i feel terible

do u ever get so stressed from ur day with the terrible two's twins that u scream at them and then feel bad... i just feel terrible at night thinking about how sometimes i yell at them they are my angels and miracle babies..but sometimes they just push my buttons and its alot of stress hard work only a twin mom could understand..

 

yes! I often have the thought "if I only had one, then I could do more with them and we wouldn't be as confined, and they'd be happier"

but I have to remind myself, if I only had one, I'd only have one to love!

:hug: hang in there- we can do it!

 

YES!!!! Sometimes life is just so hard. :hug:

 

Sometimes I snap and raise my voice and it SCARES the daylights out of them and I feel TERRIBLE!!! :hug: They won't remember it forever and you can give extra hugs and kisses!!

 

You are not alone. I raised my voice to M tonight after bath time. I hate that I did that, but we are only human. I gave her lots of hugs and kisses before bed.

 

OMG hun, you are so not alone. Yes! Today, was a really rough one. My girls have been in a transition of giving up naps so some days are just super super long. One dd is getting over a cold, I woke up feeling a little sick, and my other dd is also getting sick. I haven't had a solid nights sleep in a week and Aunt Flow is coming for a visit. On top of all that (if that isn't enough), I am anemic and not properly taking care of it and so I'm EXHAUSTED and my patience is limited. Today I lost it several times. I always feel terrible. Like I failed and let my emotions get the best of me but I am human and emotions are what guide us and I will have my moments as will my girls. I have been finding lately when they are just out of control that putting them in their cribs for a little while will give us all a chance to just relax and calm down. That's what I did today when I felt myself yelling too much and my heart racing. At 10:30am I put them in their cribs and sure enough Arwen passed out for almost 2 hours!! Then a half hour after she woke up, Lorien passed out for 2 hours. Of course, no naps together which meant no nap for me but they were a little less cranky. It is definately such a hard phase but like all the other phases, we will get through it. I personally don't remember being yelled at or scolded when I was 2 so it couldn't have been TOO damaging. As long as it is blanaced with a lot of love and affection and quality time spent, I think it's ok and very normal to "lose it" from time to time.

 

You are not alone at all! We are all sick here and I've been not so nice today as well!
Hugs & We can do this all together!

 

:hug: Oh yes, I'm another "human" amongst you all! :blush: There are days when the limits are pushed too much or I'm just simply having a craptastic day where they {i believe} they know this and want to make it worse. Now I know this isn't true, but at the time it sure feels like it. :hug: Just know you aren't alone.


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I personally don't remember being yelled at or scolded when I was 2 so it couldn't have been TOO damaging. As long as it is blanaced with a lot of love and affection and quality time spent, I think it's ok and very normal to "lose it" from time to time.


I think this is very well said. :friends:

 

Been there and I don't even stay at home with them all day. :hug: Somedays are just very hard!!

 

I definitely do that too, but mostly with my older girls. When I am getting really frustrated and I am about to yell, I try to make myself whisper instead, and not only does it make me feel better that I didn't yell, but my kids actually listen better!