I don’t know

Hi All,

I see this forum does not get much action, but I thought I would start here. I have ID boys (3 in April) and a 12 year old (13 in April) and he is ... I guess... starting w/ normal “teenage age” stuff... nothing malicious or evil, just talking back and attitude... and whenever I take a step back, I realize this.. but I think I need some wise women in my life who have been there done that..
I know TS helped me SO much when I was expecting the twins.. you helped me realize so many thing were normal and I would survive.. you ladies walked me off the cliff SO many times... now I come to ask.. is there such a thing as a support group for moms of teens and if so, how do you go about finding one (I just moved to a new state and really have no one to bounce this off). I read all the back post (from 2007 on) in this teen forum and it made me feel a bit more normal that now I am just hungry for more..

OK if you got this far thanks... I just need some more wise moms who have been there done that in my life and I’m not sure where to go?

Thanks,
Elizabeth

PS I know this is supposed to be for when your twins are teens.. but I thought I would ask

 

I don't know about any support groups for mothers of teens but I do know there are times when if I was a drinking woman I would need AA :wine: . My 12 year old used to be my sweet boy (I expected major attitude with my 2 older boys but Dawson caught me off guard LOL!) and now he is full of attitude and it is almost like he is possessed at times. I want my sweet boy back! Our twins just turned 4 and Dawson is So mean to them he takes their toys and tells them he threw them away he tells them things like "I am going to take you back to the Ava store and get a new Ava" or he will hide their guinea pig and tell them the dog ate it. yeah, its bad. He NEVER was like this before he turned 12. and talk back to me!!! Oh my goodness!!

maybe we could get a group started on here, I know we cannot be the only ones!!

 

LETS start one!!! I went on line… and it just scared me… its was for the extreme (like extreme violence)… I just need the back talking attitude support…. Last night he said “Why don’t you let me live my own life!?!” ( I was on him because he went from honor roll to having a D in science because he just talks in class)… and I lost it ( I know I should have just let him walk away ranting BUT i said (ok maybe yelled a bit)… “Live your OWN life you cant even pee in the toilet without missing… how are you going to”… and I caught myself and just said “GRRRRR” and stormed off like I was 12 :headbang:

On my quest to find wiser moms… I had one mom say… "It got better around 15 ½ 16" and I’m thinking I’ll be dead by THEN :80:

lets find some teen moms who need venting :search:

Elizabeth

 

I'm with you guys! My oldest is 12, she turns 13 in May. I still hear she is perfect at school, she saves it up and takes it out on us at home!

 

Well my honor roll student just decided he wasn’t gonna do work anymore… when his grades hit D’s the school contacted us… he’s pulled them all out w/ one C still to bring up… but really… I KNOW it’s all “testing” and I did it too… but it is SO draining… someone said I should be glad he’s doing it all now while his grades don’t effect college apps and he rebels w/ attitude not “BAD” stuff… but I think the worry part of me says “ This is the beginning… will he snap out? What if he DOESN’T and we have to live w/ this until College and maybe into College… and then… queue up Seth and Nathans turn” :faint:

 

When DS started 6th grade, I went to one of those long, crowded parent orientation meetings. You know the ones that give you more questions than answers?
But I saw a few neighbors there, and we went out for coffee (and snacks, too, although we all claimed to be dieting!). We had SO MUCH fun swapping stories, finding out our kids were all doing similar things, gossiping about teachers and schedules and just trying to clear some of the confusion that comes when you switch from elem. to middle school (yes, the parents have a lot to adjust to, too).
We decided to keep it up, and met every few months -- it's really fun, even thought our kids have gone down different paths at school (mine is in band, one girl is an athlete, etc.)
So maybe you could look around at school, like at the PTO meeting? I'm sure that you're not the only person who'd like to connect with other adults sometimes -- everyone needs friends!

P.S. DS is now going into 8th grade, and he is SO MEAN to his brothers -- sometimes I'm surprised he doesn't make them cry, he teases them so badly. And he didn't use to do that. His brothers tease him right back, but sometimes I think," When did he get so MEAN?" His teachers tell me he's fine in school, so I guess he saves up all his teasing for home, lucky us.

 

Good idea… I just joined a book club and one mom joked, is this a book club or a support group for moms of middle school boys… and just talking to a few of them … I left feeling better… We all just moved here to Colorado from So Cal, private school to public, elementary to middle… so a lot of adjusting is being done… I guess if it takes all of middle school to adjust… then it will take all of middle school to adjust…

At least your DS is still doing good in school... mine is pushing everyones buttons... but i hear its normal, and the school doesnt seem too concerned.

 

Im not a Mum but a teen, always here to offer support

 

Maybe I need a teen to remind me what it was like to be almost 13… I am (obviously :blush: ) a girl… and I was under the false impression that I was gonna skip the teen drama I dealt w/ having boys…. BOY that was the biggest misconception I had in parenting BY FAR… luckily DH has stepped up BIG TIME (practically stopping work at 3:30 everyday) maybe he just needed a man… though I think I can do it all… I guess I shouldn’t be surprised he has more insight and can relate better about being a 13 year old boy than me

Thank You

 

My sister taught middle school. She once told me, "Oh, I like 6th graders they're still so sweet."

Then, with only 5th graders, I couldn't figure her out. Now, with a 7th grader, I get it!

There is a comic strip called "Zits". It's hysterical -- all about surviving your teen.

 

Zits is so excellent.

It really does get better between 15 and 16 (both my boys did). Of course, I still have my girls to look forward to; they're only 8, but I can already tell one of them is going to put me through the wringer as a teen.

 

My 16 year old son and (as of midnight) 13 year old daughter are now 2 kids I don't recognize and some days, I don't even LIKE them. They talk back non stop and complain about EVERYTHING! I miss my sweet easy going kids! I have to keep grounding my son for his grades and for never doing homeowrk (he barely passed 10th grade and is in summer school) and my daughter for her mouth( she calls us idiots all the time). They fight me every step of the way but I keep firm on the groundings. I am hoping that will shape them up when they realize I am not a push over.