I am SO Sick and tired of people

I'm so tired of people saying to me "you t hink you're tired NOW, just wait til they" (fill in the blank: crawl, walk, go to school, whatever.

Well, my girls were just five months old, and i CAN wait til those things happen, because i'm trying to be in the HERE AND NOW with them.

And know what, I'm REALLY tired now. I had a horrendous pregnancy, I have two babies, I'm nursing and pumping, so STOP TELLING ME HOW MUCH MORE TIRED I'LL BE LATER!!!!!!!!!!

And, of course, this mostly comes from people who have never had twins, so i want to get nasty and tell them to come back with advice after they've raised theris.

i know i'm just exhausted and cranky and housebound and PO'd, bt- SHEESH, i wish people would just let me have NOW; i waited so long for these babies who are a product of hopes and fears and tears and prayers - JUST LET ME ENJOY THEM!!!!

OK, i'm done. I probably need some chocolate. or, say, forty hours' sleep!

 

I can understand what you mean! I haven't had mine and people say things like that to me about.....wait until this or that.....it's annoying!!

 

:hug99: I completely understand. My conception and pregnancy were both such insanely stressful and terrible experiences... I just want to be in the here and now with my babies, too, after all we went through to get them here safely. They grow so fast, and the next stage will come too soon anyway-- I really don't need to stress and worry over what's coming next. If I did, I'd miss everything!!! I am glad I don't have a lot of family around here, because I hear enough bizarre and frustrating comments from my inlaws and strangers (!?).

 

I am right there with you. I am having the same thing, also with people asking " are they twins?" --isnt it obvious that theyare? two babies the same age????
i always have abby in pink/purple and chris in blue and yet i getthe question " awe do u have 2 boys or 2 girls????
and people just reaching in the stroller and touching them!!!!!!!!!! ITS SO ANNOYING!!!!!

 

:hug99:

 

:hug99: I use to get that a lot... now I get, 'you look so miserable!' GEE ya think?

 

What I hate is that they say "Just wait until they xyz" with such glee, like they're happy you'll be so miserable. :huh:

 

My ever helpful MIL seems to find it necessary to tell me that the boys will regress and not sleep through the night anymore all the time. I hate even answering the question "do they sleep through the night" b/c as soon as I answer yes, I hear oh just wait until blah, blah, blah. I told my hubby to slap me if I ever do that to someone else!

 

QUOTE(ksugal @ Aug 22 2007, 02:05 AM) [snapback]374440[/snapback]
. I told my hubby to slap me if I ever do that to someone else!


Oh no! You have to slap me!!

I am so guilty!!! I'm sorry ladies!!

I have never said that for malicious reasons, it's more of a "Wow, I've BTDT adn I can't believe I survived but I sympathize and now you're on that path, so let me give you a glimpse of what's ahead so we can be buddies...."
...kind of way.

I'll stop, I promise!!!

 

Seriously, I thought the infant stage was the hardest part! I love it when they become independent and don't need me so much, and NO I'm not more tired than I was then because DS2 actually SLEEPS! :lol: Trust me, you'll have so much fun with them once they're learning how to talk and walk and discover their surroundings. I'm probably in the minority, but I am not a big fan of tiny babies (sue me).

(of course, I'm doing completely the opposite and telling you how much you'll love it, so I'll stop )

Hugs!

 

:hug99: I promise you it gets easier as they get older.

 

I HATE this remark too! I get it ALL THE TIME from my MIL. Drives me insane. I'm trying to live in the here and now, not the future.

Anyways, I truly believe that things have gotten easier for me since the newborn stage and I think it will continue!

and I know how tired you are! I'm working full time, nursing, pumping, have 5 1/2 month old twins who are teething!! WE ARE TIRED!!

 

People are just idiots IMO, and they have NO clue about twins unless they've BTDT, and even then, it is kind of cruel to say how hard it's going to be. I got that during my pregnancy all the time and HATED it! The girls are now 10 months old and I have to say I love it, they are soooo much fun, and have been ever since they started becoming more aware and mobile. You have great things ahead of you! :hug99:

 

Add me to the "I hate that!" club.

I felt like crap when I was pregnant, so exhausted all the time. Everyone said, "Just wait til the babies are here, then you'll really be tired!" And I always told them, "Yeah, but at least I won't be pregnant anymore!"

It's true. Sure, I'm tired, but I feel like myself. Pregnancy was like 9 months of flu. I feel much better taking care of two babies than I did growing them inside me. I'd take twin newborns over twin pregnancy any day of the week.

And now my mom, who helps me out a lot, keeps saying "Just wait til they're crawling/walking, then you'll really be tired!"

I hate hearing that. For one thing, part of overcoming PPD for me was training myself not to worry too much, not to think about all the things that could go wrong. A depressed way of thinking would be "I'm so tired now, and it's going to be even worse once they're mobile, OMG, what am I going to do, it's going to be terrible..." and work myself up into a panic. Instead, I just try to think that every stage has its own challenges, and for every thing that gets harder, some things will get easier. I may be chasing them more during the day - but they may sleep longer at night. They may be into everything - but at least they'll be able to play independently more, and I'll be able to get more done during their wake time. And the more interactive they get, the more fun I have with them.

 

QUOTE(Overachiever @ Aug 21 2007, 09:19 PM) [snapback]374540[/snapback]
Oh no! You have to slap me!!

I am so guilty!!! I'm sorry ladies!!

I have never said that for malicious reasons, it's more of a "Wow, I've BTDT adn I can't believe I survived but I sympathize and now you're on that path, so let me give you a glimpse of what's ahead so we can be buddies...."
...kind of way.

I'll stop, I promise!!!

Do you hear that sound? It's the lynch mob coming after you! Run away! Run away! :blbl:

 

I hate it too, as if they have ANY idea of what we go through on a day to day basis of raising twins and running a house and being wives/daughters/sisters, etc. I hated the saying "oh get your rest now" when I was pregnant! As if we could store it up and use it later, right? Besides who the heck got any sleep when they were pregnant with the awful feeling of laying down caused? Now I just have the stupid comments go in one ear and right out the other and 'enjoy the now' as you put it.

 

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esides who the heck got any sleep when they were pregnant with the awful feeling of laying down caused?


Yeah - when I was pregnant, I'd wake up in pain and/or needing to pee every hour. The babies don't wake me up NEAR that often! :rofl:

 

I don't know why people have to be so annoying. It's as if they delight in telling you how miserable/difficult your life is going to be. Last year, we had friends staying with us for a month and they had 2 kids. They kept telling us about how terrible it was going to be for us when we had two kids, how much more difficult, etc. etc. Well, while they were still visiting, I found out I was carrying twins. I finally told my friend to knock it off with the doom and gloom. It was hard enough being pregnant without hearing how much my life was going to suck with multiple kids.

Honestly, I don't know why people like this even have kids if they're so negative about them!

 

I hated that too. I got "just wait till their BOTH walking!" all the time, since Ainsley was a late walker and I only had one walking for 8 months. I would say "I can't WAIT!" Really, life is so much easier with two walking toddlers. I also got the "You think you're tired now..." which was annoying. Really, sometimes it did seem like people were hoping for me to be miserable or something.

 

QUOTE(Angelmommy @ Aug 21 2007, 10:24 PM) [snapback]374158[/snapback]
I am right there with you. I am having the same thing, also with people asking " are they twins?" --isnt it obvious that theyare? two babies the same age????
i always have abby in pink/purple and chris in blue and yet i getthe question " awe do u have 2 boys or 2 girls????
and people just reaching in the stroller and touching them!!!!!!!!!! ITS SO ANNOYING!!!!!

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This happens to me all the time! Just this morning I pushed them in the snap n go into the YMCA. They are dressed alike in PINK and in PINK carseats and this lady says "Oh look twins! A boy and a girl!" I have to admit, I snapped! "See all the pink? (waving my arms like a magician over rabbit in a hat) They are both girls." This was the first time I got a little testy, but SERIOUSLY don't people think before they say something?! It didn't stop her from asking about 4 more questions before I just smiled and started pushing them towards the nursery.

Yesterday we were walking across the parking lot to Babies R Us and I hear "Excuse me. Excuse me." I finally turned around and it's a woman IN HER CAR following us! It's about 100 degrees outside and I'm trying to get us to the store before we all melt, but there she is in the comfort of her air conditioned car with the window cracked just enough to ask me questions about the girls!

 

That is funny.....I am rarely offended because I know how stupid people can be (worked with the public my whole career) BUT that comment is the one that p**ses me off, too.

Actually I disagree with it. As they get older no matter how much they crawl, walk, and throw tantrums, I truly think ANYTHING will be better than the all-consuming first few months when they suck the life out of us and do not sleep on schedules. At least that was the case with my first son and my twin mom friends whose kids are older say the same thing.

 

I don't think it will ever end

 

People keep saying to me "Oh doesn't the time just fly by with babies" and I keep saying "You get up every morning at 5:30 and run around until you finall colapse around 11 or 12 (and maybe have to wake up in between) and tell me how fast your day goes - mine are dragging!"

 

We had the girls out last weekend and we got the "are they twins???"" at least a dozen times. Are you kidding me? Then one of them was crying and the other one wasn't......some lady actually asked if they ever cry at the same time? Then to top that off she kept referring to them as fussy little boys....they were dressed in PINK DRESSES!!!! Like taking twins out isn't heard enough, but then to deal with the comments on top of it!!! Ugh!

 

I'm so happy you posted this! I finally met a woman in Target who told me she had 4 year old twin girls and how much fun they were. She just said, "Just hang in there and wait and see...it gets so much better." I came thisclose to hugging her!

When they were born, it was "wait 'till they roll over"...when they rolled over, it was "wait till they sit up" ....when they sat up, it was "wait till they crawl"....now they are crawling and climbing and trying so hard to stand on their own. Ya' know what, it's soooooooooo much better than day one. Day one literally scared the life out of me.

Oh, and the sleep deprivation I experienced in the beginning could never compare to the minor annoyance of trying to get them to sleep at night. Sleep deprivation that I experienced when they were newborns is no joke and scary. Trying to get them to sleep at this stage is just a nuisance....

 

I too heard the wait until they crawl, walk, etc questions. But I just felt that anything would be easier then 2 colicky, fussy babies!!! Well I was right. Things got SO much easier once they started crawling and walking. Now I am able to do laundry, cook meals, etc while they are awake and entertaining themselves. I could never get anything done when they were little except when they were asleep and they didnt sleep very long! Now it is wonderful having twins. All the long, hard, rough, sleepless nights are over and they are pure angels (well except for the terrible 2's fast approaching but I will take tantrums over infants twins anyday)

Hang in there, it gets BETTER when they start walking! Try not to get offended, people think they know it all and most of them dont know a thing!

 

I have to laugh....it's all soooo true - the stupid things people say! I absolutely hate the "Are they twins?". They are both the same size and wearing the same exact thing. Duh! One of these days I'm going to look at them and ask "what else would they be?". I'm sure it's just an automatic comment that comes out, but after the 1,049 time it gets old! I also get the "oh, you must have your hands full" comment when I'm out with the twins and older DD. So far I've actually had a great time with the twins (the two of them together are easier than my older DD was & is) so I usually overwhelm them with how wonderful they have been and how much I love having them. By the time our conversation is over, they are begging for twins also!