I think i have a bully!

Keigin has always been about 1-2 lbs bigger than Kaylin, and lately i have noticed that she is little bit of a bully!! i know that she doesnt have a clue that is what she is doing, but i cant help but feel bad for Kaylin!! Keigin will take any toy that Kaylin picks up to play with, she steam rolls right over her on the floor, and she is always scooting after her trying to pull on her, or bite her feet!! Should i keep correcting her at such an early age, or just let Kaylin eventually learn how to defend herself? I dont want to make Kaylin into a weenie by overprotecting her, but i dont want Keigin growing up thinking its okay to bully. does this make any sense or am i rambling???? anyone have advice or a similar situation??

 

That is totally what happens in my house. DS takes things from DD and climbs on her pulls her hair.. Ect. The only time i correct it is when DD is crying. (when he is hurting her or crawling on her) Other than that she has learned to defend herself. She now takes back her toys (they "fight") and she takes things from him.

I think they are going to fight all their lives..


ETA: I added you on myspace..

 

If you start correcting now just be prepared to do it for a very long time. Although each day there is now a different bully. They eventually figure out how and what pushes each others buttons and love to get a reaction. Hang in there. They will learn to live together at some point, right?

 

[SIZE=10pt]Our two take toys from each other ALL day long. Some days they actually laugh at each other when they 'steal' the others toys...almost like a game "I take it from you, you take it from me!"

DS likes to "steam roll" over DD ~ again, some days she laughs at it...other days she screams. I figure it's going to be like this for years to come

April [/SIZE]

 

I dont let anyone steal in our house. If they do something wrong they are corrected. Fighting is not aloud in our home. We use a 3 step process that goes stop, talk, go get mommy or daddy... That way they learn how to stop and be angry or fustrated but not sin, talk in a nice but firm way, if that doesn't work they come get us and we fix the problem. I have found it gives them a system to deal with a stolen toy or a push or an unkind word.

Quite often you will walk by a room and hear... Remember stop, talk and go get mommy... Or daddy!!!
all 5 of our children love each other very much and all prettymuch play together very well. Thank God!!!!!! LOL

 

atleast i know i am not alone!!

 

My DS James is definitely the bully!! He takes everything from Jack, if he wants to sit with mommy he just pulls Jack off my lap. He pulls his hair, pushes him, sticks his fingers in his eyes :huh: . Every once in a while Jack will get really fed up with it and fight back but for the most part he just gives up whatever toy he is playing with and moves on to something else. They have switched from time to time and Jack has been more of the bully. I just do my best to intervene when James is hitting or pushing but with the toys I just let it go. I do my best to explain to James that he can't do things like that hoping that eventually he will understand, but they are pretty little right now and I think a lot of it is just a natural process, just my opinion.

 

My boys take turn being the bully... Its usually Austin though. They steal eachother suckies ALL the time though. Even if they already have one in their mouth!!

Shannon

 

Lily has always beat up on Jack and taken his toys, etc... I was thankful for this because he is about 4 lbs bigger than her and i dread the day that he gets so fed up that he turns around and bops her one. I was just letting the toy taking thing go until lately we have been playing with the two year old down the street and LIly is starting to grab things out of her hand and will cry if I try to get her to give them back. Based on this I am now sort of trying to show Lily that we do not take things. It really is not working though !

Jack is sort of initiating wrestling now which they both used to love but now Lily is getting mad because she cannot get his big old body off of her. I just let that go unless someone gets upset. Lily also likes to hit although it is more like a pat (she started doing it with the dog and I think it is her way of petting) so I am trying to show her how to pet both her dog and her brother more gently.

 

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Lily has always beat up on Jack and taken his toys, etc... I was thankful for this because he is about 4 lbs bigger than her and i dread the day that he gets so fed up that he turns around and bops her one. I was just letting the toy taking thing go until lately we have been playing with the two year old down the street and LIly is starting to grab things out of her hand and will cry if I try to get her to give them back. Based on this I am now sort of trying to show Lily that we do not take things. It really is not working though !

Jack is sort of initiating wrestling now which they both used to love but now Lily is getting mad because she cannot get his big old body off of her. I just let that go unless someone gets upset. Lily also likes to hit although it is more like a pat (she started doing it with the dog and I think it is her way of petting) so I am trying to show her how to pet both her dog and her brother more gently.

:rotflmbo: i promise...i am laughing with you not at you!! that sounds pretty cute, KWIM. how old are they??