I can't take it anymore -I need more sleep help

we were doing so good with the sleep. life was finally SANE for me. now the refuse to sleep. they go to bed at 7:30 and wake around 7 (they have been waking 5 or 6 times in the middle of the night -i just put their paci back in and they go back to sleep).

i went ahead and moved them to 1 nap because i coudln't get them to take the second nap anymore, but when they take their one nap they are only sleeping for an hour so i nabout 2 hours they are soooooo CRANKY. their crankiness is driving me insane. is there anything I can do? they are both crying right now, because I am trying to get them to take another nap, becaue they are so miserable.

any help is greatly appreciated. oh-they are 14 months, almost 15 months.

THANKS!

 

What I do is-put all my kids in their rooms at a set time each day. Then I don't go back until a set time-unless they are screaming like something is completely wrong, not just fussing because they want out. The first few days of this they didn't want to sleep at all-but now they are doing pretty well. They learned that was their naptime and they needed to sleep or deal with it. (That may sound harsh and I don't mean it to, that's just the best wording I could come up with. ) Our old times before moving were 1:30-4, now I am working on (DS's not being very cooperative about naps right now) going 2:30-5. (The reason for the change is we moved an hour closer to DH's work and I put them down when he heads off to work so I can get stuff done.) Then they are still ready for bed around 7:30-8.

I don't know if that was helpful to you or not.. It's just what I had to do to save what little sanity I had left because they started not sleeping well for me after doing so well for a long time.

 

what time do yours wake up in the morning? mine wake up so early that there is no way they can make it until 1:30. I will try it tomorrow to see it if helps some. Are yours in the same room?

thank you

 

If it were me I would put them in thier cribs and not go in until morning, period. Same with nap(s). At that age mine were still on two naps, if they only had one nap it had to be around 11:30/12 at that age, any later and they were overtired.

 

We are on one nap - it used to be at 11 but I just moved it to 12 because they weren't falling asleep. They nap for anywhere from 2 to 3 hours.

We put the girls down at 7:30. One sleeps through and the other wakes a lot. It used to be 5-6 times but we are letting her cry for at least 10 minutes before we go in. All we need to do is give her her paci and she is out but we want her to learn to do it herself. We are down to her waking once or twice (knock on wood).

For naps I say leave them in there for a certain amount of time.

 

thanks everyone. sooo... I would like them to take a 2 hour nap. I mean my oldest was taking atleast a 2 hour nap by then. They always wake after an hour or hour 1/2. then they just cry. do i just let them cry for 30 minutes without going in there? that just seems mean, doesn't it?

thanks for all the advice. they are just so miserable and so am i at this point. thanks

 

I think the best thing you can do, for them and yourself, is to pick times and be consistent. I would start by changing naptime. With them waking at 7am, I'd put them down for a nap around 12:30. Don't go back til 2:30. They will eventually realize they might as well sleep since they aren't getting up. Give it a week or so and then ditch the pacis. Or, put on a breathable bumper or crib tent and throw like 10 pacis in each crib. That way they can find them when they wake up. Will probably still take some crying, but they'll learn. Good luck!

eta: we were posting at the same time...the short answer is yes let them cry, fuss, whatever until you decide naptime is over. Just decide what you want and then stick with it.

 

QUOTE(ktfan @ Jan 14 2008, 07:41 PM) [snapback]572627[/snapback]
I think the best thing you can do, for them and yourself, is to pick times and be consistent. I would start by changing naptime. With them waking at 7am, I'd put them down for a nap around 12:30. Don't go back til 2:30. They will eventually realize they might as well sleep since they aren't getting up. Give it a week or so and then ditch the pacis. Or, put on a breathable bumper or crib tent and throw like 10 pacis in each crib. That way they can find them when they wake up. Will probably still take some crying, but they'll learn. Good luck!

eta: we were posting at the same time...the short answer is yes let them cry, fuss, whatever until you decide naptime is over. Just decide what you want and then stick with it.


I absolutely agree. We switched to one nap around 16 months and we originally started at 12:00 and gradually moved it to 1. Since then we nap 1-3. I totally second the breathable bumper idea. That is what we had and we had anywhere from 5-8 pacis in there at any time. They will learn to find them.

 

At that age (1 year) mine were still on two naps.. they still are on two naps every other day for some reason!! Mine wake up at 6am and take their first nap at 8/8:30ish am...The second nap is around 12:30/1...If one does not like to sleep, I keep them in the room for about 30 minutes, just so I can take a deep breath! LOL Then, if one doesn't want to sleep after that, I get him or her out...It is nice to have one on one time with them.

On the alternate days, they take their nap at about 10ish am and go to bed at 6ish...It is a long afternoon, but I prefer a morning nap if it were my choice.

 

QUOTE(cael0816 @ Jan 14 2008, 06:05 PM) [snapback]572490[/snapback]
what time do yours wake up in the morning? mine wake up so early that there is no way they can make it until 1:30. I will try it tomorrow to see it if helps some. Are yours in the same room?

thank you

They wake up between 7:30 and 8 on most days. The girls are still in the same bed. Right now all of us are in one room while we remodel the whole upstairs including bedrooms-so the 3 kids all nap in one room.


QUOTE(cael0816 @ Jan 14 2008, 07:40 PM) [snapback]572622[/snapback]
thanks everyone. sooo... I would like them to take a 2 hour nap. I mean my oldest was taking atleast a 2 hour nap by then. They always wake after an hour or hour 1/2. then they just cry. do i just let them cry for 30 minutes without going in there? that just seems mean, doesn't it?

thanks for all the advice. they are just so miserable and so am i at this point. thanks

It's okay to let them cry or fuss as long as it isn't extreme-but you have to decide what your limit will be. I am fine with letting my cry-as long as I know they are just fine then I let them be. If they seem to be crying at an extreme then I get them out.

Good luck!