I think I may have a meltdown

I had my u/s yesterday and both boys are breech. My OB left a message and said that we will be talking about mode of delivery on the next appointment (Mar 2). He also said that the likelihood of the boys turning is unlikely.

Call me a four year old, but I think I may have a meltdown. :cry: I just am sad. I really do not want an epidural and I really want a natural birth.

Anyone have any advice for me? Words of wisdom.....

I must admit I have had waves of depression during this pregnancy. It does not last long (maybe a day or so), but I just want to be healthy for my boys.

Jenn

 

It's ok, you are allowed to have a melt-down, and you will probably feel better afterwards. I had MANY in those last few weeks. I didn't want a c-section either, but like you, had no choice(breech baby A), but the important thing is that I ended up with two healthy babies. You will too, and you will totally forget about the way they came into the world the second you lay eyes on them.

If you are experiencing a bit of depression, it couldn't hurt to mention it to your doctor.

:hug:

 

There are supposedly ways to get the baby to turn, try Googling it. As long as Baby A is head-down, you should be able to have a vaginal birth.

 

Sorry, but I know how you feel.
I was told that I wil have a c-section with my DH when at 27 weeks he turn breech and never turn back again and because this was my first baby I was crying saying I don't want a c-section I want to feel lik ea normal women and experience the birth. but I as you are had no choice. and c-section was with spinal. believe me after you see the baby you will forget about how he/she was born. and my heaving after c-section wasn't bad. Good luck to you. just think that c-section is better for kids. they would'nt have so much stress whe nthey are going through birth canal. and you will see them right away.

 

I am sorry you may not have the birth you want. I can understand how upset you are. We all have envisions and dreams of how we want things to work and when they don't go that way, it doesn't always make us childish. You will be okay if you do have the c/s a little more sore but like Becky says that pain is so minimized when you see them and hold them. Try to hang in there and maybe they will turn, you still have some time left.

 

Sorry to hear you are upset. With my first pregnancy my daughter was breech. I tried everything to turn her but she wouldn't budge and I had to have a c-section. I was so upset. I thought a natural birth was the only way for me. I felt like I was missing out on something as a woman not going through the labour thing. I understand completely how you feel. But you know what?? It doesn't matter how they come out as long as they come out safely. I know a women who didn't listen to her doctor's advice and decided against having a c-section and had a natural home birth instead. The baby became stuck and she and the baby needed to be air lifted to hospital. The baby now has brain damage. I say listen to the professionals and know that you are doing the right things by your bubs. I am having a c-section again this time around again (despite wanting to have a VBAC) due to complications and I am not even thinking about it twice. As long as I have healthy happy bubs. All the best...

Kittymum :hug:

 

I completely understand how you feel. I'm sorry that you may not be able to experience the birth you want, but there is still time to turn! I wanted a natural birth also, even took the Bradley classes. But I ended up in the hospital for 11 weeks before they were born with PTL and even had a cerclage. When it came down to it, I had to have an epidural to remove the cerclage and I was SO glad I did. Abby (baby A) came headfirst and all went well, but Ethan (baby B) turned after she came out and the doctor had to reach up there and grab his feet. If I hadn't had the epidural, I can't imagine the pain!!! I hope everything works out for you, but as PP's say, in the end, you really won't care. You'll see your beautiful babies and just be so in awe that they are finally here. That being said, don't be afraid to melt down. We all did it

 

I am sorry I know how disappointing this is....I went through labor and started to push but ended up with an emergency c-section..(my dd babyA was presenting face presentation and her heart rate was dipping. ) When I was in college I say a midwife presentation and thought I would love a water birth all natural...then when I could not even get a pregnant (had 2 rounds of IVF)and then ended up with a c-section ....even now I wonder maybe if I had just did something different if I had been stronger I would have had my natural birth....but in the end I have two beautiful babies ....so how ever it happens the end result is what is importatn....Good Luck.

 

YUP! Never wanted a c-section...then had twins. By the time they were born by c-section at 38 weeks, I was thrilled for healthy twins who would come home with me breastfeeding well..God humbled me. We take what we can get!

 

:hug: I understand completely. I planned an all natural birth for both of my prior babies. I lost it with my first when my OB told me I needed a c-section. I was preclamptic and had to deliver her ASAP. I really recommend getting the book The Essential C-Section Guide. I had planned to have a VBAC with my second, but made sure that I was prepared for a repeat c-section. It has a lot of tips for making the experience a better one.

Allow yourself a few days to mourn the loss of what you wanted and then focus on making your c-section the most enjoyable experience you can. Most doctors and hospitals will work with you to make it the best it can be.

 

If you need to have a meltdown go for it. We all need one once in awhile. I understand not wanting a C-section. I am hoping not to have one either. (I am 30 weeks today). Originally my Dr. told me that they can turn up to 32 weeks. My singleton turned at 34 or 36 weeks. I would go with what the Dr. advises. Also, like PPs said you will not care how they got here once you see your gorgeous kids. Good Luck.

 

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I'm sorry and I wanted to send some (((hugs))) your way!

 

I was pretty upset that I had to have an c-section too! Baby A was breech and Baby B transverse. But to be honest by the time I hit 37 weeks I didn't care how they came, because I was so exhausted and huge that I just wanted them here safe and sound. I did check out the site www.spinningbabies.com and tried some of their methods, but nothing worked. I also went to the chiropractor. Anyways, the c-section wasn't as bad as I thought it was gonna be. I am truly thankful that they are here safe and sound however they got here.

I hope though that your babies turn. Let us know what happens.

 

[SIZE=10pt]I completely understand not wanting a c-section as well, I too am hoping to avoid one but just keep reminding myself that though a natural delivery is my ideal, two healthy babies is my goal. Also just as an FYI, my baby B has been breech since 20 weeks and never showed signs of moving but sometime between 33 and 35 weeks u/s he did flip to vertex, so it can still happen for you too.[/SIZE]

 

I am sorry you feel this way! I was scared to death of a C Section and did not want one! I ended up having my girls vaginally and was relieved and then BAM! had emergency gallbladder surgery 6 weeks later! So, anyway you get them here safe and sound is great!

 

OI. Not getting what you'd planned stinks. I'm sorry. You have as many darn meltdowns as you want. For me, it went the exact opposite, but I still didn't get what I'd planned. It turned out so great, and I'm so glad it went the way it did! I was planning an epi-I had one with Owen, and frankly, since Gwen (Baby B)was breech I was fully planning on probably having a section and being drugged to the gills. HowEVAH.

I dilated to 10 so quickly, that I had no time for an epi, (you can bet your boots I was screaming my head off for one, as well!) and since Caroline was vertex (Baby A) I was able to deliver vaginally, and my doctor twiddled Gwen right around there like nobody's business! If you can possbily get Baby A to turn, you could get your VD after all. And take heart, my Baby A didn't turn until the DAY I delivered, and I've talked to many women whose babies do this! There's still hope! But keep in mind, all you want is for them to get here safely, and you to come through it all safely as well!
Let us know how it goes!
x
Becky

 

don't give up hope of the babies moving... at 27w my doc was talking c-section and i kept putting the conversation off. at 33w my baby B flipped and i will be allowed to attempt a vag delivery. everyone was surprised, so it can happen!

i'm right there with you, i can't imagine havng a section, but i know that if something happens during delivery it is the safest way to get them out. my doc was able to site a bunch of research of the benefits of c-sections for breech babies, so i have to trust that she wants whats best for the three of us.

on a side note... i can't understand the women who "want" a c-section. i can't imagine taking care of two newborns and recovering from major surgery.

 

QUOTE(nycmomma @ Feb 19 2009, 09:15 AM) [snapback]1196258[/snapback]
on a side note... i can't understand the women who "want" a c-section. i can't imagine taking care of two newborns and recovering from major surgery.


I wanted to respond, because this was (is) me!!! I SO wanted a c-section ... I was scared of pushing, tearing, etc ... and I was scared of delivering one vaginally and still having to have a c-section.

To be fair though, I have had a few major abdominal surgeries, so I felt like that was more comfortable for me, knowing what to expect and all.

My Baby A was breech and Baby B was transverse, so I basically had no choice ... but my recovery was really a cake walk. I guess it depends on the person, your threshold for pain, etc. But I was up every day with the kids when we came home (and we all came home together 4 days after birth). I took care of them, and I went up and down the stairs (more than I should have) but really, I didn't even realize it. I just took my pain pills, and my recovery was pretty smooth.

To the OP, good luck! I know that it's hard ... hopefully the babies will turn, and you will get the birth you want ... but like others have said, trust us that once those babies get here safe and sound in your arms, the method of delivery won't matter of all!!

 

QUOTE(caba @ Feb 19 2009, 09:22 AM) [snapback]1196270[/snapback]
I wanted to respond, because this was (is) me!!! I SO wanted a c-section ... I was scared of pushing, tearing, etc ... and I was scared of delivering one vaginally and still having to have a c-section.


I was this way too! My recovery from the c-section wasn't bad at all and I was so happy to have two healthy babies, the method of delivery wasn't that much of an issue with me. Just take your pain meds on schedule. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

 

me three!! I realllllly didn't want to have a vaginal birth, scared to death of it, and really didn't want to have one of each (a vaginal birth and a c-section). And honestly, the worst part of the c-section didn't have to do with the surgery at all, but with my sorta allergic reaction to the morphene that they gave me.

I was up and walking around by myself within 5 days. The first 3 were in the hospital, the last two were at home but everyone was there helping me out, so it wasn't so bad. Day 7 Royce was jaundiced so I took them for their first walk in the stoller around my neighborhood and didn't come home for 20 minutes. Everyone freaked out that I was missing for so long by myself with the kidlets, but it felt so good to be up and about.

I would have to say within 2 weeks I was perfectly normal pain-wise and able to get up and down and pick up the kids with no issues whatsoever. (And to be honest, I'm not exactly "healthy" if you know what I mean.)

 

:hug: I am sorry that you are feeling this way. It is hard when you are looking forward to things going a certain way, and they don't work out as such. The ultimate goal is that you end up with a healthy you and TWO healthy babies. I hope everything works out how you want it to! :hug:

 

I too have to have a C-Section! I have had to previously, at first I was a little let down, but now I have a date and I am soooo READY!!

 

thanks to those of you who have responded to my comment about "wanting" a c-section... i think i'm scared of the idea of surgery. i know in the end, that if thats what's best for my babies I'll have no problem agreeing to one. so much of it's in God's hands at this point, i'm just praying for healthy babies and the rest will work itself out.

 

:hug: You break down all you want! I am 35 weeks and Baby A has turned vertex back to breech twice in the last 6 weeks! ANYTHING is possible, but right now I am due for a c-section too and terrified for myself and for them. I go to prenatal yoga once a week and I think that is what is creating the constant change. I always feel tremendous movement the day after. One thing I wanted to advise though is to request from your doctor to have a tech do an ultrasound before your surgery if you have it. That is what I am doing - so even if there is a scheduled date, the c-section would be changed to an induction if Baby A was in place. Good luck and lots of hugs!!!!

 

Add me to the "want a c/s" group! Even if I hadnt' had 2 previously, with twins there are so many more risks of complications that I would probably chose to have a c/s if my dr would let me. Just seems like the safer option to me.

And for the record, I did labor with my son, 12 hrs on pitocin. Ended up with a semi-emergency c/s. The recovery was hell because I had to recover from an overnight labor, jumped up hormones AND surgery. The only thing I didn't have was the vaginal delivery part. But everything was swollen and sore from the pitocin and contractions.

My recovery from my daughter (planned c/s) was a breeze. Up walking on my own within 24 hrs, and showering within 30 hrs. Went home 2 days after my c/s with my dd, actually asked my ob to let me go home early.

I don't blame you for being scared of one at all, it is surgery, but healthy babies should be first in your mind, however they come into the world! :hug:

 

I wanted to have my babies naturally and ended up having a C-section 7 weeks early. I am lucky I had healthy babies and am very thankful for modern medicine. The success story of the day is healthy mom/healthy babies. Don't beat yourself up if you have a C-section. It's not worth it. I have several friends who still regret things that happened during their labor etc. It's the day your children will be born. Try to focus on the joy of that. None of really have any control how the birth will turn out. I'm sure several of us understand that things may not always go as planned. Twins certainly teach that lesson.

 

I understand (except for the no epi part...after three forceps deliveries, I'm thankful for the epi) about not wanting a c/s. I was so scared of that and really did not want one at all. I want to tell you that it's not too late for those babies to turn on their own. Both my boys (and they were relatively big) flipped from breech to vertex at 35 weeks!! I can happen to you.

I attempted to go completely natural with Becca but after pushing for quite sometime it became apparent I was going to be doing it for hours so I asked for the epi. Good thing I did because she was enormous and had shoulder distocia. The mw had to call the OB in. She thought for sure a c/s would be needed but the OB surprised her and said we could probably do forceps since i was so close. Thannk God I had the epi for that. I was only my mw's 2nd forceps in 10 years of experience and the poor first lady had no epi. OUCH. I still find it funny I was closer to a c/s with a singleton than with my twins.

 

So glad to see that you got lots of great responses, Jenn. You still have lots of time left and those boys may decide to give you the ole heave ho and decide to flip around and you may have the vaginal delivery you want. But if not, it's not all that bad, as many have already said. Lucky for you, you have me--big sis--that has been there and done that, too. Just as a pp said, you are definitely entitled to be anxious about a c-section--it is major surgery!!

We all have expectations of what we think our delivery is going to be like and when those thoughts get turned upside down it's hard to take it at first--but hang in there--and remember I'm always here!! :hug:

 

well - I was told by my yoga instructor to not be too attached to a particular type of birth because it may be out of your hands. as hard as that is. i am going to have a high-risk C section myself. i am on bedrest and struggling to remain pregnant (30 weeks on sunday) i had to let go of my dreams of an all natural birth at 22.5 weeks when i ended up in the hospital. now i dream of healthy babes. good luck to you - as hard as it is - hope you can adjust and hey stranger things have happened and maybe those little ones will turn for you! :mellow:


QUOTE(Jenn Bland @ Feb 18 2009, 07:31 PM) [snapback]1195659[/snapback]
I had my u/s yesterday and both boys are breech. My OB left a message and said that we will be talking about mode of delivery on the next appointment (Mar 2). He also said that the likelihood of the boys turning is unlikely.

Call me a four year old, but I think I may have a meltdown. :cry: I just am sad. I really do not want an epidural and I really want a natural birth.

Anyone have any advice for me? Words of wisdom.....

I must admit I have had waves of depression during this pregnancy. It does not last long (maybe a day or so), but I just want to be healthy for my boys.

Jenn

 

I was really nervous too. My babies would not turn around so I knew that I would have a C/S. I had natural delivery with my other two and was afraid of the epidural and the surgery and recovery. I have to say that it was so much easier than a vaginal birth. It was not painful at the moment and wasn't much worse after either. As long as you take your pain meds when your supposed to it is fine. The babies came out without any stress and I was able to see them right away and hold them briefly. After they fixed my incision I went back to my room and the babies came in shortly after. If I had to do it again, I would definitely have a c/s again. Good luck and don't worry the dr's know what they are doing. However the babies are delivered, they will be here and you will have done a great job.

Jen

 

Iunderstand not wanting a c-section. I had one with my first ds. I found an ob when I was pg with the twins who supported vbac. I was so excited when he said ok let's try it. All through my preg I thought I would be able to do vbac. When my water broke in the middle of the night, I thought this is how it feels to deliver like normal ppl. Well I was given pitocon to speed things up alittle. I was so excited. Then 13 hrs later both babies started going into fetal distress and heart rates started dropping. I had a spinal block and ended up with a emergancy c-sec. I forgot all about wanting a vbac and was just happy the babies were ok. It was not that bad. You kind of forget about the delivery and just worry about the babies. I don't feel like I missed out on anything special because my delivery was special- it gave me 2 healthy beautiful babies.
Have your melt down and get it off your chest. Scream alil and then you will feel better. And remember any way they come into this world will be special. You forget everything when you see their lil faces.
GOOD LUCK and HANG INN THERE