I Just Don't Get It

I was back in the hospital this morning as my contractions are getting worse. They are 3 minutes apart but I am still not dilating. I don't get why they will not do anything to stop them. I haven't slept in almost 24 hours and all they did was send me home and told me to get some rest. Helloooooo...... I can't sleep through them they hurt like heck.... So now I get to have a nurse come here everyday and check me out just to make sure that everything is ok and I am not dilating.
Then to make everything even better my son came home from his dad's on Sunday with a fever and a sore throat. Assuming it was the flu I just kept him home from school for the last 2 days. Today pretty much when I got home from the hospital he started getting sick and his fever was back. On top of that he had a rash. So I phoned everyone I knew and asked if someone would be able to take us to the medicenter as I am not suppose to be walking anywhere and I am to only get up when necessary. Well no one is around today. So we walk to the medicenter and my nieces and neighbour were with us thank god. We get there and get him checked out and he has scarlet fever....
I really don't think anything else can happen. I am feeling a little abandoned right now by my family and friends to the point where I don't want to talk to any of them anymore. My mom won't even come back to help me out. My sister was put on bedrest with her last child and my mom looked after her 2 kids but she refuses to come back and help me with my 1 son, who is not home on weekends. I don't get it. I really just give up.
I know these babies need to stay in and I really do want them to but right now I just wish they would come out. I am exhausted and sore and just want to be able to listen to my doctor. I do not think that my 16 and 17 year old neice should be taking on the responsibility of taking care of my home and child while I am literally not allowed to do anything.
Sorry this is so long. I just needed to vent.

 

:hug: wow, you sure have a lot going on right now. I'm sorry your DS has Scarlett Fever. :hug: But I'm so glad you got him seen and on meds. I'm sorry you are feeling abandoned by your family right now. :hug:

 

:cry: I am so sorry. :hug: :hug: I'm sorry your son has scarlet fever and your family/friends won't help you. :gah:

 

So sorry about your son being sick I hope he feels better soon!
Totally understandable to be upset about the lack of help & support :hug:
I hope things get better soon :hug:

 

Oh my goodness I am SO SORRY!!! :hug: You really don't deserve all that's been thrown at you. I hope that your family and/or friends will reconsider and help you out you need it right now! Ugh unfortunately when the chips are down some family and friends can still not be there for us can they?! Vent away momma! I hope your babies stay put and that the contractions stop so you can get some rest!

 

I'm sorry that this is happening right now, my son also got scarlet fever this spring, the good news is he was back at daycare 4 days later. He slept with us the first couple of nights and flopped around like a little fish in our bed because he was so itchy I felt horrible for him and didn't get a wink but like I said 4 days later everything was back to normal.

I am sorry that you are having such a rough go with your support network, perhaps you should talk to your doctor about your situation, I know that there are people that work along side the hospital that can help even if it is having someone to talk to. eg (Salvation Army and other organizations)

I must admit I long for home (Canada) because in my mind everyone in the community is so much closer, sometimes I feel isolated here, and I have always told my Swedish friends how Canadians are so much more involved and friendly, eg, neighbours, other class mothers, church members, that we have so many good samaritians..... after hearing your story, I am sad to say perhaps I have been idolizing my native home and really it's no different from here.

I do hope you find someone that can offer you a helping hand :angel:

 

I'd say it's time to look at your finances and figure out if there is any way you can hire some help. Even a local teenager for a few hours a week could make a big difference for you right now. A friend of mine gave me some good advice -- people you pay to help you are often more reliable than family who are "volunteering".

 

I have to agree with this sentiment 100%, though I know it is not always practical (especially for a single parent). I have to tell you though that I am a firm believer in in bringing in hired help rather than relying on the kindness of others. First of all, people tend to let you down when you really need them (your situation case in point) and second of all, not all kindness is really rooted in kindness. People feel obligated but they resent helping or feel as though they are really going out of their way if they do a small favor. Me, I hate feeling like someone is helping me begrudgingly so I rarely ask for help. I know that financially you are probably really strapped but the pp makes a very good point about bringing in even a few hours of help if you can swing it. The peace of mind may be whats worth the most.

Either way, I hope that you are managing to work things out.