I had my first OB appt

I'm "suppose" to be 21 weeks today but apparently since the babies measured smaller at my first ultrasound they're using my due date as July 28th instead of the 22nd. My OB said he wouldn't let me go past 37 weeks which I'm ok w

Now here's the part that I'm not sure about. He wants me to stop working (in home daycare) at 28 weeks. He says I'll be ready to stop by then, even if I don't feel that way right now. I honestly can't see myself stopping for 2 months b/f the babies come. What will I do w myself. I feel great now that I can eat and the meds are working. I'm hoping to push it to 32 weeks but wanted your honest opinions on that. I don't want to harm the babies and if I start to have complications then I will stop at 28 weeks. Up until now though this pregnancy has been very uneventful aside from the sickness, but like I said it's under control now.

WWYD? What did you do if you worked??

 

I would have to say listen to your body. Is this your first pregnancy?

I can honestly say that if I did daycare.......I would SO want to be done by 28wks but this is my fifth (1m/c) pregnancy and I am huge already. I feel good right now but get pretty wore out at the end of the day after just taking care of my 10, 8, and 11 mth old from the time I get home from work until bed.

As long as the babies are doing fine and your doctor doesn't insist that you stop, work until you feel you can't. Tell your doctor how you feel about it because maybe he has some valid concerns that would make you understand more where he is coming from.


Good luck!

 

I worked with kids with special needs and at an after school (working 8.45 - 5.30 mon- frid) club up untill 32 weeks, i had planned on working to 34-36 weeks but babies had other ideas!! I would agree with pp listen to your body if you start to feel tired stop working. Dont keep pushing yourself as thats when the babies will come early x

 

I agree with listening to your body and having open honest communication about how you are feeling with your OB :good:
Hope that you continue to feel great throughout the rest of your pregnancy!!

 

I was preschool teacher when I was pregnant. I had to quit after 18weeks gest b/c I was so exhausted and had a lot of back pain. I didn't even know it was twins at that point. Def. listen to your body. How many kids do you normally have? Maybe instead of quitting completely, you can minimize the number of kids you watch. You may also want to let those parents know that you could be put on bedrest at any time. Not everyone does, but they may want to know that they need some kind of backup care a little further into your pregnancy.

 

I agree with other posters to listen to your body. I travel for work and also work from home and the last 2 weeks have been tough for me (even just being at home). Perhaps your doc is just preparing you for a possibility; my practice only puts people on bedrest if they have to.
At each of my appt's, I just reminded my docs that I fly and continued to make sure it was okay. They told me I could fly until 30 weeks but I stopped at 28 weeks (my boss's preference - he was nervous).

 

I agree with the others. :good: Could you tell your OB that you want to see how you are feeling then, and take it from there? I worked until 32 weeks but I wasn't working with kids and standing most of the time, and that will definately make a difference. :hug:

 

I definitely WILL stop if the babies are in danger or I'm in danger, but I was just thinking that 28 weeks seems pretty early kwim.

 

QUOTE(Chicklet @ Mar 11 2009, 09:03 AM) [snapback]1223430[/snapback]
I definitely WILL stop if the babies are in danger or I'm in danger, but I was just thinking that 28 weeks seems pretty early kwim.



I definitely understand what you are saying. That does sound early to quit, but you might feel differently about it by the time you get to that point. My OB told me that most twin mommies "hit the wall" by about 28 weeks. Meaning they have all sorts of aches and pains, complaints, and really just need to rest and take care of themselves. I am 30 weeks and have had an uneventful pregnancy thus far. I have to say that I am definitely feeling the aches and pains now, and also not sleeping well at night. I am still working part time but I work from home and my work is all on the computer. If I was doing something really physical like daycare I probably would have quit by now. I say just take it one day at a time and see how you feel as things progress. Good luck!

 

QUOTE(Chicklet @ Mar 11 2009, 12:03 PM) [snapback]1223430[/snapback]
I definitely WILL stop if the babies are in danger or I'm in danger, but I was just thinking that 28 weeks seems pretty early kwim.


My doc told me 24 weeks when I was pregnant with my twins. My jaw almost hit the floor! I promised to work from home 2 days a week to try and slow down ... around 28 weeks, I started have lots of contractions, and ended up working from home full time laying in bed. I was lucky that I was able to do that. I worked until 34 weeks ... but again, it was from home, from the comfort of my bed.

The babies came at 36w3d.

 

I was a teacher and worked until I was 24w, I probably could have made it to 28 weeks, but probably not much after that. It was a lot on my feet. But I agree with everyone else, you need to listen to what your body is telling you. There are no guarantees on how a twin pregnancy will turn out, you could find out you need to stop working in 2 weeks, you just never know what is going to happen. I would just take it a little at a time. I know it's not easy to plan with a twin pregnancy at all.

 

Not trying to scare you, but the decline really seems to pick up in the next month or so. I felt no different than I did with my (easy) singleton pregnancy at your stage, but the last couple of weeks have really started to become more difficult. It was about at your stage that we put my 35# DS in a "big boy bed," since I hurt myself a couple of times trying to maneuver him in and out of the crib. Your job isn't an easy one physically. Just keep in mind that you can't necessarily undo the damage you might do by overexerting yourself. You may think you can *manage* the discomfort, fatigue, etc. a little while longer, and the next thing you know you're put on immediate (and total) bedrest. For me personally, I would rather self-police myself so at least I can still do *most* everything I need/want to do. I hope for your sake that you still feel fabulous at 32 wks (although I will be a little jealous :blush: ) but I suspect that you'll really be feeling the pregnancy by then. As everyone has said, listen to your body...that's SO important.

Eve

 

I'm 31.4 weeks and I worked at a daycare before I got put on bedrest @ 24 weeks for a shortened cervix. Before that I had had absolutely no problems, not even morning sickness during the pregnancy. Honestly, everyday got harder and harder to do what I was supposed to do at work. I would be sooo tired before lunch time and I just wanted to take a nap....sometimes I would too on my lunch hour! I wanted to work until 28 weeks but my body decided that I wasn't going to. My doctor had told me from earlier on that around 28 weeks, depending on how everything looked, I would either have to cut back on work or stop working all together. I was really hoping to just have to cut back, but things happened before that so I pretty much had no choice. But, I am glad that he did make the decision to put me on bedrest when he did because if he didn't I probably would have had my babies already and they would be in the NICU.

Good luck with everything !!!

 

There's something about 28 weeks with twins that is just the point for so many when it starts getting really hard. I think it's because you're about the size most women are at 8+ months with a single baby. At 28 weeks, I started getting the "having that baby any day now?" questions from strangers, and I was feeling like my joints were all going to pop apart, especially in my hips and pelvic region. At 29 weeks, I ended up on bedrest with preterm labor. I did manage to last 9 more weeks and had the girls at 37w5d. Just be careful and don't overdo it.

 

I'm 32 weeks and still teaching, but I'm not on my feet. If you're doing daycare in home, you have a lot more lifting and moving to do than most people. I'm looking forward to stopping work in two weeks. I can make it now, but it just gets more uncomfortable every day.

 

QUOTE(Dielle @ Mar 11 2009, 05:02 PM) [snapback]1224046[/snapback]
There's something about 28 weeks with twins that is just the point for so many when it starts getting really hard. I think it's because you're about the size most women are at 8+ months with a single baby. At 28 weeks, I started getting the "having that baby any day now?" questions from strangers, and I was feeling like my joints were all going to pop apart, especially in my hips and pelvic region. At 29 weeks, I ended up on bedrest with preterm labor. I did manage to last 9 more weeks and had the girls at 37w5d. Just be careful and don't overdo it.


Agree, agree, agree. (And congrats on making it to almost 38 wks!!!)

Just as a point of reference, at 26+ weeks, I am measuring at 36 weeks for a singleton. Don't know if this is your first or not, but for most women that's about the time you're thinking, "Ok, I'm over this now." My doctor says I'm right on track size-wise AND she added that I should be measuring 50-52 weeks before it's all over. As much as I hated hearing that, it really put my future limitations in perspective!

Eve