I am so stressed out!

I know that, for the most part, I have been blessed with two of the most easy-going kids on the planet. And I am so thankful for that... BUT.
Three weeks ago, my husband changed jobs within his company to pre-empt being in a position to be laid off if they cut his old department. The money is tighter now, and he's working Saturdays, so I'm all by myself 6 days a week now instead of 5. On top of that, the boys have been teething and then we all got sick. My blissful happy easy-going Joel now screams bloody murder at nap time, every nap time. I have to rock him to sleep now, and he screams the entire time until he falls asleep.

This morning, while I was feeding them, I knocked over my coffee and spilled it all over my bedroom floor (white carpet!!!!) and had to steam clean it (before getting any coffee!!!) And I ended up getting the boys down a little late for their first nap and it took 20 minutes to get Joel down because he was screaming. I refuse to do CIO--they are too young, and I'm just not able to let my babies cry. So he screamed in my ear as I shhhed and rocked him until he fell asleep. Joel, who used to love nap time!!!

Their 4 month pediatrician appointment is coming up this week, and of course I'm going it alone--and they are going to get 4 more shots and I'm already stressed about that. My parents are coming to visit this weekend, but they can't come until Saturday.

I was supposed to get the "afternoon off" yesterday. So I went and got my hair cut. But because we can't plan anything ahead, I ended up just going to one of those cheap chain walk-in places, and the girl who cut my hair really didn't have ANY idea what she was doing (luckily, she seemed to know this and let me direct her). Anyway, I ended up telling her she'd done just what I wanted about halfway through the cut just to limit the damage done. So I ended up back at home just 30 minutes after I left, dissatisfied with my cut, and I came home to two unhappy babies, and the second I walked in the door, my husband handed them to me and said "here, I've got to mow the lawn." and so I was by myself again with two grumpy babies the rest of the day.

I'm just exhausted and depleted and really, really needed to get that off my chest.

 

Ugh, I'm so sorry. Sounds like you're in desperate need of a break....I so hope you get to recharge a little bit when your parents are here.

I'm sitting here thinking of how I could offer to help....but, my bringing my own kids over is not going to ease your stress, LOL. When Nadia is done with school after next week, though, I can leave them all with Bill -- and I'd be happy to come up and give you a break one afternoon!

 

:hug99: You definitely need a break. Start planning a real afternoon off once your parents get there.

 

You definately need a break. Like I tell my DH "If mama aint happy, nobody is happy." I get so frustrated too when I am with them 24/7 day after day after day. It will break you down not to get a break every once in a while. I hope you get a much needed break.

 

:hug99:

4mo was really tough for me! Naps were atrocious, feeding was a nightmare, nights worse than days! But soon thereafter it got REALLY good!!

 

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I'm just exhausted and depleted and really, really needed to get that off my chest.


:hug99: And that's what we're here for. :hug99:

 

Aw, :hug99: 4 months was a really rough age in my house too. At 5 months things started "clicking" and by 6 months we were doing great. I know it may not seem like it now, but things will get better soon.

 

UGH!!! I'm frustrated for you. I remember (and still have) those days where even the smallest thing seems like a huge deal when added to the previous events of the day, week, month. And it's especially difficult for us SAHM's because you can't help but be annoyed that your partner has to work and can't help out but that annoyance turns to guilt because you know they HAVE to work or no one eats . It's a sticky situation and it's totally understandable that you're feeling so stressed. And the haurcut...that would bug me to no end. The only thing worse than tending to fussy babies is tending to fussy babies while sporting a lame 'do . Find a cute head band or baseball cap and take the babes out to the park or the mall if the weather does not permit. The change of scenery might be what all three of you need. And can you ask your pediatrician to reschedule for the day that your family will be here? Most doctors are pretty lenient with mothers of multiples. I know mine goes above and beyond for us. Hope you start feeling better soon.

 

THANK YOU LADIES!!!! I can't tell you how much your kind words mean to me today. I do feel a little better now. I've got the boys down for a nap (that will hopefully last longer than 20 minutes) and I managed to get a shower--although the rinse cycle on the washing machine hit just as I got all lathered up and the water turned freezing cold and made me jump, but even that made me switch from crying in the shower to crying and laughing in the shower!

I just feel like the days where I lose my sense of humor are the days where I'm losing my mind. Just the fact that I could laugh at myself a little made me feel a little more like me.

Becca--Perhaps next week after things are settled down a little bit for all of us (see, I'm already trying to think positive!!!) I will take you up on that--or even just getting together for some good conversation might tide me over!!!

 

:hug99: I really hope things work out well for DH at work and that you get a much needed break soon. We can all relate to the tough twin mommy moments .

 

You have every right to feel stressed out - there is so much going on with you! Hopefully you can plan something nice for when your company comes. Just thinking of you and completely understanding. You are not alone...

 

Vent away.
My babies are older but I still totally feel your pain. My oldest spent a week and half with grandma so I had all these great plain…did not get any of them done. My DH tries but he is just not a baby person, gets frustrated in record time. So the bulk of everything falls on me and I can only do so much, Plus our house is too small and the babies sleep in our room so a routine is dang near impossible. I too broke down and went to one of those walk in places to get my haircut. I told the guy I wanted something new and cute because I felt frumpy and he informed as long as I have young kids there is no point because I wouldn’t be able to keep it up and it would end up in a pony tail all the time anyways.

 

Sending hugs your way. It is hard to be alone all that time with cranky babies..I know my husband works six days a week and the boys have been very cranky. I hope Joel starts to like nap time again for you real soon. Hang in there.

Dianna

 

It is exhausing and never-ending, I know. (But we still love it and know we're so lucky!)

 

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4mo was really tough for me! Naps were atrocious, feeding was a nightmare, nights worse than days! But soon thereafter it got REALLY good!!


I agree! It got better after that-they go down easier for naps and the nights are so much better! Hang in there and try to find time for you even though it is so hard!

 

My girls are right behind your boys so I am starting to feel that 4 month crazy stuff. I am here with you. But I have found that the goods days usually follow the few rough days. So, hopefully you get the good days soon. :hug99:

 

Sorry you're having such a rough time right now...my boys are 18 weeks (13 weeks adj.) and just the past week all of a sudden nap times have been a nightmare! They were sleeping 2-3 hours for their morning nap and now I have to rock them and shhhh them and then I'm lucky if they sleep for 30 minutes. It must be the age!! Hang in there...you're not alone! In fact, someone is awake now.......

 

Sorry things are rough right now. :hug99:

 

hugs to you! Mine are a bit younger than yours, but my hubby also works saturdays. He also works nights so I get to deal w/ the fussy time all on my own! Though right now they are being fussy ALL day.

 

Just wanted to give you some :hug99:

 

Glad you're feeling better. Hopefully, things will settle down soon! Twins are so challenging and wonderful all in one!! Take care.


Lisa

 

:hug99: Vent away, please! I've found that sometimes we all just need a little mom-to-mom venting to make us feel human again!

What's up with DH's anyhow? Why is it so hard for them to be supportive of us getting a teeny bit of 'down time' to ourselves? :umm: