I am going to scream

It's so early to be frustrated I think but DD is an angel and DS is always gassy, fussy and just a very unhappy baby! I have no idea how to help him we have tried just about everything and nothing seems to work. It's now 11pm and while I should be in bed resting I am awaiting his next fit of non stop crying. My little babies are just three weeks old, why is this happening? How can I fix it?

 

I am so sorry....!!!!
I had one perfect angel & one fussy/gassy one as well. It DOES get better! (and actually they switched a couple times on who was the good one!)
For the gassy/fussy one we gave her mylicon, tried different formula (ended up on soy & stayed there), and were basically just patient.
Try to talk to your Pedi as well & see what they recommend.
One thing someone on here told me during those first couple of challenging months was to repeat this saying in those moments that you want to scream:
'This too shall pass, this too shall pass'!!!
IT WILL GET BETTER....hang in there & hugs to you ~

 

Awww my DS was a gassy baby too. I ended up putting him on soy and that seemed to help him more then anything else we tried. I laugh about it now thinking back, but I can remember laying in bed and hearing him start to wiggle and the dread would set in because I knew what was comign next. Then he would cry and cry (and wake up DD) and then pass gas (it was huge sometimes!) and then be fine. It happened over and over.....it was really hard. Unfortunately alot of it too just was an immature digestive system, and as the months went by he got better and better on his own. He is still gassy, and he has days where he seems uncomfortable and he gets fussy but then he is over it....it's not an all day thing like it was.
Like the pp said, switching formula and gas drops might help. Also try and burp him alot while he is eating, and moving his legs like he is riding a bike might help get some of the gas out. It will get better....I promise!

 

My DS was also very fussy (and still is more fussy) and we went through a period of non-stop screaming. It will get better!

:hug99:

 

I too had a super easy, sleepy baby, and a gassy, always fussy baby. Turns out that the fussy one had reflux, which was helped a great deal through medicine. He also is just plain colicky, and that is improving with age... but I have come to terms with the fact that he may always just be a higher-needs, more demanding individual! :hug99:

 

Has anyone tied the Enfamil Gentlease Lipil? I bought a can of that tonight in hopes that may give my little prince some comfort.

 

:hug99: for you. Both our twins were really gassy. The things that helped us were those Dr. Brown's bottles and those Mylicon gas drops. I never thought a bottle would make a difference, but those did for us.

 

My DS went/is going through this as well. We tried the milacon drops (didnt' seem to help us much) and changed formula four times (always with the ok from our pedi) and he is now on Alimentum. We also tried Zantac, which didn't work for us, and are now on Prevacid. That has REALLY helped the gas and fussiness. We do have to burp him often and sit him up after feedings too. If a "gas attack" comes on, we do the bicycle legs, stomach massage and just today someone told me to press the palm of their hands and massage the joint of their third finger (pressure points for digestion they said ???) Also the maturing of his system has something to do with it to I am sure.
Hang in there- it will get better! (Oh, we also changed bottle nipples too)

 

Aww, hang in there!! :love0028:

They're still so young, your one may just be having more trouble adjusting to life outside the womb than the other. Do talk to your pediatrician, though, and see if there are problems like people suggested.

Have you tried the sort of womb-ish comforting techniques--slings, swings, swaddles? My DS was pretty fussy for the first few weeks, but now has settled into a really happy, pleasant kid. I would walk around the house with him, especially in the late afternoon, in a sling and it would usually settle him down.

I used the Gentlease for a bit--my kids did not do well on soy formula at all (I'm bfing/supplementing with formula). Your pedi should be able to give you a sample.

Hang in there!!!!!!

 

We do Gentlease. It seemed to be the best formula for both, the straight up milk formula wasn't tolerated and the soy made both of them constipated. So we tried Gentlease and within a week, both of them were able to eat well.

But when we tried to go to the generic Gentlease (Target brand), Alice couldn't keep it down. (She also has reflux) so we switched back to the name brand. Once they started eating baby food and started being able to eat more different types of foods, we slowly switched back to the Target brand generic. Our only problem is that now Royce is chronically constipated. But the pediatrician doesn't think it's the formula, so we just have to make sure he gets prunes and prune juice daily.

Definitely try a different type of bottle too, we started with Dr. Browns and loved them. Now we're on Avent because everyone gave us Avents when their kids stopped taking bottles.

**edited because I forgot the word "formula**

 

QUOTE(EmilyM @ May 23 2008, 06:57 AM) [snapback]789165[/snapback]
:hug99: for you. Both our twins were really gassy. The things that helped us were those Dr. Brown's bottles and those Mylicon gas drops. I never thought a bottle would make a difference, but those did for us.


I agree with Emily. We had to try several bottles before getting the right ones for my gassy girls (which happened to be TWO different brands!). That plus gas drops made things a little better. GL and hang in there. It won't always be like this. My little fussbuckets are the sweetest, craziest, funniest little toddlers ever!

 

Your post gives me chills. I DO NOT miss those days. It seemed like a good day for one was a bad for the other so there were very few good days for us. The good news is you can totally do this and it will get better. The bad news is that it may take a while. For us the breaking point was around 2 or 3 months. I know that seems like a super long time and it is but looking back on it if I could have just seen it as a truely temporary thing at least mentally it wouldn't have been so bad. The twins are our first so I just had no idea that babies could be so hard.

My advice - do whatever it takes to make them and you happy. Don't worry about having them sleep in swings/car seats/your bed. There is plenty of time later to get good habits.

:hug99:

 

I would call your pedi and tell them what is going on so they can make suggestions for a possible formula change. Everyone's pedi is going to tell them something different. We switched to Similac Soy and she suggested using the playtex bottles with liners to help reduce gas. We used the drops all the time and they didn't work and we finally did chamomille tea and that helped. Again, give them a call.

on the other hand, DS cried like that for 6 weeks and he wasnt' gassy or throwing up just cranky. We swaddled him and wrapped other blankets around him to give him that "womb" environment and that calmed him down. We also let him sleep in his swing or on us to get rest. You have to do what you have to do. Can't spoil them by doing what it takes.

GL

 

My girls were always very gassy and seemed like they were in pain very early on. I originally thought they were just colic but then I noticed that they were in great discomfort while I was feeding them. We discovered that they had an allergy the cows milk protein. We were able to switch formulas and never had the problem again. I would ask your doctor about this.

 

I am sorry you are going through this. It WILL get better and you will look back and wonder how you had strength to make it through those first 4 months. Before you know it they will be smiling at you and saying mama and melting your heart.

 

Have you tried gas drops? I had the same situation when the boys were that age. I gave Logan gas drops and thought they help a little.

 

I am so sorry you are going through this. We had a terrible, terrible time with one of our DDs. I don't know that it was gas but we did put her on the Gentlease and it helped a bit. But we didn't do it until she was about 3 months old. She is generally fussier in nature - when she is tired, she definitely lets you know it. Do whatever you can to make her sleep. If she likes the swing, let her swing. I used to put Hannah in a sling and rock her to sleep while I walked. I did that for a month.

Thankfully she has outgrown most of that although she is still the fussier of the two. It is terrible to just say "be patient, it will pass" - I know you want it to pass NOW!! I remember being so frustrated I would cry. And I remember getting so MAD at Hannah!!

Please know all of your feelings are normal. Can you take turns with your DH? That helps. It also helps to just get a bit of time to yourself to re-energize.

Keep us posted.

 

Mine were fussy as well --and still sometimes are, but nothing like the beginning few weeks. They were really sensitive to what I eat (I'm nursing and supplimenting) so as I figure that out it is getting better. When supplimenting we use the Gentlease, and it has been the best we've tried. Gas drops have helped my twins, but never helped any of my other babies. If you are BF, try leaving things out of your diet, like dairy, eggs, or different types of veggies. My boys also seem to be very routine-sensitive!! I am not a very schedule oriented person, but when I mess with their little routine they are much less settled.

I hope it calms down for you soon. The first months are tough but hang in there! They'll be happy little ones before you know it!

 

My son Chase was a mess for the first month - two months- we suspect he had colic- he was consistently miserable from 9pm - midnight every night!
What worked wonders for us was putting them to bed in the crib at 9 pm at around 1 and a half months- they both waked at 12, but it was the start of a good routine.

Also, a white noise machine is a must have for fussy babies. We also tried putting him in the car seat and then putting the seat on the dryer- an act of total desperation! Running the vaccum works well also.

Honestly, it's just an awful time- by two months they will be smiling and crying less, sleeping more- Good Luck

 

QUOTE(tamaras @ May 23 2008, 12:07 AM) [snapback]789036[/snapback]
I am so sorry....!!!!
I had one perfect angel & one fussy/gassy one as well. It DOES get better! (and actually they switched a couple times on who was the good one!)
For the gassy/fussy one we gave her mylicon, tried different formula (ended up on soy & stayed there), and were basically just patient.
Try to talk to your Pedi as well & see what they recommend.
One thing someone on here told me during those first couple of challenging months was to repeat this saying in those moments that you want to scream:
'This too shall pass, this too shall pass'!!!
IT WILL GET BETTER....hang in there & hugs to you ~


That's my story to a T!! And now at 8 months I have two happy go lucky babies and actually have more sleep issues with my 'good' sleeper as a newborn.

Hang in there, it will get SOOOOO much easier!

 

You are definitely not alone!!

I had one GREAT baby. He was peaceful hardly ever fussed... then I had my other who was a acid reflux baby... and NOTHING pleased him. It was really hard. After about the 6th month his acid reflux seemed to pretty much go away and he was as pleasant as the other twin.

Hang in there, :hug99:

 

We had the same situation. Mason was a good baby from the beginning and Logan was a screamer. He was fussy all the time and miserable each night. My pedi just kept saying he was colicky, gassy, etc. We tried gas drops and different bottles. I really didn't want to switch him to formula from breastmilk, but just before 3 mo we couldn't take it anymore. He was just so pitiful and I just wasn't buying it anymore that there wasn't something that could help. I also wasn't going to be able to leave him at daycare like that. My DH went to the store and came home with Nutramigen formula. It was like someone dropped a different baby on our doorstep overnight. I felt so horrible that we hadn't tried it sooner. Don't just accept what your pedi says, keep after them. After telling him about what happened, pedi said he did the same thing with his twins except he bought Alumentim (sp?). I wish he would have told us sooner, but of course he doesn't want to tell a mom not to give breastmilk.

Just hang in there and keep working with your pedi to hopefully find something that helps. Either way it will get better, with a solution or with time.

 

I know- it's rough! Both of mine were super gassy, drops didn't work. I switched to Similac Sensitive and they are fine now! Sofia is super needy though- but it has nothing to do w/ formula

 

QUOTE(bray64015 @ May 23 2008, 12:01 AM) [snapback]789031[/snapback]
It's so early to be frustrated I think but DD is an angel and DS is always gassy, fussy and just a very unhappy baby! I have no idea how to help him we have tried just about everything and nothing seems to work. It's now 11pm and while I should be in bed resting I am awaiting his next fit of non stop crying. My little babies are just three weeks old, why is this happening? How can I fix it?


Do not feel bad. your not doing anything wrong. i have a good baby and a gassy fussy lil man too. cole has been able to eat anything and huge amounts. alex fights me after three or four oz. and most nights from 5-8 before he conks out for the night. we switched him from avents to playtex bottles.. and he is much better now. not perfect but better.. we make sure we burp him after every oz or so. and put the gas drops right in his bottle. and keep him upright for a while after he eats. also a warm cloth on his belly when it gets bad where he is screaming calms him down. they are a lil over three months now and hes a million times better then he was , also we switched them to the gentlease. made a world of difference. give it a week on that formula. it wasnt immideate. infact he refused it at first.
good luck !

 

Jake was very gassy the first 3 months. We started with soy formula, but that made him constipated. Then switched to Gentlease. I noticed he had eczema so we thought it was a milk allergy and went to Nutramagin (which is very expensive). That did not do much, so we went back to Gentlease. He would be very uncomfortable for hours at a time and when he had a bm, it would be painful, but once he went or passed gas, he seemed to be fine.

What helped was Gripe Water. I've seen it at Target & Walgreens. It's all natural and it seemed to help. Mylicon did not help him at all.

They are almost 5 months and I think it was something he needed to grow out of.

 

QUOTE(bray64015 @ May 23 2008, 12:01 AM) [snapback]789031[/snapback]
It's so early to be frustrated I think but DD is an angel and DS is always gassy, fussy and just a very unhappy baby! I have no idea how to help him we have tried just about everything and nothing seems to work. It's now 11pm and while I should be in bed resting I am awaiting his next fit of non stop crying. My little babies are just three weeks old, why is this happening? How can I fix it?


Are you sure it's gassiness? We realized about this time that DS was really just hungry - we upped his bottle amounts and suddenly he was the easy baby. We had always thought it was gas or fussiness or he was just not happy, etc. But as soon as he was getting a little more food, he was our laid back little dude.

 

It seems like all of us have a more 'fussier" baby -- my DS was c-o-l-i-c-k-y and my DD was very laid back. Now she's the one who scrreeeeches when you leave the room; and he's mr. jolly. We addressed the fussiness by seeing our pediatrician who diagnosed reflux, a UTI and overall colic. We switched formula to the icky Alimentum and it really helped. Too bad it's so $$$. Good luck, they WILL settle down with time.

It seems like all of us have a more 'fussier" baby -- my DS was c-o-l-i-c-k-y and my DD was very laid back. Now she's the one who scrreeeeches when you leave the room; and he's mr. jolly. We addressed the fussiness by seeing our pediatrician who diagnosed reflux, a UTI and overall colic. We switched formula to the icky Alimentum and it really helped. Too bad it's so $$$. Good luck, they WILL settle down with time.