I feel like a broken record!

Anyone else feel like their constantly saying "No! Don't touch that!" , "No, don't throw your food on the floor!" , "No, do not slap your brother!" I feel like a broken record Day in and day out, it's probably my main source of communication with the twins. I guess I need to get better with just keeping my mouth shut & giving them that stern look my dad gave me as a child that made me run the other way :laughing:

 

Yes, I totally know what you mean. I feel like I'm the the only thing keeping any order in the house, and if I so much as leave the room for two seconds to pee I am going to come back to a disaster zone.

 

Yes, absolutely and it hasn't ended!

 

I completely understand what you mean!! Sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed by all of the "no's". :hug:

 

Yes, those are fun times, aren't they? :nea: We're still there, only now I know they understand me a whole better yet they still don't listen.


:hug:

 

Yup. I feel like if there were a robot version of me, you could program the same phrases that usually begin with "No" or "Don't" and I don't think my kids would notice the difference.

 

i dont' know if this would help, but my parenting class teacher suggested using "no" only in cases of safety. she said that children hear it too much and stop responding, OR they start saying it all the time when it's their "turn." i knwo this is easier said than done!...... as a teacher, i know we were always told to put rules in the positive instead of negative ("be gentle w/your brother," "we keep food on our plates" for example).... also, can you get some of those "don't touch" things out of their way? we're trying that cuz i'm tired of telling them 'we do'nt touch this, we don't touch that.'

parenting is hard, there's no two ways about it! and toddlers are really hard. and two of them is, well, harder!

gl and hang in there. we all understand!!

 

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i dont' know if this would help, but my parenting class teacher suggested using "no" only in cases of safety. she said that children hear it too much and stop responding, OR they start saying it all the time when it's their "turn."

Agreed with this. Try to say no only when safety is an issue.. of course, they have to learn what no means though too! Instead of no, say, let's not play with that right now.. or that is only for grown ups. At almost 4, *I* still sound like a broken record at times. Get used to it! :shok:

 

I still sound like a broken record and I don't say "no" as often now. I quit saying it because it was driving me crazy and it was all I said. Now it's a constant chorus of "Sit down or get down" (climbing and standing on furniture), "You eat your food, not Kenai" (they throw the food on the floor to feed the dog), " It's not nice to hit, pinch, poke, throw things", "Give that to Momma" (for the things they get that aren't theirs), "You need to share with bubba" (when they are stealing or fighting over toys). We still use "No, No" a lot too, but much less often now.

I do think that consistent phrases have helped a lot. Today in the car on the way to daycare Logan swiped Mason's toy and I said "Logan, you need to share with Bubba. Give him his toy back." HE DID IT!! and Mason said "Thank you!" I was floored that he did it with no eye contact and knowing I couldn't make him!! They also tell each other "Not Nice" now and they seem to respond even to each other.