if you could would you separate...

your twins. We are finishing our basement. The girls will go downstairs and the boys will stay upstairs. The boy don't take naps because they are playing with each other, but I am just worried that they will be very scared without each other. Has anyone separated their twins in different rooms? If so how did they do? Do you think its mean to separate them in different room? We aren't separating Kendra and Maliyah in different room just the boys.

I need to know what you think.

TIA

Erin

 

my kids are separated and they are fine -- we separated them at about 6 mos for naps and at 11.5 mos for bed -- they sleep sooo much better that I'm wondering if ew need to keep it this way -- my original goal was to bring them back together for bedtime once they slept through the night consistently... They go down drowsy but awake and usually play with books for a few mins before settling to sleep, so I just don' t know what will happen if they are together.

Oh well -- my thought is that separate is better for sleep.

Good luck

Teri D

 

we had ours together till about 5 moths and then seperated. They were better apart, but still not good. At ten months we got a sleep specialist and cried them out, from then on they slept gloriously. We had to put them together a month agao because we have relatives coming for a couple of months. It has been a nightmare. They still sleep fine at night but naps have gone out the window. They used to sleep two naps at least an hour to an hour and a half each. Now they average one nap a day for an hour. My Mom says they are ready to move to one nap a day but I know they aren't because they were sleeping so well with two. Now they play and cry and throw everything out of the crib. I wish I hadn't done it but I had to. Now they will have to adapt. I would keep them apart if you have the room.

 

We seperated ours and they did just fine. They actually sleep better at night and for naps now because they don't wake each other up. They don't seem to get scared or worried or miss each other. They are excited to go find each other in the mornings when they wake up. Good luck with your decision. I guess you could always try it out and if they don't like it put them back together!

 

My two are seperated as well. But we seperated them when they were four/five months old. Like pp's have said, they sleep much better this way and are so happy to see each other in the morning. Good luck with your decision!

 

I'm curious to see responses as we are debating when to seperate the girls. The nice part about sharing is that they wake up and play together while I get a few things done. Naps can be tricky though. Addie usually wants to sit on her bed quietly and sometimes falls asleep. If you have room, it can't hurt to try.

 

My two are also separated and have been for a year now (we did it at about 7 months). And it works great. They sleep great at night and at nap time. And if one happens to wake up and cry the other one does wake up. It works well for us.

 

If I could I would separate all my kids. They do sleep through each other but it would be easier to have more room for their things.

 

I separated for naps at about 2.5 years old because they weren't sleeping anymore and were just playing. That was pretty easy and they started taking naps again soon after we did it. I wouldn't want to separate them at night though because I like that they have each other in the room. Good luck with your decision!

 

We seperate our girls at about 2 months, the doctor said we had to because it was a risk of SIDS. They said it could be bad if one would inhale the others breath. We just put them in seperate cribs though. They are in the same room and now they don't seem to wake each other up. Thye did for a long time.

 

We are looking to separate them next month when we get into our new house. I hope that they transition ok. They will be in rooms next to each other, so I think that they will probably do fine.

 

I don't think it's mean, it just depends what works best for you. I like having mine in the same room at night -- I think they find the other's presence comforting, and maybe entertains them when they wake up before we come get them. (OTOH, it seems Amy mostly talks to herself -- sometimes Sarah sleeps right through her chattering!).

We do separate them for naps because otherwise it would be a party all the time. I wish I had a bedroom for Amy to nap in, but she naps in a pack & play in our home office (which means we can't use the computers during naptime!).

 

If I could I would in a heartbeat. I have several friends with twins and some have separated them into their own room and love it. I know others who put one to sleep in thier room and then move them over at night. Otherwise there is just playing.

 

We are buying a house and a big factor was we wanted the ability for twins and our 4-year-old to each have a room... then, as we found a house and are now planning to move, I asked my hubbie if we should just leave them together for now. We split them up in separate cribs very young, maybe two months. They started sleeping through the night (many nights) at three months. Our first child had tons of sleep issues (still does, really!), so we never got into habits like always rocking to sleep, etc.

Anyway, they hit a stint a couple months ago where they kept waking each other. Actually, my girl twin would wake up, scream just until my boy twin woke, then she'd fall back happily to sleep. He would fall asleep when put in bed in moments (you can even say "sleepy," and he'll start rubbing his eyes). But if he is awoken, he has a really hard time going to sleep.

Well, we've worked through that and now they go to sleep without much fuss at all, almost always sleep all night, and they wake and coo and giggle at each other in the morning. So I started thinking why mess with a good thing? Plus, I thought the idea of them dealing with a move plus suddenly sleeping alone in a room would be tough. Also, if I put my boy down and his sister isn't there, he keeps pointing over there until she is put in her crib.

So very long answer, but I think splitting them up is a good idea, and I definitely plan to do it. This just doesn't seem like the right time. I am thinking it will be before they get into toddler beds, though, since I'm imagining they will REALLY start keeping each other up once they can get out of bed!!

 

We separated the kids at 18 months. They never even looked back. They loved having their own room, and we redecorated Hannah's room that they had previously been sharing so that it looked totally different. So they BOTH ended up feeling like they got something new and special.

If I had known how successful and easy the transition was going to be, I would have done it much sooner. They slept better and were so happy to have their own space (with their own toys even)!

 

yes, we did it when we moved.
The boys were about 1.5 yrs old when we moved and we did it and they barely seemed to notice to be honest!

 

For a while, I wanted to get a bigger house so we'd have enough bedrooms to separate Hayden and Brady. But honestly, I don't think they'd want to be separated. They love being together, and it has never affected their napping or night time sleeping. They've not been ones to lay awake and talk, but I know they like having their brother there.

 

Ours have always been together at night, but separate for naps. Sometimes, still, at almost 5, we have to move one of them to our bed until they fall asleep at night and then we move them back. They are really great night sleepers, though, and don't wake each other in the morning. They just quietly get up, use the bathroom and come and find whoever is awake. Now, if it's a weekend and their big brother is up, they won't even come wake me up! :banana:

 

We will be separating our twins next summer. We only have 2 extra bedrooms and Lauren wants to share with Evy so we will be moving Evy into Lauren's room and Henry will get his own room. I think this will work best for all of us.

 

we dont have that option.. even if we move we dont have that option..

they like being together.. my daughter is dependent on her brother..

 

We have the room but haven't separated them. They sleep through each other's fussing and seem comforted by having the other to chat with as they're winding down to sleep or getting up in the morning. On the rare occasion that one sleeps longer than the other, the one who wakes second immediately asks about the missing brother when he does wake. My mom commented yesterday that she can't imagine either one of them being happy as a singleton because they seem so attached to each other (and that they'd better marry twin girls because nobody else will get it ) They do sometimes get into trouble together but generally I think they sleep better because they share a room.

 

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your twins. We are finishing our basement. The girls will go downstairs and the boys will stay upstairs. The boy don't take naps because they are playing with each other, but I am just worried that they will be very scared without each other. Has anyone separated their twins in different rooms? If so how did they do? Do you think its mean to separate them in different room? We aren't separating Kendra and Maliyah in different room just the boys.

I need to know what you think.

TIA

Erin



We separate ours for nap time (dd sleeps in her big brother's room-he is in kindergarten) and it works out nicely. If we had enough rooms, I definitely would separate them but we only have three bedrooms. They go to sleep well at night though being in the same room.

 

First I just wanted to say HI ERIN! It's so good to see you here again! :wavey:

We don't have the space , but if you feel they are not getting the sleep they need, and you have the space, then yes, of course. I don't think it's mean--you let them be together all their waking hours right? Their body's needs for sleep take priority over being with their brother. I hope the transition goes well.

 

I'm really surprised at how many separate their twins in different rooms. Currently my girls share a room and will continue until they ask to have their own space. For us I think separating them would cause more problems.