I have a question - rewards

Ok, we have been working hard the past 2 weeks to get Zayne to pee on the potty. She has been on a potty strike as of late and not interested in trying anymore - so we have had to just tell her she has to try. We were working with a sticker chart for motivation - every time she pee'd she got a sticker (which was maybe once a day, but more like once every 2 days). When she filled up one line (7 squares) she would get a treat. She wanted her treat to be a trip to McDonalds for chicken nuggets and french fries and to play on the slide.

NOW - she has finally filled up one line and we get to take her to McDonalds!

McAuley has no intrest in the potty at all, and has never peed (only if you count the time my dh tickled him on the potty and he gave a little "squirt"). He knows that Zayne gets a sticker and skittles when she pee's and he gets all frustrated at the fact that HE doesn't get a sticker on the chart, too!

We might take Zayne to McDonalds tonight for her treat - she is all excited about it!
My question:
Do we take McAuley along for Zayne to have somene to play with/celebrate with?
She might have a hard time just being on her own, and will want to play with him.
Wouldn't it take away from her reward if he came too?
Should we just plan for McAuley to go have some fun with Grandpa and Grandma?

What do you suggest? :unsure:

 

This time I would take him too. Maybe for the next reward he could get stickers for just sitting on the potty? Follow her lead and when Zayne goes ask McAuley if he would like to try too. Then they would both get a sticker for "trying". Then I would start to wait until they both got enough stickers. That way they might motivate each other maybe?

I don't know if that was any help :unknw:

Good luck and have fun at Mickey D's!

-Kimberly

 

I do have him sit on the potty at the same time as Zayne does (I have two seats), so he tries all the time! She only gets a treat for peeing (beacause there was a season where she went once or twice every day ON HER OWN - then she just stopped and we have to really push her to do it)
I think for him, since he hasn't pee'd yet, he has a hard time understanding that treats come when he pee's.

That being said, I don't have a problem with him coming along, too. I just don't want to belittle the treat that Zayne earned.
If i reward him for sitting, I think Zayne will want to be rewarded for sitting and not pee'ing too...

 

Maybe next time you could pick a treat that you won't feel bad leaving one out. It does seem to to make it less of a reward since they are both getting the same thing when only one had to work for it.

 

I'm not to that point yet, but I would think that once they get there it's not really going to "stick" that it's a treat for her because she did well. You'll have to remind her that she earned the trip. I just don't know, but was curious to see what you did?

 

If you do decide to bring him maybe to make it special for Zayne let her know that since she is such a big girl she got to pick where dinner was not that she gets to go but where the family gets to eat so it's still special. You could even go as far as telling the person waiting on you that she got to pick out where to go for dinner for going pee on the potty (I know they won't care but she won't know that).

 

Well, we decide it was best for them both to come - and I think Zayne understood that it was a treat - because she had decided before she had started putting stickers on the chart, that she wanted to go to McDonalds as her treat! McAuley didn't understand that it was a treat for Zayne, so I was not too worried about that. And I think Zayne would not have had as much fun just going with Mommy and Daddy!
Grandma and Grandpa showed up, as well, which they loved! I think it has really helped to kick start sitting on the potty once more. The next day, Zayne did a HUGE POOP in the potty and she peed later on in the evening!! Her next line on the chart is already nearly full - so I will have to start thinking about some special treats for just her - like maybe an afternoon with Grandma and Grandpa.

It's funny - she announces to EVERYONE that she peed on the potty....and I mean everyone! lol!

 

In this situation I would make her earn more stickers before the reward comes. Maybe you could do little stickers (you know the little smilie faced ones) for everytime they sit on the potty when mommy asks without whining (say 6times a day), so your son can get some too. BUT they only get the skittle or small candy for actually peeing in the potty, and a tootsie roll for pooping on the potty (just seems so appropriate). I would also tell them what they are earning with each full week ahead of time so that when they both earn it, there isn't one choosing what the reward is. Just a thought. I had to train mine completely seperate several months apart due to lack of interest, but we didn't do anything other than a candy for producing reward.

 

My guys each got to go to Dairy Queen by themselves as a special treat for being potty trained and dry for 2 weeks. It was something special for each of them. Dylan was about 2 mo behind Owen and he knew that when he was potty trained it was one of the first things he asked for. I would make it special for just the one and use it as motivation for the other.

 

Ya, the suggestion about changing the rewards and for what they get a reward for is a good idea. I know my ds has not received a sticker yet, but sits on the potty lots (daddy is DESPERATLY trying to get him to pee....even tickling him, sitting him in the bathtub at bathtime ON his potty..lol!). He is very upset when Zayne gets stickers and he doesn't. I don't think he honestly knows what Zayne is doing, even though we show him and explain it. He seems to be oblivious most of the time.

I think the stickers for sitting and trying and the candy for producing is a good idea....might make the sitting party something they get excited for and man...my kids LOVE stickers!

Any tips of getting him to pee??? LOL. I think if he knew the sensation or the feeling of it, he'd understand what he's supposed to do! My husband is trying to hard...lol

 

He needs to see hubby do it perhaps! I made my Dh go in front of my son and he got the connection and is really getting good about tinkling on the potty!

 

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Any tips of getting him to pee??? LOL. I think if he knew the sensation or the feeling of it, he'd understand what he's supposed to do! My husband is trying to hard...lol


This was one of the biggest problems with William. He didn't know how to control that muscle to release. He would sit on the potty just farting instead of being able to pee. It took him learning how to control the urine before he could train. With the stickers for trying, make sure they understand they can try whenever they want but they only get stickers if mommy or daddy ask them to go try, otherwise you will be running to the potty every 2 minutes so they can get a sticker.