I am guessing one day singleton moms will

When (if) singleton moms decide to have a second child, i imagine thats when they look at those of us with twins and wish they were us, one pregnancy and one newborn stage produces two children! I can't wait until I get to the stage where singleton moms look at me and wish they were me, perhaps that will be once the twins are over a year old.... because right now they just look at me and think poor girl...

 

Sometimes I am envious of getting to be pregnant twice and going through the newborn stage twice! :blush: One time someone told me that if she was pregnant with twins she'd feel "jipped" out of a pregnancy, and that comment has always stayed with me for some reason.

Of course, when they get to a certain age it will be the same as anyone else who has 2 kids, KWIM?

 

I get envious comments all the time! Twins are so special! Twice the work, but twice the fun!

Brooklyne

 

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When (if) singleton moms decide to have a second child, i imagine thats when they look at those of us with twins and wish they were us, one pregnancy and one newborn stage produces two children!


I've had women say this to me many, many times actually! I got many more pitying faces when I had the SNG with two infant carseats. I can understand why that would look like a lot of work, actually. I started using our SBS when they were five months old and, I think, have been getting less comments since then.

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Sometimes I am envious of getting to be pregnant twice and going through the newborn stage twice! :blush:


Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like to have two babies at two different times, like I always thought it would be. I think it's cool, though, that mine started interacting more at five months old and are now playmates all day, everday .

 

I must be lucky because I've only gotten one negative comment ("I'd shoot myself"- to which I wanted to reply "You should!"). I think having more than one kid (no matter how that happens) has its own challenges...

 

I know a few who would KILL to have their kids play together 1/4 as much as mine do! They are sitting at the breakfast table right now talking to each other and pretending to be butterflies and stuff. They are Funny and keep each other company SO WELL!!

THAT DAY IS COMING!!!! (Oh, when they see other kids they introduce each other as "my best friend Ali or My best friend Martin") TAKE THAT!! :woohoo:

 

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I know a few who would KILL to have their kids play together 1/4 as much as mine do! They are sitting at the breakfast table right now talking to each other and pretending to be butterflies and stuff. They are Funny and keep each other company SO WELL!!

THAT DAY IS COMING!!!! (Oh, when they see other kids they introduce each other as "my best friend Ali or My best friend Martin") TAKE THAT!!:woohoo:


That is so cute!

Yeah, my boys are so in love with each other it is crazy! They crack each other up!

 

If they aren't jealous they should be!

I only had to experience morning sickness once. (okay, so it lasted 15 weeks, but still)

I only had to go through L&D once.

I only had to have my ab muscles stretched beyond recognition once.

I only had to go through the sleep deprivation of the newborn weeks once.

I only had to experience the pain of learning to breastfeed once.

etc. etc. etc.

 

I have a somewhat unique experience of having a singleton followed by twins. Let me tell you, there are pluses and minuses to each pregnancy, and to raising them each so far. I just feel very lucky to have three healthy, mainly well-behaved and happy, little ones, no matter what combination they arrived in. I think no matter what your situation is, there is always something that someone else will be envious about.

 

I'm one who has stated in the past about feeling gipped out of a pregnancy. I'd go through it all again if I could. I really had a great birth experience (both times) this time especially and would love to do it again! I do feel VERY blessed that Evan came along. I do however think it is easier in some ways to have two kids the same age (developmentally) than two kids at different ages. I would not trade my current family for anything.

 

I've had some singleton moms say they understand what it's like to have twins because they have 2 kids. I thought it was funny!!

 

The PROs of twins -- they are at a the same age for naps instead of an older toddler who is down to one nap a day

---- they are into the same age of toys, instead of small piece toys you have to keep away from a small baby for choking issues

---- when they got to school it is likely the same year so no problem with disturbing a sleeping baby to take their older sibling to school. (unless you have 3)

--- if you only have 2 when they are out of those toys, clothes, etc you can get rid of all of the stuff.

---- even at 5 months they are starting to play together and amuse each other.


Cons of twins ---

--- a twin pregnancy is so much more difficult and more risky. (bedrest, increase preeclampsia, pains, nausea)

---- two babies in those first 3 months must I say more...

---- with twins you have two babies who can't feed themselves for a long time. If you have a toddler & baby one is already feeding themselves

---- the excessive attention

---- get into more trouble at ages 2-3 yrs since two brains working together ... one pushes the other pulls.

---- harder at 2-3 to chase after toddlers going in different directions. Even a year apart there is a different level of maturity.

--- missing out on just being in aw of that first child and then doing it again and really seeing so much more the second time around.

--- have to carry two around instead of one walking and the other being carried.

Heather