I am sucking the life out of everyone!

I feel like a curse!
I have 8 weeks old twins and a 4 and 6 year old. (DH talked me into this "one last kid") Three weeks ago my mom came 12 hours to visit and help and 3 days after returning home had a stroke which she has THANKFULLY fully recovered from, but that scared me. Then one of our helpers (part time college student) came down with mono so she is no longer available to help, and now our adopted Grandma who is like a mother to me was in the hospital tonight with migraines and nausea. The only thing they could come up with is stress...

I hardly ever leave any of them to fend for themselves, and tell them to do less, and not stress themselves. (meanwhile I do all the night shifts, and still am up almost all day and feel like I am going to lose it somedays. Will I ever get a shower again? Let alone get to scrapbook or read a book)

I have told my angel of a MIL to stay away I seem to be overloading everyone dispite telling them to let me handle the majority of the load. What else can I do? What else can go wrong?

Thanks for letting me vent. It has to get better, right?

 

I feel like a curse!
I have 8 weeks old twins and a 4 and 6 year old. (DH talked me into this "one last kid") Three weeks ago my mom came 12 hours to visit and help and 3 days after returning home had a stroke which she has THANKFULLY fully recovered from, but that scared me. Then one of our helpers (part time college student) came down with mono so she is no longer available to help, and now our adopted Grandma who is like a mother to me was in the hospital tonight with migraines and nausea. The only thing they could come up with is stress...

I hardly ever leave any of them to fend for themselves, and tell them to do less, and not stress themselves. (meanwhile I do all the night shifts, and still am up almost all day and feel like I am going to lose it somedays. Will I ever get a shower again? Let alone get to scrapbook or read a book)

I have told my angel of a MIL to stay away I seem to be overloading everyone dispite telling them to let me handle the majority of the load. What else can I do? What else can go wrong?

Thanks for letting me vent. It has to get better, right?

 

Oh, you poor thing, you are not sucking the life out of everyone! I doubt you gave your helper mono, migraines often cause intense nausea, and you really did not give your mom a stroke, I swear! It just sounds like a bunch of unfortunate coincidences. You are not going to harm your MIL by letting her help if she so desires. If she is the angel you say she is, then you know she wants to help with those babies. Plus - you can only "do it all" for so long until you crack. Try not to be so rough on yourself!

 

You poor dear. I know EXACTLY how you feel. My daughters are four and six years old too. My twins turn one on Friday and my older two will be 5 and seven next month. Yes, it IS hard. It gets easier. Your house will never be clean longer than about a half hour again. My house is always cluttered now. I could keep up with two, but now with the twins I just had to let it go. There is a perpetual pile of laundry sitting on my couch. Hang in there though. Once the babies get more into a routine you will find time to get the basics done. One suggestion I have is to simplify as much as possible. I have pared things down to the bare minimum in my house- especially with clothes. Meals are much simpler now. We have less toys. It just makes it easier or you start drowning in all the clutter! Luckily, I live in Florida and I sent my older two outside in the back yard A LOT! On weekends they are out there most of the day except to come in for lunch or bathroom breaks and snacks!

 

I dont' have advice, just wanted to say how sorry I feel for you, and I imagine how miserable you must be feeling! But I agree that I don't think you were the one who caused everyone's ailments! (It might seem like that!) Just wanted to send some

 

bless your heart!!! none of that is your fault!!!

 

I have to chuckle at the, "My husband talked me into the last kid." I also ahve a four year old and a six year old! I was the one who talked my husband into the third and last baby ("It will be easy""We have done it before" "We have more money now than we did with the other kids") Boy, having a 4 year old, 6 year old and twins is a LOT of work!

Angel