I got the dreaded 4 words today.

:cry: "I don't love you."

:cry: It wasn't done in spite or anthing. Just a statement of "fact." Yesterday I played a 'game' with ds1 which my dh always plays with him. DH will ask (C) "Do you know what?" In which (C) would always respond "Yes." (not really knowing) and then dh would say "I Love you." And then (C) would get all silly. I did that with him yesterday. In response to that game, he said "No, I love daddy." I explained to him that he can love more than one person etc. He grasps that I love him, (A), (E) and daddy.

So today he comes up to me while I was sitting down on the floor watching our new tropical fish and put his arms around my neck from behind and said: "I don't love you." I tried explaining to him that that was not nice to say but I think he thinks it is a joke.

So, there you have it. My DS1 does not love me. :cry:

 

I don't put much weight behind what they say at this age when it comes to this. He wants to see how you will react is all. Of course he loves you! *hug* My response would have been to laugh and say that you're being silly because of course he loves you, but saying things like that is mean and could hurt someone's feelings and make them very very sad. We're not mean to other people. I wouldn't react other than to reiterate that it's unkind to say things like this to people we love and then move on. Hopefully he'll get over this soon

 

Jackie, :hug: :hug: :hug: Eventhough we KNOW they do, it hurts. :cry: I know my two went through that phase. My daughter would say it to get my reaction and ds just said it because I could have sworn he thought he could only love one of us or someone was putting him up to it. ardon: If he continues, just ignore it and tell him you still love him. I found out the really hard way that trying to explain things to them or giving any reaction will only make them say it more which will then make us really


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Aww..... :cry: how sad!! When I saw your post title I thought it was "I hate you mommy" but honestly I don't know which is worse!! Thankfully we know they don't mean it, but it's still heartbreaking to hear! :hug: Hope he finds other ways to be "funny" soon!!!

 

:hug: Jackie. One of my DDs said to me the other day "Get away from me mommy." I knew she didn't mean it to be mean, so I just said in a neutral tone "That makes me sad when you say that."

 

:hug: I'm so sorry, Jackie. That's heartbreaking to hear, even though you know he doesn't mean it.

 

And here I was expecting the 4 words to be "You can't make me!" Aw Jackie, how can that not break your heart? I hope he gets past this thing FAST. :hug:

 

I was expecting the 4 words to be

"He/She has head lice."

What actually came out is so sad that it doesn't even register on my "horrible things to hear" list.

 

Yep, Casey and Mandi have used that recently too.

 

:hug: I am sorry. Last week Lauren told me I was the meanest mommy EVER!! It is sad.

 

:hug: I'm sorry Jackie!!! How did you respond????

You know he loves you!

 

Last year, N came out of speech therapy and I said, "Oh did you have a great time? I missed you!" but N was just mad I was there to pick him up and he didn't get to take the bus home. So he said, "I NEVER MISS YOU MAMA. I NEVER LOVE YOU."

OUCH.

So I know how you feel. As logical as it is that they don't mean it, I still don't want to hear it!

HUGS to you!

 

:hug: Jackie. :cry: