If both are invited to the same bday party....

M&M were invited to a friend from preschools 3rd bday party. Do they each bring a gift or one combined???

 

We're not in that situation yet, but I think I would do a smaller gift from each of them or a bigger gift from them both. I know it kind of bothered me when we invited 2 sisters to Caroline's b-day in Oct. (we are good friends with them and they are only 18 months apart) and they brought one $15 gift for her. To me that is what you spend on one gift from one child. But I'll be curious to see what others actually do.

 

2 gifts. JJ & Aaron always receive a gift each from their friends, so we in turn give a gift from each of them.

 

QUOTE(Mellizos @ Nov 22 2007, 11:55 AM) [snapback]505714[/snapback]
2 gifts. JJ & Aaron always receive a gift each from their friends, so we in turn give a gift from each of them.


Same here two gifts

 

when i had dd's bday party last weekend, we invited some siblings (not twins) and they gave just one gift to dd. i think one gift is fine.

 

I absolutely believe you should bring one gift from each child. Aren't we as moms of twins always stressing to others how even though they are twins, they are still individuals? If that is the case, it should be that way in all situations, not just when it suits us. I've read many posts where mom's are disappointed because family or friends have given their twins one present instead of one present for each child, I think the reverse should also be true.

I hope I don't sound harsh, because I don't mean to be. I actually caught myself wanting to take the "easy" way (i.e. cheaper!) a few weeks ago. Since the day my boys were born, I have wanted them to be individuals that were blessed to have a twin. I wanted family and friends to treat them as two boys, not as a half of a whole. I wanted them to get their own cards and gifts and attention. But when it came to giving from them, I wanted to do a two for one. Oops. Fortunately I caught myself in my own double standard, but it was so easy to find myself in that situation.

 

My three kids are usually invited to the same parties. I usually make it a really nice gift, but not one from each child. I put all the gifts in a bag and put it from all the children.

 

For a friend from preschool, I would usually go with two gifts or one larger gift. But, when it is a family friend, I usually give one average gift. The reason for this is, lets say we have a family with kids Jim and Joe. When they come to the boys party, Jim and Joe give one gift to Marc and one to Jon, with both names on it. When we go to Joes party, he gets one gift from both of my boys, and when we go to Jims party, he gets one gift from both boys--so it works out the same--the only difference being that Marc and Jon get their gifts on the same day.

A preschool friend is different in that you most likely won't get invited to the siblings birthday party.

 

Thanks, thats pretty much what I was thinking, but oddly enough it never even occured to me until the middle of the night when I couldn't sleep and was thinking about what I needed to do and I was thinking that I needed to buy a present for this little girl that I barely know...then I was like..."wait a minute...I need to buy 2 gifts for a little girl I don't know". Then it just got me thinking, thats why I asked. If I can't find two nice ones I may go with one bigger one if its easier...
Thanks for all the help!

 

2 small gifts or one large.

 

For preschool friends I have always done two gifts. What others said about one big gift makes some sense too, but I'm already insecure about what is the expected price range for a gift and then don't want to stand out with the "big" gift for a child we don't know well. Makes most sense to me that both of my two kids at a b-day party each bring a gift--just like all the singletons there.

 

QUOTE(threebecamefive @ Nov 22 2007, 04:12 PM) [snapback]505950[/snapback]
I absolutely believe you should bring one gift from each child. Aren't we as moms of twins always stressing to others how even though they are twins, they are still individuals?


This is a good point. I haven't really thought about this because it hasn't happened to us yet. But, I'm sure it will. Thanks for posting. You got me thinking about how we will handle it when the time comes.

 

we would do one small gift from each.

 

We do both -- one larger gift or two small gifts. I agree with Sharon's line of thinking on this one.

 

My first thought was actually the opposite of what everyone else said. I would just take one gift. Granted, I don't have much experience with "friend" parties. We just alway have a family party for they kids in my family and invite a few friends to that.

In my mind, even though we may say the gift is from the kids, it is really from the parents. They are the ones who pay for it after all! I think that one gift from each family, no matter if they have one kid or 20, is perfect. I also never expect anyone to try and match a price that someone else is spending. It think it depends on how close you are to the birthday-girl/boy and how much money you have to spend. This thinking is probably partly based on the fact that we don't have much money for stuff like that.

As for us twin moms trying "stressing to others how even though they are twins, they are still individuals," I would think the same for any siblings. Twins or not.