I am overwhelmed.

I just had a mini breakdown here at my desk at work, (crying and crying)I had to go in the bathroom and wet my face. I am just so tired and the pain is not helping. I just feel so overwhelmed and sad. I am usually ok but today seems like one of those days.I don't really talk to anybody and tell them all the things I have been feeling during this pregnancy but it is really hard. I mean I have been pregnant four times and everytime I felt like I could handle it...but this one just seems like I physically and mentally just can't do it....I mean maybe its just hormones ,maybe I am sleep deprived or something but I have never felt this upset, sad and overwhelmed before.

I don't know its just really getting me down. I have a doc's appt tomorrow so I guess I will mention it to her. I don't know.

 

I am sorry you are feeling overwhelmed. I would definitely mention it to your Dr. :hug99:

 

:hug99:
I too have had those days… and I don’t have 4 children…
i hope your week gets better...

Elizabeth

 

I had some of the same feelings when I was pregnant. Before getting pregnant, I was not a person who cried easily. Once I was pregnant, oh wow did that change. I once cried at work one day because someone ate my applecause from the refrigerator. Nothing to get that upset about. I think hormones has a lot to do with it and I think it is normal to go through it. Can you take a few hours off from work for some you time? Maybe get a pedicure (that always made me feel better when I was pregnant), rent a good chick flick? Good luck!

 

Maybe you feel this way becuae you are a bit overwhelmed at the prospect of twins. Earlier in my pregnancy I was feeling mentally and physically overwhelmed. Thankfully, I have gotten past it and am doing well. I kept thinking that I already had three children and not enough time in the day, etc. Now I still feel that way, but I feel blessed at the same time. I think it is good that you have an appointment tomorrow and can mention all this to your doctor. I hope you are feeling better soon. Remember, one day at a time...

 

I would also mention it to your doctor. He/She may be able to help.

I'm sorry you feel so overwhelmed. :hug99: Twin pregnancies are no walk in the park.

 

I am overwhelmed too....I had a mini breakdown today too, but since I am on bedrest....only my husband was around...I know it is just all of those hormones. I have a doctors' appointment tomorrow too.....Looks like we are the same as far as "how far along" we are....QUOTE(mrsdee1234plustwo @ Jan 16 2008, 10:26 AM) [snapback]575112[/snapback]
I just had a mini breakdown here at my desk at work, (crying and crying)I had to go in the bathroom and wet my face. I am just so tired and the pain is not helping. I just feel so overwhelmed and sad. I am usually ok but today seems like one of those days.I don't really talk to anybody and tell them all the things I have been feeling during this pregnancy but it is really hard. I mean I have been pregnant four times and everytime I felt like I could handle it...but this one just seems like I physically and mentally just can't do it....I mean maybe its just hormones ,maybe I am sleep deprived or something but I have never felt this upset, sad and overwhelmed before.

I don't know its just really getting me down. I have a doc's appt tomorrow so I guess I will mention it to her. I don't know.

 

i hope you feel better soon. i had a meltdown at work on sunday, and i work retail, so it was quite a scene lol. deeeep breath :hug99:

 

I totally understand. One minute during the day I feel ok and next minute I feel like I won't be able to get through this pregnancy. It is definitely not like being pregnant with one. Hope you have a better day tomorrow. :hug99:

 

Thanks ladies. I'm glad you other moms are out there and understand what I am talking about, like I said I really don't tell anyone what's going on...people think when you already have kids that you can "handle" everything. Hopefully tomorrow will be better. I will definately mention it to my doc tomorrow. I just hate feeling like a "weakling" but I have to chalk this up to hormones and realizing that this pregnancy really is going to be more difficult than the others.

"One day at a time" is really good advice. Tomorrow will be a new day.
Thanks again for letting me get it all out.

@Teine why are you on bedrest?

 

I am a mom of 4, work, go to college (online this semester and only taking 1 class) and I completely know how you feel. You are definately NOT a weakling. First and foremost, your body was made to carry 1 child at a time. When you are carrying twins, it goes into overdrive. I have a hard time knowing if my boss and the other employees really understand how much being pregnant with twins takes out of a person. Unfortunately, neither do my DH or my children. They just don't understand how walking down the hall to the bathroom, can make you out of breath, taking a shower and getting dressed in the mornings brings on a nap (even though you just got up prior to), or making dinner is all the energy you have left at night. You definately need to take some time out for you! Like PP suggested, go get a pedicure. That foot soak and massage would feel great about now! It is tough having to work, care for the children already there, and take care of yourself and the twins growing inside. I know my twins have decided that they stay up till about 11:00 kicking and squirming, sleep until 3:30, and begin again, then sleep until around 9. It's tough trying to sleep through all that, and having to get up and tinkle! You are doing a great job, and it's important for you to know that there is nothing wrong with being overwhelmed, tired, or emotional. It is your body and mind's way of preparing your and nurturing your twins during this time. Hope you feel better and give yourself a hug! You deserve it! We all do! :hug99:

 

I know exactly how you feel. I was having the crying and feeling overwhelmed stuff about every other day. When I mentioned it to the OB she said that my stress in this case was real and not chemical so she thought antidepressants would help. They do. I still have days where I'm not sure if I can handle it, but they are few and far between. You should mention it to your Dr. That's what they are there for. Other than that all I can say is try to take a deep breath and tell us all about it. If you don't have anyone to tell, you can always vent here and know you will get support.

 

Sorry you are feeling bad. It is probably a combination of things but definitely mention it to your doctor.

 

Oh, so sorry you feel this way! Are you in your first trimester? I was VERY emotional in my first trimester!
No one I know very well has had twins and I felt so, huh, I don't know.... can I handle this kind of feeling.
I have a sweet husband, he helped me through things. But at the time, my 2 yr old was going through an attachment
phase and I was about to loose it because she would only want me to hold her. It was ruff, but then one day
I told my husband... LOOK you need to help me out with this... I don't feel good and it's a lot on me right now.
But I don't work. I bet you are tired working and trying not to have a melt down. But let out girl! It's ok,
you'll be alright. Sometimes you need to do that!! It feels better sometimes to let it all out! Hang in there... here
is a big hug from me in Atlanta, GA :hug99:

Tina

 

I'm sorry you're feeling so lousy. :hug99: I have heard a lot of women here say that their twin pregnancy was much different/harder than their singleton pregnancy. I have said this a million times and i just said it again to a friend today, i can't imagine being pregnant with twins with a toddler running around...and you have four children. I can only imagine how exhausted you must be and how overwhelming the prospect of twins might be for you. I've been on an emotional rollercoaster this whole pregnancy, as thrilled and grateful as I am to be pregnant. I cry so easily, sometimes I have no idea why. Definitely talk to your doctor. Hang in there, and do visit often...this is a great place to come to talk with women who can understand.

 

I've had some of those days where you feel so overwhelmed and discouraged, especially when the pain/discomfort were really hard to take, being unable to sleep at night because of the discomfort, unable to get up from the bed to go the bathroom several times at night and so on... ultimately you make it. And before you realize it you're there, ready to have your babies. I agree, "one day at a time" is a good way to approach the pregnancy, together with celebrating each week you go through.

Hang in there :hug99: !

 

I too felt very overwhelmed around 22-26 weeks; maybe it is the hormones and maybe it is beacuse our bodies are just trying to do so much. I had a lot of hip/groin and back pain and cried a lot!! I am now 29 weeks and feeling better; I use a belly support which seems to have helped immensely with the back pain, started prenatal yoga, which helps my mind. Good luck and I hope things get better for you.