head to discuss with the ped if he still wet the bed at 5, but about a month before, he started staying dry. It was totally him telling me what he wanted. Be patient, it will happen. Although, I would make them go to the bathroom before they are allowed to get their pull ups on.

 

My boys turned 3 last month and both wear diapers/pull-ups at night. They are completely potty trained during the day and even take their 3 hour nap in their undies and rarely have an accident. My boys have always woke up at night and kinda "rocked" themselves back to sleep. About a week ago we figured it out that each time they wake, is when they have to go potty. We now will go in the room and ask them if they have to potty...they say yes...we go to the bathroom...and in the morning, they are still dry! I also have to cut liquids a couple hours before bedtime. Last night Colton actually woke up and we heard him on the moniotor saying "I got to potty". Now if we could just teach them to go by themselves at night The other thing that helps is we ALWAYS make them at least try to potty right before getting in bed! Good luck, I'm sure you will get things figured out soon

 

My kindergartener (a year older than the twins) still needs a pull up at night. Most days he wakes up soaked but occasionally is dry. He really just isn't physically ready to be dry so incentives don't work. I'll roll with it for now and discuss it with the ped at the six year visit in June. All my others were dry at night within six months of daytime training.

 

Kelly, how did it go last night? I would probably have tromped through two feet of snow -- anything to avoid the risk of changing sheets (my least-favorite chore).

 

It went great! Bea happened to wake up at midnight, so I had her go potty since she was up. She was up a bit earlier than normal, so I guess we'll probably lose the lngering in bed they usually do. Ainsley managed to squeeze into an overnight diaper, or else I probably would have gone out for the pull-ups.

 

Zack stays dry ALL the time. Jack wets on himself at night, so still wears a pull up. He goes about 2 nights out of the week without wetting on himself and sure as I put underwear on him he will wet the bed. Some kids wear a pull up at night longer than others.

 

My kids are 3 years and 10 months, so just a few months behind your girls.

I've got one that's dry all night, every night (DD), and one who is wet almost every morning (DS.) We cut off fluids at the same time for both, so I know it's not that. And, they both go potty right before bed, so I know it is not that.

DS has been dry some times at night and we praise that (and praise that) when he does, but I just think his body is not ready. He is a deep, deep sleeper and would not do well with a "dream pee." I think he wets in the early hours of the morning, when he just can't hold it any longer and when he is not awake enough to get up and go. I plan on letting him take what time he needs to try to night train on his own.

Good luck!

Meg (mom to 3.75 year old boy/girl twins.)