I don't do this often

As some of you know, we have been to the pedi more times than I would like to count for ear infections, bronchitis etc... (the pitfall of daycare). Anyway, DH & I both work full time, so why am I ALWAYS the one that has to take off to get them to the dr. :angry: I got a call today from daycare that Lauren was fussy and pulling on her ear, which pretty much means she has an ear infection. So I call the peds office and ask for the latest appt (since I work 1 1/2 hrs from there). 4:00, great!! Since Dh normally gets off at 3:30 anyway, I'll call him and see if he can get off 30 mins early and take her.

HE CAN'T WTH???? He can't leave 30 minutes early, he needs to save his time??? :aggressive: What about my time, which is slowly getting shorter b/c when they are sick, who stays out, me. When they have an appt., who stays out, me.
I justsaid fine, and hung up. He tried to call me back, but I let it go to voice mail.

 

Oh, you must be so frustrated! :hug99: Personally, I don't ever want my husband to take the kids to the doctor because he can never remember what they told him & never asks any of the questions that I would myself! But I'm sure when you are juggling a job & babies it must be terribly frustrating for you to be the one who always has to go. I hope your little one feels better soon!

 

We are in the same situation, I am always the one that ends up taking off, I even had a couple of hours with no pay on my last check because I had used up all my leave with a sick kid! The frustrating thing is that DH and I work in the same hospital, but he is a nurse and I am a social worker, and they are more strict with the nursing staff as far as time and attendance. But honestly when it comes to sick kids, I personally think I handle those types of situations better, I don't think I could let go of the "control" and let DH take them to a Dr's appt without me. I just know DH (even though he is a nurse) wouldn't ask all the questions that I would want to know answers to. Since I have been back ar work I don't think I have taken more than a few hours of time off, not even totalling a full day, just for me. My annual and sick leave always gets eaten up with sick kids. Too bad we don't have family around that can fill in when we need them!

I can understand your frustration with DH though, and probably would have reacted the same way!! I hope Lauren feels better soon! We got tubes back in Feb, and are still dealing with ear problems, URGGG!!!

 

I can understand why you'd be frustrated, it should be both parents' responsibility to take sick kids to the doctor. So far I'm in the minority - I totally trust DH to ask the right questions (with a little priming beforhand of course) and relay any pertinent information. Our situtation is a little different in that DH is home during the day, so I'm not missing work if he's already got the kids. He takes all 5 kids to every ped appointment so I don't have to miss any time. Now, if we were both working, we would take turns missing work.

 

and when you cant take a day off for a honest to goodness reprieve.. just remind him that HE needed to save HIS TIME..

im right there with ya.. a single mother of 3 ALL OF MY PTO IS USED IN COURT..
I GET NO SUMMER VACATION THAT IM CRAVING

 

Brandy, :hug99: I know what you mean. My Dh has always done the same thing. We talked about it and next year, if anything is wrong with the kids, he has to leave work, at leas from Sept - Jan when I am student teaching. My oldest is going to K in Catholic school too and he will have to take all the Catholic holidays off because the public school will not be too keen on me saying I need "this and that" holiday off.

I totally know what you meant though. It's pretty inconsiderate. :hug99:

 

That sounds SO frustrating!!! I am so sorry. Have you talked to him yet?
Maybe he rethought it and will go to the appt. (I'm trying to be an optimist)

 

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Right there with you Brandy!!! DH took 3 days off last week to hang out with his BF, I have to deal with sick babies/kids...I don't even really get paid time off as I am the whole company and if I don't work- no one is bringing $$$ in so when I'm dealing with the illnesses I get to work late at night to make it up.

But as PP stated- I don't think DH would keep everything straight if I sent him to the dr with the boys (any/all)

 

****Update****
He called again & said that he would take her, so he did and we have yet [SIZE=14pt]another EAR INFECTION. I just hate that I had to get mad for him to step up.[/SIZE]

 

:hug99: I'm sorry Brandy about the ear infection and that you have to get mad to make dh do things..grrr..my dh can be that way sometimes too. MEN!

Hope you are all feeling better soon!

 

UGH! Another one?!!! Have they talked about tubes yet? :hug99:

 

Right there with ya girl! (both with DH and the ear infections...and Jonah already has tubes! Don't get me started.)

DH and I had this conversation yesterday morning. We both need to get ready in the morning to leave on time, right? He kept saying I've got to go, I've got to go, I'm going to be late. I looked at him and said "I'm sorry I didn't realize I was the only one responsible for getting them ready and to daycare. Guess it doesn't matter if I'm going to be late, does it?"

I think guys are just very self centered sometimes. Just because I'm the mom doesn't mean I'm the only one capable! It's like the Bill Cosby joke on Bill Cosby Himself...guys are actually very smart...they convince us that they can't do it right so that they actually get out of doing things altogether. The joke is on us because we let them get away with that CRAP!!! :girl_devil:

Shannon

 

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Oh, you must be so frustrated! Personally, I don't ever want my husband to take the kids to the doctor because he can never remember what they told him & never asks any of the questions that I would myself! But I'm sure when you are juggling a job & babies it must be terribly frustrating for you to be the one who always has to go. I hope your little one feels better soon!


Ditto!!

I hope things get better for you SOON. :hug99:

 

When I've been in similar situations with my DBF I just spell it out for him. "I know its an inconvenience for you, but it just makes more sense for you to do ___ because ____." That said, it seems like I'm always the one doing everything.