I NEED the TALK!

Please yell at me. Tell me I'm nuts. Tell me all the bad stuff that goes wrong at 35 weeks b/c I don't know how much longer I can take this!

I always wanted to make it to 37 weeks since day 1. I had a preterm baby (DD came at 35w5d) and her reflux was horrible. I DONT want that again but I feel like I'm slowly dying here. No one understands I just get the "Well I went 3 or 4 weeks over due and I lived" speech or "I delivered a 9lbs baby". IT'S NOT THE SAME! I can't walk anymore without wanting to scream. I can't eat b/c I don't have room. Baby B is so far up in my ribs I can't even talk without sounding like I just ran around the block! I'm on modified bedrest from mild pre-e and I'm going cage crazy! I can't go anywhere or do anything to keep my mind off the pain. I've read other posts about how bad it was after 34 weeks but since I had it so easy the first 33 weeks I figured I'd skip the "I'm dying stage".

My family keeps trying to talk me into trying "natural" ways to get them out. Since I am already 2cm it might work but I don't want preemies! My c-section is set for 38w1d (Dec. 14th) and I think I will pass out before I make it I hurt so bad. I am really starting to think about walking, caster oil or even SEX just to get them out. Please. Please. Please talk me out of it!

 

I'm only 24 weeks so I don't have anything to offer besides my support! I wish you all the best and am sorry that you are feeling so much discomfort. Keep us posted!!

 

I am just visiting this forum (dropping in here.)I am sorry you are in pain. I remember the pain well. Ok here goes. DON'T DO IT! It will give you preemie babies, who may or may not have complications. Think of 2 babies in the Nicu for a month (or even longer), until they hit 38 wks. Go visit the NICU, see the preemies. Think of your precious babies being in there instead of safely with you. Then think of the possibility of having two colicky, sickly babies. Talk to your Dr. and see what you can take for your pain. Good luck.

 

Jennifer, :hug: :hug: I've been there and you are right, it's not easy at all. :hug: All the stories you are getting from people aren't going to help, it will only make you want to hurt them. I wish I knew what to say... just think of your little babies and how they need to be in there for just a bit more. :hug: That was about the only thing that kept me going. :youcandoit: I know you can.


:grouphug: It's all worth it in the end.

 

:hug: I'm sorry you are hurting! What I wouldn't give to have made it one more week with my babes! We spent 2.5wks in the NICU...you've been there and done that with DD....you KNOW you don't want to do it again! Keep your chin up! The chaos will be home soon enough enjoy your "couch" time Make your goal for 36wks and let the countdown begin from there....so really 1 more week...YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

 

You're doing great, and you have to hang in there. You know you have to and you will! I've been there, and I've done it. I had such an easy pregnancy but the last 3 weeks (35 weeks +) were bad ... I just took it day by day, and I wanted to be proud of myself, by doing the best I could, and the best that I could do was making it til 38w2d, my scheduled induction date, now almost 3 years ago on November 27. They were 7lbs11oz and 7lbs10oz, so I've been there, I've done that, and it's not easy but soooooooooooooo worth it! I can look at myself in the mirror and say that I did everything I could, and give them the best possible start. As long as you can say to yourself and did everything you possibly could, whether born early or full term ... you'll be happy to look into that mirror.

In the end what's 3 more weeks on a life time ... I know when you're in the middle of it, it looks like forever, but looking back ... I can't even remember very well.

You're getting there, and you're doing great, and it will be worth it!

Hang in there!

 

:youcandoit: Yes, you CAN!


My only goal was to leave the hospital WITH my babies & I did that. I cannot tell you enough how happy I am that I did.


35 wks is a craps shoot - they may or may not need NICU time. Whatever you can do to avoid that will be worth it.

Do you have friends who can spend a little time with you? Spoil yourself with treats - food, books, movies....whatever YOU want. Anything that will make the time a little more pleasant. I made sure I got waxed & had a nice pedicure b4 I had mine. :good:

Best of luck!

 

Jennifer, I know it's hard, but hang in there. :hug: I can tell you that having 2 babies in the NICU is not fun. The hardest thing I ever had to do was leave the hospital without my babies. :cry: I am one of the lucky ones that had preemies with absolutely no lingering issues, but not everyone is so lucky. And even at 35 weeks they may not be ready to be born. Okay I am done. I know you know that it is best for them to stay inside you a bit longer. Hang in there. :hug:

 

:youcandoit: :youcandoit: :youcandoit: :youcandoit: :youcandoit:

I delivered my mono-di boys at 35w 1d and they spent 7 days in the special care nursery, you don't want that. You can make it, you can, you can, you can!! :hug:

 

Hi there,

Well I'm 37 weeks today and have been in the same boat as you in terms of feeling like I just can't do it anymore...been feeling that way for the last two weeks or a little more. But guess what?! It's only a few weeks (really, I know you want to strangle me but it's not too far away!) and now that I'm at 37 weeks despite my pelvis feeling like it's splitting open, breathing like I've just finished a marathon 24/7, barfing acid into my mouth all day long, getting no more than 30-45 mins of sleep at a time, having headaches and nausea...the list goes on...but wait I was saying that despite that I know that now I only have one week to go and that my babies are happy and safe in my belly and that VERY soon I'll be able to sleep on my stomach again (if only between breastfeedings), eat without fear of heartburn or vomiting, breathe, walk, all of the things that I miss! And on top of it I"ll be able to go home with two healthy babies.

Just keep your focus, it WILL be over soon. Two weeks ago I was ready to beg my OB for another option to get them out early, but I stuck it out and am feeling so blessed that I have almost made it to 38 weeks. It's an amazing gift that we can give our babies!

If you need someone to vent to or just to commiserate with you feel free to PM me.

 

I'm in the same boat right now. I'm 36w3d - my legs and feet are swollen - I'm not comfortable in any position. Here it's 4am and I can't sleep. Every night is like this. So - I can only tell you what I'm doing - and it's taking it one day at a time. Also, I think about people that have it worse and get through it. I think about my cousin who has cancer and is going thru Chemo - she is probably feeling horrible, sick and depressed. So, when I think about that - I feel like I can't give up - because I wouldn't want someone else to. Hang in there!

 

It's so hard. :youcandoit: You are doing wonderfully... one day at a time. At this time, focus on your grooming- after all at 36 weeks they don't stop labor (it varies, but I believe that's right...). So it's time to get a haircut one day... pedicure the next. Then a pregnancy massage 2 days after that. Getting these things done aren't just a fun diversion- do you want messed up hair in the hospital shots? I inadvertantly made it into our birth announcements... glad I had a haircut! Another thing is- where are you on the babies' room, birth announcements & baby books? In the last weeks I created my birth announcements online (Walgreens), got the envelopes from Walgreens & addressed & stamped them, then DH & I filled out baby books with all of the back story.

Finally, at 37 weeks I decided they were full-twin term & I wanted them OUT. Prior to this, I felt the way you do- just guilty at the thought 'cause it's not time. But at 37 weeks I was done. So I did everything you could think of & just got some good BH contractions. I gave up on Labor Day Monday (told everybody I didn't want to be in labor on Labor Day) as my C-Section was scheduled for Wednesday (38 weeks). Sure enough, my water broke. :laughing: My boys were born on Labor Day- & my little boy was small for gestational age, with low blood sugar. Both had a decent case of jaundice. My big baby had a hard time latching on at first. The other thing was their hiccups. I had the steroid shots at 30 weeks, but at birth, both had the hiccups ALL THE TIME. It cleared up within a couple of weeks- when a singleton would be born normally. I think this is due to them being born 'near-term'. My boys did not visit the NICU. But they were a challenge and were just ready to be born almost full term. I can't imagine if I would have rushed things along at 35 weeks.

Stay well.

 

You poor thing. I cannot relate at all to how you are feeling since I am only in my fifteenth week, BUT, I can relate to struggling with things and wondering how you are going to survive to reach a goal that is weeks or even months away. The best advice I got was take it a day at a time (or some days one hour at a time). It's can be overwhelming to try to reach your big goal without acknowledging the necessary smaller accomplishments you will make along the way. When you set mini-goals leading to the big goal it gets a bit more manageable. And guess what? You've already made it one more day - almost twenty four additional hours. Now, do it again. I bet you will surprise yourself with what you can accomplish.

YOU CAN DO IT! Good luck.

 

Hugs to you. I felt the exact same way the last part of my pregnancy. I begged my OB to take them out two weeks earlier because she was leaving on vacation and they were surely big enough Vince spent the last few months wedged under my rib, every time I sat Ian would kick me in the bladder. I was huge I woke up took a shower and was ready for a nap. The morning arrived to have the csection (Ian was not head down and baby A) they called as we were leaving and said I could not come in yet. I broke down and cried. But, when they arrived, it was so worth it. They had no problems, you forget that you were soooo uncomfortable. But had they come earlier when I wanted I am not sure how big Ian would have been. He was 5 lbs 14 oz as it was, I know theres have been born smaller and been okay but that is soo small and each week sooner they come the chances for problems increase.

You will make it. Good luck and happy thoughts. Imagine how wonderful it will be to have them here during the holidays(assuming you celebrate) And honestly it is still easier to carry them two at a time inside then outside-lol

 

You are doing a fantastic job, momma! Great to get so far, and to know that you've got to keep doing it. Keep it up!

Make sure to get lots of distraction in - grooming is a great idea, but whatever works for you. Video games? Dirty books? Something that you can use as total escapism.

FWIW - I could not have survived my last few weeks without compression socks. Maybe that would help. And I've heard pools are wonderful. I only got in once, but did like it. Find yourself one.

And just live day to day. Each extra day is a great gift to your babes, and the whole family. Good job!

PS - Here's the "talk" part. Plenty of moms would be thrilled to make it to 35 weeks. 35 weeks, and well everything before 37, 38 or 39 weeks, I'd say it's about risk. You could have perfect babes at 35 weeks. Or they could be in the NICU for a short time. Or they could be lower weight than born at term. Or they could have breathing and/or feeding issues. They need you, and need to be inside as long as they can. Keep it up and give them the best start you can!

But also talk to your doc and see what can make you more comfortable.

:clapping:

 

Thank you so much everyone. :grouphug:

I think I just really needed to hear it. Most people don't understand and just brush me off and say "get over it" but I know most of you are or did go through what I am. The hardest part is the bedrest. It was easier when I could go out to a movie or the store and take my mind off things but I can't leave my house except for Dr.'s appts. So I can't really do anything except sit here and think about the pain.

I have a 2 year old and I'm stuck watching Dora all day. I love to read but with a 2 year old I don't have the time. We are rebuilding our home and living with family. So I don't have a nursery to do or anything like that. We finished all the final stuff weeks ago incase they came very early. My Dr. had told me that with my history I had about a 5% chance of making it to 38 weeks. So even though I wanted to make it to 37 weeks I never thought I would see 34 weeks let alone half way to 36 weeks!

I am really trying to take things one day at a time. That seems to make it go faster. I'm hoping with Thanksgiving tomorrow it will help keep my mind off things for a day or two.

From the bottom of my heart thank you all so much. This pregnancy has been so long and hard but you girls always have an answer, a shoulder to whine on or the reality check I need. :thanks:

 

Jennifer,

I so totally understand your pain. Trust me. I was INDUCED at 38 weeks and 2 days. I was beyond miserable the last six weeks! EVERYTHING HURT. I cried a lot, my poor hubby wanted me to deliver just so I would stop freaking out! And yes, everyone has to tell you stories about how they felt delivering a large baby, etc...., so totally not the same AT ALL! I also have a two year old, so again, I can totally relate. My two year old was five weeks early, so I honestly didn't consider going full term with twins, but low and behold, I had to be induced. All I can say is, there ARE people who truly know what you are going through and we EMPATHIZE and SYMPATHIZE with you. But, you can do this and of course you will. It will be over soon enough, I promise! Hang in there sweetie!!! Hope to read your birth story soon. Take care mama!