I miss them!

Okay, I'll admit that I haven't been good about bedtime with the girls. We've always tried to put them down at or about the same time each night. We also do a bath, jammies & a bottle. But once they're asleep, I've been putting them in the PNP or on a blanket on the floor so they could be in the living room with us. Then when we go to be, we've taken them with us to their cosleeper. I know I know. I'm awful.

Anyway, this week, we've been putting them down in our room each in her own bed (one in the cosleeper and on in the PNP) and then coming back into the living room without them to go about our evening. I know its the right thing to do, but i ABSOLUTELY HATE IT! :cray:

Our monitor isn't very sensitive at all, so I'm constantly going to our room to check on them. But it's not just that...I really just miss them. I miss being able to look over at them anytime I want. I think I've been able to do that pretty much 24/7 for the last 6 months (unless I'm at work). I know it isn't right to keep them in here and disturb their sleep to take them to bed with us. And I know I'm supposed to just suck it up and miss them and get over it. Do you ladies have any advice? Am I the only one who got into this bad habit? Ugh! I hate it. I feel like a piece of me is missing. Like when you take off a ring you've worn for years.

Now i'm just rambling...but thanks for "listening".

Laura

 

I know what you mean. I miss them after they go to bed. They don't always sleep through the night and sometimes will wake up and have another bottle about 12. I feel good when they do. Another opportunity to hold them. Worse even is that sometimes they are asleep and I keep on holding them for a little while. I think they won't always be this little. They won't always stop to be held.
Even when they were little babies and were waking up 3-4 times during the night I still didn't mind. I would love looking out the window to the stars, the mood or a sunrise holding a baby. Everything goes so fast that we should be able to hold every moment in our heart.
i'm getting used to their sleeping and not needing me that much but I miss them. I'm sure you'll get used to the new routine when you're ready to.

 

Our have always slept in their cribs in their own room since birth. But I can understand the sadness. I know that there are some nights that I would much rather just hold and cuddle them while they sleep. And have even had the thought of well maybe we could all take a nap in the "big bed" (our bed) But I know thats not whats best for them so I dont. You are completly normal! You carried those two babies in your body for so long and have been right by their sides their whole lives so of course it will be hard to be away from them. It will be okay and soon enough you will love the freedom and alone time you and DH can have while they are sleeping. :hug99: Oh and about the monitor if they really NEED you, you will hear them.

 

Its so strage there are times during the day when all i want is to get out of the house ALONE for some me time.
but when i do i just want to get my arrons done so i can get back home to the family your not alone

 

:hug99: That's so sweet! :wub: I miss my kids when they are sleeping too...sometimes.

 

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Its so strage there are times during the day when all i want is to get out of the house ALONE for some me time.
but when i do i just want to get my arrons done so i can get back home to the family your not alone


me too!

Alyson

 

It's no strange. I always miss them when they are being good (which is sleeping of course ). It's hard to break a habit of being with them, I know. You are doing a great job though. Keep up the good work Mommy!

 

This is my first post...so, I have no idea if I'm doing this right! :unsure: Anyway...just noticed you are from AK. I'm from here too and our twins are only 4 days apart! My boys were born on 1/26 at 36 weeks on the nose! There were a set of girl/girl twins born on 1/30 (my discharge date) at AK Reg....that is not you is it? Just curious... Before we left, the nurse in LD came by and said...we just had another set of twins! Two in one week! I guess they had not had twins for awhile.

We JUST moved our boys out of our room (they both slept in the Arm's Reach co-sleeper attached to our bed) last weekend. They are doing pretty well in there. But, I check on them no less than 30 times per night. I am getting my exercise walking up and down steps! I work full-time and I think I get less sleep now than I did when they were tiny...simply because I check on them so often!

I miss them SO much at night. My husband and I go in their room and just stare at them because we think they are just so cute! ardon: It is hard, especially when you are working, because you don't get to see them as often as you want!

Carrie

Mom to Finn & Reid 1/26/07

 

This is my first post...so, I have no idea if I'm doing this right! :unsure: Anyway...just noticed you are from AK. I'm from here too and our twins are only 4 days apart! My boys were born on 1/26 at 36 weeks on the nose! There were a set of girl/girl twins born on 1/30 (my discharge date) at AK Reg....that is not you is it? Just curious... Before we left, the nurse in LD came by and said...we just had another set of twins! Two in one week! I guess they had not had twins for awhile.

We JUST moved our boys out of our room (they both slept in the Arm's Reach co-sleeper attached to our bed) last weekend. They are doing pretty well in there. But, I check on them no less than 30 times per night. I am getting my exercise walking up and down steps! I work full-time and I think I get less sleep now than I did when they were tiny...simply because I check on them so often!

I miss them SO much at night. My husband and I go in their room and just stare at them because we think they are just so cute! ardon: It is hard, especially when you are working, because you don't get to see them as often as you want!

Carrie

Mom to Finn & Reid 1/26/07

 

This is my first post...so, I have no idea if I'm doing this right! :unsure: Anyway...just noticed you are from AK. I'm from here too and our twins are only 4 days apart! My boys were born on 1/26 at 36 weeks on the nose! There were a set of girl/girl twins born on 1/30 (my discharge date) at AK Reg....that is not you is it? Just curious... Before we left, the nurse in LD came by and said...we just had another set of twins! Two in one week! I guess they had not had twins for awhile.

We JUST moved our boys out of our room (they both slept in the Arm's Reach co-sleeper attached to our bed) last weekend. They are doing pretty well in there. But, I check on them no less than 30 times per night. I am getting my exercise walking up and down steps! I work full-time and I think I get less sleep now than I did when they were tiny...simply because I check on them so often!

I miss them SO much at night. My husband and I go in their room and just stare at them because we think they are just so cute! ardon: It is hard, especially when you are working, because you don't get to see them as often as you want!

Carrie

Mom to Finn & Reid 1/26/07

 

Whoops! I guess I need to work on my posting capabilities!!! Sorry for the repeated posts...I don't know how to delete them. I'll get the hang of it eventually.

:unsure:

 

I know how you feel.. With my DD i dont think I put her down for the first 3 months. She even slept on my chest..

 

It's not strange. I miss mine too, when they're asleep. DH is always threatening (jokingly) to go get one out of bed and just cuddle her for awhile.

But I do agree that it's time for them to learn to sleep in their own beds. You have a good window of opportunity right now -- if you wait too much longer, first of all it will be a lot harder for them to sleep in the living room with all of the activity, and secondly they will get used to you being right there, and it will be much harder to switch.

If having a better monitor would make the transition easier for you, go out and get one. If you really just need to go up and check on them frequently, don't feel guilty about it -- you will probably find yourself doing it less & less as time goes on (and don't feel guilty about that either!).

I bet you'll be surprised at how nice it is to have the house and some time to yourself and DH, once you get used to it. And having better sleepers will totally pay off in the long run. You do NOT want to have toddlers who demand to go to sleep in the living room and be carried to bed later.