I want to know how your first year is going? Is it harder then you thought? Is it what you expected? Do you have other kids? Hows night times for you? Do you get to sleep?? I have 2 kids already, I know with my first it was a shock on how little sleep I got, with my second I knew what to expect and it really wasn't bad.... This time Im expecting the worse ever!!!! Do you bring everyone shopping?? If so how?? Do you leave your house?? LOL I heard that its best to get the babies on the same schedule, is that working for you? All babies are different, how do you do it?? Are you really stressed? If you have other kids, how are they doing?? Do you feel like they arent getting the attention they had before?? Don't worry Im sure there will be more questions to come! lol
Lots of questions, i love it. My babies are almost 4 months and they are really easy. I was totally expecting the worst. They sleep through the night and hardly ever cry-now my 3 year old is a completely different story, She has just now started to accept the babies. We do go out quite a bit but i try to do it when my oldest is at dayhome. My word of advice is to get help at the beginning if you can. The first 6 weeks is tough. I was really expecting to never sleep again and have to start drinking at noon, but so far so good. Mind you, teething hasn't started yet-hahaha. You will be fine.
I feel like the very beginning was hard. But at the time, it seemed SO MUCH easier b/c I hated being pregnant at the end. At least now I can clean the bathroom or bend over. I'm in an unique situation- my DH was laid off in when I was 8 months pregnant. I got laid off after the babies were born, so we are both home with them right now. It has been wonderful to be able to go out when I need/want to. I expected that it would be hard and some days it is VERY hard- on those days DH & I look at eachother and say, "That one baby stuff might be easier"... but. I can't imagine who we wouldn't have. I love them both for such different things- they have their own personalities and endearing qualities. We don't have other kids, but we do go out as a family regularly. I often take them out without DH, too, so he can play video games/get a break. I use the snap and go & the Mommy Hook so I can hook a reusable bag to the stroller. I also will put both in a cart at places like Target if I don't need much & it's annoying to get out the stroller. At about 4 months it got really good b/c they were on a consistent schedule; before that we operated on a 24 hour clock. If laundry needed to be done at 3am & I was up with Sebastian- I did it. If I had a bad night, I'd nap at 9am, 1pm, then back to bed around 7pm (so I could be up starting at midnight). I've heard it's easier to get identical twins on the same schedule & that's what we have. I think it starts with feeding them together (although this took about a week to figure out for me to tandem BF). Then the sleeping together sort of falls into place. Or at least that's how we've approached it. I would recommend that you have a list in place of chores you hate/don't mind others tackling. With good friends, give them a meal or two that sounds good that they can bring over after you come home. If there are other people (cousins/family friends, etc) that you trust with your older kids, arrange times for 1 on 1 time for them to get special treatment as everybody who visits will want to hold the new babies. Good luck!
I want to know how your first year is going? So far so good. Is it harder then you thought? Yes it is a little harder then I thought. Hard to manage time. Is it what you expected? Not at all what I expected. Way more busy, no time to do anything. Had to learn not to worry about a clean house. Do you have other kids? I have a 2 yr old son. He makes it challenging as he doesn't understand why I cant always play with him. Hows night times for you? It was rough at first as they didn't get up at the same time, but Nathaniel started STTN at 4 weeks, and William was about 9 weeks. Do you get to sleep?? I do now! Do you bring everyone shopping?? I have If so how?? I just make sure everyone is fed and changed. Do you leave your house?? I try and go for a walk a day with the three. Doesn't always work thgough. I heard that its best to get the babies on the same schedule, is that working for you? Mine aren't on the same schedule. There are times where they will eat together, but as of now they aren't. They used to be though. William eats more often so thhat throws them off. All babies are different, how do you do it?? I just go with the flow to be honest. They let me know when they are unhappy. Are you really stressed? Some days yes, especially when my two yr old is being a ubber brat. If you have other kids, how are they doing?? Donevan is having a hard time adjusting, but he has also had a rough yr. I was on bedrest my last 3 mnths so he got shipped around lots. Two new babies instead of one, and William spent 2 weeks in the hospital, so he was used to only having 1 baby home, then all of a sudden there were 2. I just left my husband as well. So all that together has created a brat! Do you feel like they arent getting the attention they had before?? He isn't and I feel bad for that. [/quote]
Great questions! The first year is going great for us. I feel like it's getting better each day! I love being a temporary SAHM and would never go back to work if my DH would let me. ^_^ I thought it would be harder, actually (not to say that it is exactly EASY). The first month or so was the roughest for sure but things picked up significantly once they dropped their 3am bottle at about 2 months (started sleeping 5-6 hrs at night). By 3 months they were sleeping about 6-8 hrs at night and now at 5 months they are up to about 10hrs. Hallelujah!! I wasn't expecting them to start STTN so early so that is a true blessing. These little munchkins are my first kids so I am lucky I don't have a toddler or two (or more!) to deal with in addition to the twins as many other (amazing) mothers here on TS do. So unfortunately I can't give advice on how to get out of the house with 4 kids although I know it is possible as there are many who do it. My babes have been on the same feeding/sleeping/napping schedule since birth and still are. I think that is very important if you can get there. Mine are bottlefed so it is certainly easier to feed them at the same time this way (although, as the Breastfeeding forum attests, tandem BFing is possible too)! Napping schedules are slightly more flexible because it doesn't make sense to put them both down for a nap if only one is tired. I just watch for their cues and put them down ASAP. Although more often than not they go down at about the same time. They don't always wake up at the same time though which is nice because then I get a chance for some one-on-one time with the perky one. I also don't keep to a schedule so rigidly that I would wake up sleeping babies just because it's time for their bottle. Generally I let them sleep about 30-45 minutes past their bottle time if they are sound asleep (but that doesn't happen too often). Best of luck and keep the questions coming!!
