Identical Girls

Um, sometimes I get excited. Like when I read "massive food aversion" post. Wow! Another woman experiencing almost exactly what I have been. It's still so validating although we just found out Friday- yes the reason why.... I can't eat, am in maternity clothes already..., my breasts are so big,...... was in the er for dehydration,........ was in bed for about a week straight......., was severe real morning sickness and most likely because of twins. Wow.
Then, sometimes, like last night I lay in bed WIDE awake hearing that Ultrasound Tech say, " Your gonna Kill me, your having twins." Thinking yes I am in this darkened room with her, she's got that thing on my belly, there are two babies up there on that screen moving around, Yes- I think she's talking to me.
The parents hootin and hollering, my poor 3 year old confused, and my husband with a perpertual dazed look in his eyes.
This is really scary the more time alone I have with these thoughts, two carseats, strollers, cribs, daycare fees, .... menstral cycles and hormone tandtrums, dating, and college tuitions.
The size of my belly already. The simple fact that I'm not eating meat. I've always eaten meat.
I am really in shock. I need to rant.
I don't know if I want two identical daughters, I mean how much of a seperate life will they have? Isn't that like a weird science fiction deformity? Or mutation? Like two robots?
Okay I need to calm down and see/hope/wait to hear if anyone else freaked out too.

 

Well considering my boys were conceived on BC I was just as freaked out… and I had a 10 year old boy… I knew what I was getting into… one running one way… the other would of course run the opposite… sleep… when I would finally get one down would the other wake… would I never see my pillow again?… but I wouldn’t have it any other way… I love my boys (and they are WAY better sleeps then my singleton was… we were @ 12 hrs at 12 w) and yes, 3 tuitions would equal 60k a year for elementary school!!!!… hmmm I think it’s time to move to a state that has a decent public school… I had many sleepless nights and why I will always be grateful for TS… what is the saying… misery loves company… well so do pregnant moms of twins who cant sleep…
:hug:

Elizabeth

EDIT: to say Congratulations…

 

Congratulations! Yes I freaked out. I almost started to hyperventilate on the ultra sound table. I think DH still has claw marks on his arm where I dug in my nails. You do get used to the idea. Then you realize how lucky you are. Then they come home and you worry how can you do this. But you CAN do this. It is WONDEFUL! And as Elizabeth said, you cannot imagine it any other way!

My DD turned 3 not quite a month before the boys were born. So if I could gift you anything it would be quiet time.

 

Two girls are the best--if I do say so myself And although I'm told that mine look extremely alike--we're not for sure if they are identical--but many on this site think so and they tend to be fairly accurate--they are as different as night and day. So don't worry, they'll be different!! Right now, we really do everything together--but they have their likes, and dislikes. They even have their own toys and clothes that they have laid claim to. It's really fun watching them blossom into their own personality. And although it is tough, the good times definitely outweigh the bad. I don't know if you will ever get over the anxiety of having two, because the thought of two strollers, car seats, diapers, etc, soon get replaced with something else. But there is nothing, and I mean nothing, that can replace two sets of tiny hands wrapping around you and saying "i wuv u mommy--give me kisses" right before bedtime!! Enjoy your pregnancy, it really will go by faster than you know it.

Congratulations!!

 

Congratulations on finding out twins! Identical twins are a scientific marvel (if you ask me)- it's a single egg that is fertilized and then splits to form 2 separate individuals. Very cool. My twin and I have very separate lives but we are also very close. It's a wonderful relationship to have and as a mom I think you will love watching it develop (though there will be lots of fighting along the way, but they'll quickly make up as well.) Congrats again, it's a scary prospect but believe me, once they're here, you won't be able to imagine what you life was like before you had them!!

 

Though mine aren't thought to be identical... what is it 3% chance, I had the exact same thoughts. How on earth are we going to do this. I knew b/f my dh did, the tech told me b/f he was in the room so I had lots of time to think about it.

Now that it's sunk in a little bit more, I'm more excited. Give it time

 

Thank you so much for all your encouragement and comments. It really means a lot to me. I can hear so much love in how all of you talk about your twins (or sibling). It's amazing!!! It reminds me that these ultrasound pics will become lovely little real people. Thank you!

 

MOmmaofOne I totally u/s your pain. I cried for a month. I was just like I cant handle 2 - Not to mention my Dh is deployed all the time- two babies but I prayed for one healthy baby (yes I was that specific). Now I am about to give birth and I could not be happier. I think it is just such a shock to the system you need time to really think about how your lifes gonna change. I am sooo happy for you and I know you are going to be so pleased once it has had time to sink in.

Plus with twins you get so spoiled you get so much more Dr apt and ultra sounds you are going to fall in love before you know it. Congrats and best wishes to your whole family!!!

 

There is even a name for what you are feeling - twinshock! I totally know how you are feeling, I a;ready have 2 LO's - if the twins are born in the next 3 weeks like the drs. predicted, I will have 4 children 3 years and under!
But I think it is the coolest thing ever, it took a while but now I just feel lucky!

 

:Clap: Congrats on ID girls. It is normal to feel shocked and overwhelmed by the thought of twins.

 

Completely normal. In fact, I was told it's quite normal to go back and forth between flipping out and being super excited. I would agree with this.
When they showed 2 heartbeats on the first u/s (at 8 weeks), I asked my doctor if he was joking and told him that I was flipping out. These are my first babies and I had all these ideas about my pregnancy that went out the door when I realized I would need the double stroller, extra carseats, etc.

But the excitement did come and the enthusiasm of family and friends definitely helped. It's really a neat thing and when you start having the later ultrasounds and you see them interacting with each other already.

Just take deep breaths and one day at a time.....

 

I dont have Identicals... But i totally flipped out. I didnt find out until 17.5 weeks. I told my Dr she was lying. and i cried for a week. my DD turned 4 a month after the twins were born. It has been a lot of work, but also a lot of fun! The idea will grow on you and you will love them. Having twins is one of the hardest thing i have ever done.

 

QUOTE(Chicklet @ Feb 22 2009, 08:25 PM) [snapback]1200747[/snapback]
Though mine aren't thought to be identical... what is it 3% chance, I had the exact same thoughts. How on earth are we going to do this. I knew b/f my dh did, the tech told me b/f he was in the room so I had lots of time to think about it.

Now that it's sunk in a little bit more, I'm more excited. Give it time


why do they do that? they told me first, I went into shock and then i could only think of asking her to let my husband guess so I could watch his face. Just so i could see how suprised he looked? What are they afraid we're gonna talk through it? My tech wouldn't shut up long enough to let me think!!
It's sinking in too. Let me ask you a question- today i woke up and felt so exhausted, like never before. I mean I woke up shaky and way dizzy. I'm only 12 weeks and have felt tired but not like this, like a wall of exhaustion. Is this the difference between singleton and twin pregnancies?
Thanks

 

QUOTE(MommaofOne @ Feb 21 2009, 08:24 PM) [snapback]1199907[/snapback]
Um, sometimes I get excited. Like when I read "massive food aversion" post. Wow! Another woman experiencing almost exactly what I have been. It's still so validating although we just found out Friday- yes the reason why.... I can't eat, am in maternity clothes already..., my breasts are so big,...... was in the er for dehydration,........ was in bed for about a week straight......., was severe real morning sickness and most likely because of twins. Wow.
Then, sometimes, like last night I lay in bed WIDE awake hearing that Ultrasound Tech say, " Your gonna Kill me, your having twins." Thinking yes I am in this darkened room with her, she's got that thing on my belly, there are two babies up there on that screen moving around, Yes- I think she's talking to me.
The parents hootin and hollering, my poor 3 year old confused, and my husband with a perpertual dazed look in his eyes.
This is really scary the more time alone I have with these thoughts, two carseats, strollers, cribs, daycare fees, .... menstral cycles and hormone tandtrums, dating, and college tuitions.
The size of my belly already. The simple fact that I'm not eating meat. I've always eaten meat.
I am really in shock. I need to rant.
I don't know if I want two identical daughters, I mean how much of a seperate life will they have? Isn't that like a weird science fiction deformity? Or mutation? Like two robots?
Okay I need to calm down and see/hope/wait to hear if anyone else freaked out too.


Oh, how fun it is to be back and visit the Expecting forum...Hi again everyone...I'm about 2 years out of this forum, but I want to take FULL credit for referring MommaofOne to here...she is my bestest, BEST friend in the whole world, and how ironic, that she is now having twins! All natural, big fat surprise just like it was for me, and I was so honored that she called me even before her Mom (who, let me say is a very experienced midwife!). I KNEW she would benefit from the wonderful support here, and I am so excited to share this journey with her...I'm thoroughly convinced that this is as close as we'll get to being sisters! (Did I mention our weddings were one year and one day apart and she's due on my 4th anniversary?). We both lived in hippie-ville at one point, and part of me wants to say we ate some sort of organic twin bean or something, and the cosmos have just lined up perectly! Love you Carley! :hug:

 

i totally freaked out when i found out. well - first freaked out with the positve pg test - even though we were "trying" then again when i saw those two heartbeats. then again when i went in to the hospital to have them and then again when my ob said it was time to push. funny thing is i stopped freaking out once they were born. just take it one day at a time - and dont dress them the same! good luck!

 

QUOTE(JessicaD @ Feb 24 2009, 02:05 AM) [snapback]1202702[/snapback]
Oh, how fun it is to be back and visit the Expecting forum...Hi again everyone...I'm about 2 years out of this forum, but I want to take FULL credit for referring MommaofOne to here...she is my bestest, BEST friend in the whole world, and how ironic, that she is now having twins! All natural, big fat surprise just like it was for me, and I was so honored that she called me even before her Mom (who, let me say is a very experienced midwife!). I KNEW she would benefit from the wonderful support here, and I am so excited to share this journey with her...I'm thoroughly convinced that this is as close as we'll get to being sisters! (Did I mention our weddings were one year and one day apart and she's due on my 4th anniversary?). We both lived in hippie-ville at one point, and part of me wants to say we ate some sort of organic twin bean or something, and the cosmos have just lined up perectly! Love you Carley! :hug:


Oh Jess I love you so much!!!! I love this forum, lets me be confused and scared on the inside, so on the outside I can be brave...

We can do it!!! We can do it!!!! Two tribes to raise a child? hahahahahaha! I think it was the fire hydrant that did it, some kinda revenge!!!!