I am having some major issues with sciatica and I just want to cry. I have been to my chiropractor twice this week, nothing is helping. I'm laying here on my side with a heating pad draped on my tush trying to get some relief. The worst part is my husband is getting upset that I can't do much of anything. I think if I weren't working then I could do a lot more but I'm so tired from working full time (more than, it's tax season) and then trying to get anything done at home when I can barely walk by then. Oh, and just for fun... I just noticed my ankles and calves are starting to get a little swollen. I can do this, right? I can make it 5 more weeks of work and 12 more weeks of pregnancy, can't I? I just want to work through February so we can get some money saved after house repairs ate up our baby savings... and I want my babies to get to grow and mature to at least 37 weeks. This is getting harder faster than I thought it would.
Yes, you can do it. I worked until 35 weeks as an attorney (with ridiculous swelling). Everything hurts at the end, but it goes away upon delivery (or upon epidural). My advice would be to b!tchslap your husband. I'm sure he's a lovely man, but acting like you are a wuss when you are pregnant with twins is not nice. A twin pregnancy is no joke, and he needs to be empathetic.
I am sorry you're having a tough time. Around 25 weeks is when I started to get really physically uncomfortable too, and I ended up getting out of work at 26 weeks? Something like that.. in the short term, just take things day by day, hour by hour and get through the day. And tell your husband to buck up. A few extra dishes and laundry is not going to kill him.
You sure can do this!! :Clap: I worked up until 34 weeks and it was NOT fun at all. Swelling, sciatica, all day morning sickness, hip separation, you name it...it SUCKED. But I did it! My biggest advice, take it as easy as you can at night. I saved the housework/laundry for the times when dh was around to help. When I got home at night, I sat on my tush. I wanted to bake the babies as long as I could. It's going to get a lot tougher, but just think about the health of the babes. :hug:
Oh, he's not fussing at me or anything... I can just tell he's frustrated having to do everything. I'm just under 4'10" so I haven't been able to get the wet clothes out of the washer or dry clothes out of the dryer for awhile. I don't do the dishes often either. I just wanted to get the house more put together before I was totally out of commission... I wanted to make it as easy as possible on him since he's also working full time and doing most of the taking care of our daughter. I know I need them to stay in there, but when you have so long to go and you can't even sit down comfortably it's very discouraging.
Ugh, I remember those days! I was about as far along as you as an accountant during busy season as well. I finally took myself out of work at 32 weeks at the end of February. It's a lot of stress and my stomach was constantly cramping up and rock hard all the time while at work for 14 hour days. I just didn't want to risk it anymore. By the time I got home I would be absolutely exhausted and had trouble functioning. I just had to get in bed and have my husband bring me dinner - and it was worse than the first trimester tiredness all over again. I felt shaky and awful, like whatever I was managing to eat during the day was being consumed and used up by the babies instantly, and nothing was left over for me. And people at work did not understand just how different a twin pregnancy is and what a toll it takes on you - I was getting so tired of hearing stories from my boss about when she was pregnant with her kids like it was the same. Don't feel guilty! Do what you need to do for you and those babies!
HUGS. You can hang in there for a few more weeks! You really can. I'm only 3' taller than you and I know it sucks but YOU CAN DO THIS!!! I used to sit on a chair to move the clothes from the washer to the dryer (front load washer). I remember one time I knelt down to do it and I couldn't get back up! I had to crawl to the door and tried to pull myself up. No luck! DH had to come and lift me up. :rotflmbo: Just keep in mind this is not forever and before you know it, you will be lugging two twenty pound toddlers around.
You can totally do this!!! You will have bad days, and good days too! But most importantly take it easy and learn to let things go-this is such a short time in the grand scheme of things and eventually things will get back to normal (well, as much as normal CAN BE with twins :laughing: ) I am sorry you are in so much pain, talk to your OB, maybe even a chiropractor or a preganancy belt could help. :youcandoit:
You can do this! I was also pregnant during tax season as an accountant. My boss really wanted me to make it at least until March 15. I told him I couldn't make any promises. He was great during my pregnancy. I only had to work 40 hours a week during tax season. I worked until April 15th! My water broke that evening after our annual after tax season party. I was 35 weeks 5 days. Good luck! Listen to your body. Don't worry about you DH. He'll just have to get over being frustrated right now.
Hang in there!! And take it easy! Same here, hubby having to do alot around the house too. I work in a busy surgery center on my feet about half the day now at 22 weeks, my support belt helps tons! I also hope to be off work by about 32 weeks we will see how it goes and hopefully limit my standing-running around! You don't ever catch me on the stairs I will walk all the way around the building to get to the elevator! Lol!
Thanks everyone! I ordered a maternity support belt with a back support to it that will show up on Tuesday according to Amazon. I also was sent a prenatal cradle from an online friend and another local twin mom offered me one if I could fit the smaller size. The sciatica has been better, especially with 3 chiropractor visits this week! I even got to help paint the nursery today. I used the new low odor, washable paint from Sherwin Williams. It was totally worth almost $60 for two gallons to be able to paint and not smell anything! Of course, that plus going shopping with Naomi and lifting her in and out of the car made my back pinch a little again. I wish I had a front load washer! I think my 2 year old would do the switching for me, she loves to help! I am getting SO CLOSE to finishing the organizing and such. The garage is a mess but I will only mess with that if everything else is done and I can. As far as work, I have learned to haul the mail onto my shoulder if I have to move a stack because it doesn't use my stomach muscles. My boss and the men in the office are carrying things for me when it's too heavy. I told my boss that my goal was to work to the end of February but if I feel good enough to make it to March 15th that would be awesome. I won't make it to April 15th for sure... I'm not going to try because I will be 37 weeks at that point. My boss is ok with it, they are making plans to cover for me and she knows I'm reorganizing the office to make it easier for someone to do my job who isn't as quick as me. Speaking of work, I have a couple hours of work to do from home tomorrow. I love that, overtime is awesome! As one of the admin women working from home doesn't happen often but we got so behind from a week of being stuck at home from an ice storm means I get to make individual files (label the ones we made a few weeks ago)in bed with tv on tomorrow.
I am sorry you are going through this and yes, you can do it. I had bad sciatica too while pregnant. My neighbor's dh would make fun of me when I complained that my butt and leg hurt. About a year later he came to me out of the blue and apologized. A few days earlier he rushed himself to the ER and was put on pain meds due to....yes you guessed it... sciatica! LOL! He said he could never have imagined how painful that was and could never have survived it without pain meds. eh said he can't believe I had it for months and functioned without any pain meds. he was to me.
Men totally don't get it. One of the partners at work is constantly taunting me about how his wife had 8 pound twins (she's a foot taller than me). I finally asked him how far along she was and he said almost 41 weeks and miserable. I told him my doctor said something about an eviction notice around 37-38 weeks and he laughed and said that was a good idea. LOL Sometimes I think tax season would be easier if I was an accountant... I would have to work long hours but it would physically be easier. No mailing, no carrying files, none of that stuff. Then again, I am already usually the last one to leave at night since the UPS truck comes at 7:30 so I have until then to get stuff out.
I would recommend a belly wedge. And a massage (worked miracles for me!) Also maybe see about working from home? Im in pr and thought no way but at 29 weeks my doc said no, so I worked at home part time for 8 more weeks! Hang in there!
Unfortunately my job is mailing tax returns and filing stuff, there is no way for me to work from home. I have short term disability coverage and DH is getting his bonus in two parts this year. The first part will mainly go towards a van once we sell my car and the second is going into saving to help cover me not working.
My husband is awesome...he washes dishes and does what I need him to do,even if I dont ask.He thinks its the mans job to make the woman comfortable,even if it means taking over household duties for a bit.
Mine too, although he was disappointed to come home and find that I was sleeping and hadn't started heating up dinner. It was cooked, just needed to be heated and have rice added. I was sooo tired. I am home now though, I made it through!
My DH is finally starting to take the initiative to do more around the house...it was a big change for us! But its a learning process, and he has gotten so much better about volunteering to do things, like the laundry (I cant comfortably lean in and get the stuff out of the washer anymore! ;-p)
me either! My DH has to get it out of the washer and dryer I told him if not he was going to find me bent over in the laundry room one day unable to get up! Lol, I will start it and put it away though!
