I feel like a big screw-up

Ainsley has been a big grump most of the day, not sure what's up. Then she didn't nap today, so I knew she would be pretty tired by the end of the day. We went over to my parents' house in the late afternoon and had dinner over there, then put them in their pajamas and headed home, about 20 min away. They both fell asleep on the way home but woke up when we brought them in the house. Well, Ainsley got all upset and has been crying on and off since then, over an hour now. I went back in twice, first she was crying, saying she didn't want her Pablo, so I said OK and took it. Then of course she started crying that she wanted it back. So I went back in and gave it to her. Then she wanted to zip up the crib tent herself, I let them zip it part of the way. She wouldn't stand up, so I said if you want to zip it, you have to stand up, but she was just whining and going noooo, so I said Mommy has to go, so I'm going to zip it. So now she is still crying. I know there is no point to me going back in, she's irrational at this point and nothing I do will soothe her. I just feel like I screwed the whole thing up. I should have come home earlier, or not let them fall asleep on the way home. I don't know, I hate things like this.

 

:hug99: :hug99: You are definately not a screw up. She's just having one of those days, we all do. I hope tomorrow she's in better spirits and will give her momma some love. I hope she fell asleep quickly. :hug99:

 

QUOTE(Snittens @ Nov 7 2007, 06:43 PM) [snapback]486331[/snapback]
I know there is no point to me going back in, she's irrational at this point and nothing I do will soothe her.

Bingo. You aren't a bad mommy, you're just a family that's temporarily off schedule. It happens to the best of people.

 

:hug99: Kelly, I know how you feel!! Don't worry about it, she won't be upset in the morning and you will have a laugh about it someday! :hug99:

 

We're having a rough night here too Kelly. I just got everyone down at 10 pm!!! Elizabeth has been crying since 6:30 and Andrew and as been whining/crying for various things since 8. It is a complete nightmare. I think some days are just like that. It's not your fault! I hope they sleep in for you :hug99:

(Go treat yourself to something at the Gymbo sale tomorrow to make yourself feel better )

 

She fell asleep a little after 9:00. Hoping tomorrow is a better day! DH was thinking maybe it's a growth spurt and it's making her feel cranky, is that possible? They have both been eating like bottomless pits today!

Melissa - I just saw those new bunny mary janes from Gymboree, eeek! I might have to get them, those are probably going to go quick!

 

It could be teeth too. Has she gotten her 2-year molars yet?

It's really hard to deal with a tired child... hopefully she'll get back on track tomorrow/today.

Good luck, this too shall pass.

 

I have one(Cooper) that if he gets off schedule or overtired he is irrational too! We joke and say he has lost his mind b/c he goes nuts and nothing we do will calm him down. He just has to get it out of his system.

You are not a bad mommy!

 

Aw, Kelly -- sometimes these things just happen. You didn't screw anything up. There just isn't any way to perfectly organize your life so that a two-year-old doesn't sometimes have a meltdown.

Hope you got something good at the Gymboree sale.

 

I have the same problem with mine,OFTEN!! You are not a screw-up. All will be better once she falls asleep and get a nap. Don't beat yourself up about it.

Crystal

 

QUOTE(Minette @ Nov 8 2007, 08:44 AM) [snapback]487034[/snapback]
Aw, Kelly -- sometimes these things just happen. You didn't screw anything up. There just isn't any way to perfectly organize your life so that a two-year-old doesn't sometimes have a meltdown.


Ditto that. My boys were seriously overextended yesterday too. It just breaks my heart when I have to let them cry and cry b/c I know going in to "help" isn't helping. Turn on your ipod or jump in the shower and say Serenity Now (Seinfeld reference). :hug99:

 

Sometimes they just have one of those days that nothing you do will make them feel better. It doesn't make you a screw up. The beauty of it is tomorrow is another day and you get to start fresh.

 

You didn't do anything wrong, shes just overtired.

 

YOU ARE NOT A SCREWUP!!! We pretty much have all had those days where we said, "Oh, this is going to mess up their sleep but we'll figure it out later and then wish that we had NEVER messed with the 'schedule'." I have kicked myself in the butt because I was enjoying a playdate so much that I didn't want to leave and even though I know I need to get the heck out of there, I figure I will deal with the consequences later but they are always so much more torturous than I imagined. However, usually it only last for that particular sleep time and I am usually able to get them back on the next day. I'm sorry you were having one of those nights. How is she doing today? Hope all is back to normal (whatever the heck that is )

 

Thank you ladies! I'm glad you all understand. We're back to "normal" today. She's still been a bit of a grump, it must be teething. They are supposed to be napping, but are still up talking. If they don't nap today, I'm putting them to bed early!