I can't believe she said that!

Okay, so here is another vent from me. Mom and I were driving around Saturday running some errands when I made the comment about how "rich" I will be when we are done with all the baby stuff this time and I can sell a bunch of stuff. So she says "So.... if you're done after this one, are you going to do anything permanent so it doesn't happen again?" I was in shock. We told her we planned this baby for a whole list of reasons I won't go into now. So as far as she knows, this wasn't anaccident. So my response was, "well, I do know what makes babies, I am a big girl and can make sure it doesn't happen." I'm sure it was just hormones, but it REALLY upset me. I felt like she was implying that since I'm not smart enough to not get pregnant, maybe we should do something permanent. Maybe she didn't mean anything by it, but either way it really bugged me and I can't get it out of my head.

Anyway, thanks for listening to me whine. I feel better now.

Edited to fix spelling

 

JENN, DONT YOU KNOW OUR PARENTS KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR US AND ALWAYS WILL!!

IM SORRY YOU HAD TO DEAL WITH THAT.. I THINK YOU RESPONDED CORRECTLY

LET IT GO OUT OF YOUR MIND.. DONT THINK TWICE ABOUT IT

M

 

I am so sorry. I get so sick of people thinking its Ok to add their 3 cents. You acted better than I would have.

 

what is it with people who dont want us to get preggo anymore....between your mother and my doctors comments....who knows whats going on...is it b/c we have twins already? Anyways, i'm osrry that she said that b/c i would habve been ticked if i were you - hormones and all. Get ready for the doctors to ask you all kinds of questions about it too as i'm pretty sure they proly will. Anyways, good luck - your almost half way!

amanda

 

:hug99:

My mom doesn't think I should have anymore... because she is worried about my stress level or whatever, LOL

My Dr. is really nice and I love him to death... he actually asked me while I was still pregnant if I was having more. He is really supportive.

 

Why is it that EVERYONE has to tell us that we should do something to prevent babies????? I mean goodness - it's not like you are asking her to take your babies and raise them!! I am sorry but I really can't stand when people ask if I am done!!
why does it matter? and a grandparent should be glad to have more grandchildren!

After the birth of my 3rd son I had my tubes tied because I felt like I "had" to - it was the BIGGEST mistake I ever made. I will never forget that day -. I felt so much pressure from everyone and because of that I made the biggest mistake ever. (I did IVF to have my twins and NOW I know that I would not have these precious sweeties if I had not gone through all I did but it was a very hard 7 years!) PLEASE don't make the same mistake -only have something done if YOU want it done, who cares what ANYONE else thinks!

 

You know it's ironic, but about the only outside person I feel would have a right to say anything to me about the number of children I plan on having is my mom...but only b/c she does offer me help more than anyone else...and I have asked her to help out more than anyone else. However, if I didn't live close to her I know I would be just fine regardless. But the ironic part is that my mom is probably the biggest fan of me having more kids. I think she'd be thrilled if I had another one....not sure what she would say after 5...but I know she would never actually speak against having more. (she might be more reluctant to watch ALL of them...but that's understandable!!)

However, there are some things I think parents just should never discuss with their grown children...one of those things is your sex life/bc methods. I get irritated when my mom even asks me if my cervix is dilating yet.... I just feel weird about that. Like...way too personal mom.... I could discuss that with a girlfriend...but not my mom for some reason. Don't know why??!!! LOL.