I am SO tired of....

I know we've all been there, but - i am so tired of fielding peoples' (stupid) comments when i am out with the girls. I should just let it roll off my back but - YES, THEY ARE TWINS, DON"T THEY LOOK LIKE IT???!!!!

YES, THEY ARE BOTH GIRLS, see the pastel colors/???!!! (and i know the history of this one buti get it from young people)

YES, I'm tired.

And - please keep your darn hands to yourself and DON"T TOUCH MY BABIES!!!! (why, oh WHY do people think this is ok???)

AAAAAARRRGGHHH!!!! We were out for most of the afternoon and, well, i know they're adorable (ok, i'm biased), but - sheesh, sometimes i'd like to just walk down the street instead of feeling like some circus sideshow (I can't even IMAGINE what triplet moms go through!).

I'm happy seeing htem gives people joy, but - I don't want to have to engage with everyone, especially the nitwit women who shrieked when they bent over my SLEEPING babies at a traffic light, thereby waking one up. I mean, REALLY!!!

ok, i'm done. (sorry, i had a very long night last night, up SIX times in as many hours. Time for me to get offlien and sleep while they are sleeping (you'd think i'd have learned THAT one by now...)

 

It seems like you haven't mastered the Speedwalk of DOOM! I've found if I'm just not in the mood to talk I can kind of get this fake grin plastered on my face and look around but not make eye contact while walking at a pretty good clip. If people comment I either laugh and nod or deal out one of my quips but keep going......

I'm sorry you're tired. Everything seems so much worse to me when I'm pooped out. :hug99: Are they sick or just testing your endurance??

 

I know EXACTLY what you are going thru. Today all I had to do was get a few things from the baby store (babies r us) and you would've thought I was Elvis Presley or something. OMG! Repeat "yes they are twins" and repeat "please get your hands off of my babies". What is wrong with these woman...have they forgotten that they didn't like their babies touched when they were this young. I was asked questions all over the place. Especially when I firsted walked in the door..."oh look, twins. Look honey twins, do you mind if we ask you a few questions my daughter is expecting twins". Sure, I don't mind but when you're there on a mission hoping it will be a good experience without any crying episodes you really don't have the patience.

Okay, I'm done too!

Oh and you'd think I would be taking this opportunity to close my eyes since it's 1:30 am and the babies ate over an hour ago so now I'm going to get what? An hour and 1/2 before it's time to wake up again. Will I ever learn.

 

I hear you, sister. Sarah FREAKS out when strangers stop to make funny faces at her. It takes forever to calm her down again.
I know, I know, people are just being "nice" but I am sick to death of people upsetting my twins and touching them! It is cold and flu season, people! Stay the **** away from my girls!

I also just smile and rush on by, like I am late for a very important appointment. Sorry! gotta go! I often toss that over my shoulder as I speed by.
When we are in the check-out line or I am standing somewhere and can't move past, I turn the stroller (side-by-side) towards me and squat down in front of them, pretending to adjust a harness or retrieve a toy, thereby blocking them from curious folks. Good luck!

 

There are times it is frustrating and annoying, we all feel your pain. It will get better when you start to get more sleep and learn the Speedwalk of DOOM Jenny is talking about. :hug99:

You know what I have started doing? This really isn't nice at all... If I get an "off" comment, I just smile, say have a nice day, and walk away. Done with that conversation!!

 

CHECK THIS OUT!!!! I saw this at BRU a few weeks ago and thought it was BRILLIANT!!! Don't touch!

 

My pedi's office gave me a couple of those signs last year when the girls were really young. Until very recently, I kept them very prominently displayed on their car seats. I can't tell you the number of people I caught about to touch them until they read the signs. It was very helpful because I could "blame" the pediatrician rather than telling people to keep their hands off. I had a lot of moms who would come up and tell me they wished they had a similar sign. Highly recommended!

I know I'm in the minority, but I enjoy most people's attention and comments. I'm very proud of my girls (as I know all moms are), and I am happy to show them off as long as people don't touch. I have mastered the smile, thank you, "yes, they do keep me busy..." and continue walking just to make sure I am able to get my errands done.

Suzanne

 

Always walk fast with your head down and never, never make eye contact!!

 

Definately learn the speedwalk of Doom It works like a charm. Do Not Make Eyecontact!!!!!!
Sorry you are tired, I know exactly what you are talking about, and I get the exact comments.
Just smile and walk on, it's definately the easiest.

 

Urrrgghhh!!! My DH has started despising the celebrity status!!! It was fun the first few times we went out. Now, when you barely have half an hour to spend shopping before next feed when it normally takes me 2 hours...shop assistants in EVERY bloody shop you enter in the mall asking either "are they twins?" or "are they boys?" is getting very annoying!!! ofcourse they are twins...they look the same, they are dressed similarly, it's a double buggy!! Sometimes I feel like replying "No, not twins, one is mine and the other his" pointing to DH.

Last weekend, DH and I went to an Indian Festival - Diwali in the city. Being Indians ourselves, we were stunned at the reaction we got from fellow Indians!!!!! Imagine yourself, DH and two 11 week old babies in a double buggy in between about 5000 people and being stopped, stared at, pointed at, given numerous advice, being asked the same old questions over and over again by every 2nd person you pass!!! Also being hugged and congratulated by some random woman after she told us how to take away the evil eye( or as I see it - negative energy or aura) away from the babies once we got home!!

DH and I decided to leave after about 3 stalls as all the attention was overwhelming!!!

 

I've kind of gotten used to it. If I hear oohhs and ahhhs or the word twins, I put my head down, don't make eye contact and walk faster. If I'm standing still, I answer the stupid questions (pink dresses, pink carseats, pink earrings - and you still can't tell they are girls??) nicely. BUT, if I am busy.... soothing a fussy child, locking them in their carseats, taking them from the truck, etc....then I just ignore the questions completely. Yes, it's rude but hey I'm busy! I have to pay attention to what I'm doing...not to what strangers want to know about my kids and my personal life ("breast or bottle?" "did you have a c-section?" are you kidding me?) I'm a SAHM and I look at it as a full-time job and when I'm with them I'm working, I'm on a schedule, I've got deadlines. Do I come to your job and ask you how much your kids weighed when they were born??!!!

 

Always walk fast with your head down and never, never make eye contact!!

this is what i do too, but i thought i would enjoy the attention since i'm so proud of these little ones, but the time constraints are SO THERE

i feel so bad now that when i was pg and went to buy all my baby gear at BRU there was a man with a double sng with b/g twins and i actually ASKED are they twins? how old are they? and said they were cute....to this man last march in Tucson AZ, i am SORRY LOL in my defense, i was excited that this was actually what my babies might look like when they arrived

 

Vent away! There are days I don't mind the attention and then days when I have an hour before needing to get home and feed them bottles, and I have a huge list of things that must be accomplished. I usually do as pp said (but didn't have a name for it until now.. thanks Jenny!), walk fast, look rushed, and don't respond when you hear "ooh twins!" -Leighann

 

Whenever people started getting close to my babies I would instinctively put their carseat "hoods" up...and I usually had the handle up too, so that added extra blockage...people would literally have to bend over to see into their stroller if they were that nosy!! And if they still persisted I would usually chime in with..."oh they're sleeping, please don't touch.." My one stroller has hoods that go the other way too...so sometimes I'd push those closed too, so then they'd be completely closed up and the person would getting the idea pretty quickly!! LOL!

 

I actually had lunch with my friend (triplet mom) and people were walking by... Saying Awww twins... OMG :shok: Triplets!!! It was kinda nice not being bothered...

 

QUOTE(mushkin @ Oct 28 2007, 09:50 AM) [snapback]470354[/snapback]
Sometimes I feel like replying "No, not twins, one is mine and the other his" pointing to DH.


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QUOTE(sunshinetwins @ Oct 28 2007, 05:48 PM) [snapback]470841[/snapback]
I'm a SAHM and I look at it as a full-time job and when I'm with them I'm working, I'm on a schedule, I've got deadlines. Do I come to your job and ask you how much your kids weighed when they were born??!!!


:yahoo: Exactly!!
QUOTE(AshleyLD @ Oct 28 2007, 10:12 PM) [snapback]471186[/snapback]
I actually had lunch with my friend (triplet mom) and people were walking by... Saying Awww twins... OMG :shok: Triplets!!! It was kinda nice not being bothered...

I guess I need a friend with triplets

 

i haven't taken the girls out anywhere yet, but as i was leaving the hospital to go home with them for the first time, i was surrounded by people ooh-ing and aah-ing at my tiny little newborns. i refused to take the blankets off their faces. and then i got the "oh, you're gonna have your hands full" comment and i said, "and my heart full", and she said, "well, yeah, you're right."
as a matter of fact, as i was still IN the hospital, walking the girls in the bassinet up and down the hall, a woman was up in their face ooh-ing at them. i wanted to be like, "aren't you here to see someone else's baby?"