If you don't know the sex yet, do you have a preference?

For those who aren't far enough along to find out the sex, or for those who aren't finding out unitl the baby is born...do you have a preference?

I'm just curious b/c EVERYONE assumes that we want a boy since this will more than likely be our last baby. In all reality though, I am kind of hoping for another girl. I think it's b/c that's what we are comfortable with. Don't get me wrong, I would LOVE a boy thrown in the mix too Doesn't matter either way to DH or I, but if I mentino another girl to people, they think we are NUTS!

People are weird...so I just follow it with "Well, I actually hope it's a full-term healhty pregnancy this time! I prefer not to spend a month in the hospital and another 3 weeks with NICU time." That usually shuts them up

 

I am hoping for two boys. I grew up as the neighborhood tom-boy in a neighborhood of all boys. I think, I would do better with boys.

 

I don't really have a preference. My dh would like another girl. He has 3 sisters himself and has always liked the "specialness" of being the only boy in the family. I think he wants that for Jax, too. I think it would be neat for Jax to have a brother since Ava and Bella have each other.

We've only told our immediate families that we are pregnant again, but I can just imagine the reactions we'll get from others that we know. It seems to shock people that you'd every have more babies after twins. When we had Jax, I think some people assumed we were done since we had girls and a boy.

I totally agree with the "We just want a healthy baby" stance. For us, that is truly all that matters!

 

Since we have one of each so far, we have the supplies for both. I don't have a preference. I know my mom hopes for a boy (secretly) to even out the grandchildren a little more (SIL has two girls). The two we have are so different. LOL

 

I've said all along that it really doesn't matter to me. DH definitely wants a boy and I don't think I would have a clue what to do with a little boy. But we just found out that my sister is having a girl and part of me would really love to be able to give my dad his first grandson.

 

Before I found out I think I hope it would be a boy, just to have the experience of raising a boy. Now that we know it is a girl, I am very happy to be having another girl. It makes things a lot easier as far as supplies, etc. I can reuse bedding, bibs, blankets, and especially clothes (she will have one great wardrobe!). I would've had to buy a lot if it were a boy.

 

We too were kind of hoping for a boy....for a brother for my ds sake.... but we are thrilled with a girl...I've gotten used to the idea, and actually it's opened up my mind to the possiblity of having a fifth.

Amber- what your dh said about it being special to be the only boy made me feel a lot better for my ds!! My brother was an only boy, and I kind of felt sorry for him! Wow...I just realized that you just had Jax in July right????....that was really quick. I'm just surprised at how quickly you can be pg again. I knew a family who had triplets at 26weeks, and were pg again pretty much as soon as that 6 week time limit was up. They had fertility issues and were warned, but laughed b/c it took them so long, and repeated IVF treatments to get pg the first time... well, their #4 was born when the twins were 8 months adjusted age!! LOL!

 

OMG, Susanna, thank you for pointing out that I posted the wrong year of Jax's birth! Geez, that's pregnancy on the brain for ya. I corrected it. He was born in 2006, so he just turned 1 in July. Yes, that would have been too close for comfort!

Yes, dh truly does like being the only boy in his family. He has a large extended family, so he had plenty of boy cousins to hang out with. He also has such a cool understanding of women from being around so many growing up. That's one of the things that I love best about him.

 

I can't believe how many people assume we want a boy because we have gilrs. It gets a little annoying after a while!
A typical comment lately is "Oh, you're pregnanat AGAIN? Is it a set of boys this time?". People think that thye're the first to suggest the possibility of more twins/ opposit gender. I also find that people want me to "admit" that I really want a boy. They say things like "So, maybe a boy this time, huh? " As if I can just pick what I want it to be!

It really doesn't matter to me, and I think that would be obvious to people since we choose not to find out the gender! It would be awesome to have a little boy becasue we don't have one, and I've always wanted a little baby boy. But, if we have another baby girl, she will have sisters and I think that can be the most special relationship people have. Plus, we have TONS of gilr stuff. Like the PP said, as long as baby is healthy and no NICU/hospital time, it really doesn't matter!

My mother (secretely) wants me to have a boy. She makes comments all the time that I'm having a girl. I think she's trying to convince herself that it's a girl so she isn't disappointed when the baby is born, or she can be extrememly excited if it's a boy. Crazy!

 

QUOTE(Mel G @ Aug 25 2007, 12:45 AM) [snapback]379139[/snapback]
I can't believe how many people assume we want a boy because we have gilrs. It gets a little annoying after a while!


It's so funny to me. Everyone is shocked that I'm pregnant again because I already had one of each. As if that's the point of having children. All the time after the twins were born complete strangers would be like, "Oh, one of each, your done!"

This time We're kinda hoping for a boy again, but another girl would be okay too. Mason is just better socially than Maya. I'm afraid another girl would get mistreated from Maya. Whereas another boy would more likely be accepted.

 

Amber- I really didn't realize it was a mistake!! My only question was how on earth you would know you were six weeks along if you just had a baby in July!! LOL!! I thought maybe you and dh got back on the ttc boat before your six week pp was up!!! I thought...wow...that's some recovery!! LOL!!! whew... I'm kind of relieved to see that your little one is a year old already!! ha ha...

Mel- I can understand your mom's tactic... I think people just like to see things "evened" out...and it's kind of fun to imagine what a boy would be like if you just have girls... ANd I think your mom kind of has the right idea... I was so convinced that it was a boy this time that honestly I did feel disappointed that it wasn't a boy.... I wasn't upset that it was a girl, just felt like I had lost my boy... I think I would have been thrilled to have another set of b/g twins!! LOL!

My twin sister is pg with her 3rd child. She has two girls..and we are kind of hoping she has boy twins! LOL. Not just for her family, but b/c we will have 7 grandkids in the family..and if she has another girl, then my ds will be the only grandson among all those girls...so we all feel bad for him. Oh well. A prince among the flowers! Plus we've done g/g twins (my sister and I are id. twins) and we've done b/g twins, with mine...so we figure we have one more combination to experience. She's just 6 weeks pg and feeling pretty sick already...so I'm teasing her. (I think she's a little terrified over having twins....since she is my id. twin, and I did have frat twins with no fertility help!! So maybe she drops two eggs occasionally too!) Watch she'll wind up with g/g twins!!! Then we'll have 7girls and 1 boy!!! LOL!

 

QUOTE(LaRae81 @ Aug 25 2007, 02:50 AM) [snapback]379435[/snapback]
It's so funny to me. Everyone is shocked that I'm pregnant again because I already had one of each. As if that's the point of having children. All the time after the twins were born complete strangers would be like, "Oh, one of each, your done!"

This time We're kinda hoping for a boy again, but another girl would be okay too. Mason is just better socially than Maya. I'm afraid another girl would get mistreated from Maya. Whereas another boy would more likely be accepted.


Everyone thought that with us, too. We would've been happy either way, no preference. Although, I was putting some girl clothes away the other day and got sad because I don't know if we will have anymore.

 

We are not finding out and are perfectly happy with what ever we're cooking!! We have one of each already (including gear and clothes) and are just happy to be expecting another baby. To most of our friends and family, they think in this day and age of everyone finding out the sex, it is kind of cool that we are waiting to see. My mother would like to know (she NEEDS to make some blankets). DH would like to know, but he's on-board with the waiting game.