I am 40 and would like to go for the fourth!

Took a while for us to start our family - both pregnancies are ivf and we are truly blessed and lucky. If I was younger I wouldn't think twice about going for number four but being older I am not sure. We have 8 blastocysts frozen and would love to try them out!

Anyone here an older mum? How do you feel about it??

 

My aunt had her second child in her forties. As a matter of fact, my cousin was 22 when her little sister was born--and my aunt and uncle planned it that way. Good luck!!

 

My mom had my youngest brother at 40 - I was 14 at the time. I think that it made them younger to have to run after a kid after all of those years. Isn't 40 the new 30?

Good luck with your decision!!

 

My grandma was 41 when she had my mom. I'm so glad that my grandparents decided on having her cause I wouldn't be here if they didn't.

 

from a 40 yr. old who can't fathom that...:hug: good luck with whatever you decide and if you feel young enough to do it, go for it! :good:

 

My sister started her family at 26 and, seven children later, finished at 47. Having been a child quite a lot younger than my nearest sibling (6 1/2 years), I'd prefer not to space the children out too much - it was a bit lonely when they all left home, but I often think that older parents should have more children as that way there's more people to share the 'burden' of elderly parents. I'm rapidly approaching 40 myself, DH is 47. If I could pursuade him, we'd have at least one more ...

Living in Israel, where having children is viewed as 'essential', it's fairly common to see older mothers continuing to have children (especially amongst the orthodox community). In fact my sister's OB was completely relaxed about her age with her last child as he said that firstly she's successfully already had children recently (and in her 40s) and secondly that he had several even older mothers on his books.

 

Hi: I'm 44 now with almost 3 year old twins. I also belong to an over 40s mom's group in my area -- there are lots of us!

I feel very good about it. Sometimes, I wish I had more energy, but then I think of all the "life wisdom" I've gained over the years. I think kids help keep you young.

There is a great book called "Hot Flashes, Warm Bottles" about motherhood after 40. It highlights a lot of the issues (i.e., aging parents and young children).

Anyway, I think it's not your age that matters, its your attitude -- if you want to be a mom again, you should do it!

Best,

Meg

 

Thanks so much for the positive encouragement and stories. Will keep you posted!

 

I gave birth to the twins at 39 and to Liam at 41. If I could, I would have another right now and I'm going to be 43 tomorrow. Good Luck with your decision!!

 

I'll be almost 38 when I have this baby, so 40's not that far away. I'd keep having kids, if DH didn't feel so done. I think so much of it is your attitude. And if you already have small children, having another won't be as big of a deal it would be to have your first child at over 40.

 

I had my twin boys at 40 ( we did IVF) & they have blessed our lives in so many ways. I think it makes me feel younger having to chase these two around! Good luck in whatever you decide! Keep us posted!
p.s. We also have a 22 yr.old boy & 23 yr. old girl!

 

Hi all. This is my very first post on this site, although I went through my years of ivf and pregnancy on another site. These sites are wonderful. I have 4yo b/g twins. Had them when I was 36 and I am now 40. DH and I have been talking and would LOVE to have another baby! But it did take us 6 years and lots of $$$ to get preggers the first time. And it wasn't any easy time. Insurance covered nothing and it was stressful and very emotional. Although we had amazing support from family and friends! We were truly blessed.

Has anyone had luck getting pregnant the OLD FASHIONED way after IVF? I'm not sure we could do that again. Although I would love another set of multiples! They are great.

So happy to have found you guys!!! Happy new year to you all and your beautiful families!

Stacy

 

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Hi all. This is my very first post on this site, although I went through my years of ivf and pregnancy on another site. These sites are wonderful. I have 4yo b/g twins. Had them when I was 36 and I am now 40. DH and I have been talking and would LOVE to have another baby! But it did take us 6 years and lots of $$$ to get preggers the first time. And it wasn't any easy time. Insurance covered nothing and it was stressful and very emotional. Although we had amazing support from family and friends! We were truly blessed.

Has anyone had luck getting pregnant the OLD FASHIONED way after IVF? I'm not sure we could do that again. Although I would love another set of multiples! They are great.

So happy to have found you guys!!! Happy new year to you all and your beautiful families!

Stacy

hi Stacy

welcome to ts! IVF is great but hard. My cousin got pregnant after having an ivf baby. They didn't understand the problem to begin with but were still surprised! I think it does happen. My tubes are totally blocked so for me it is probably not going to happen naturally! Cant hurt trying though! Good luck!

 

My mother was the last child born to my grandmother at age 42 and my youngest sister is 17 years younger than me and was born to our mom at age 40. My baby sister is spaced from her next sibling 7 years and she has no problems about it, she's spoiled rotten and gets away with stuff that I never did.

 

My mom was 40 when she had me and I was 40 when my twins were born. It's so cool to see so many moms over 40 replying here. I didn't know there were so many! :Clap: :Clap: :Clap:

 

I'm 42 and currently trying for baby #3 (and final). I can't get pregnant without medicated cycles. I just finished 3rd round of clomid and it is a bust cycle. I am going to be seeing my Nurse Practioner (NP) this Tuesday to discuss further treatment. I have 2 things (short luteal phase detect (LPD) and low progesterone level. I cannot sustain future pregnancy without taking promterium as my level is always between 10-15 where you want it to be above '20'. I am not giving up yet but I only have 2 more round of cycles to do. If it come down to no baby it'll be an emotional time for me as I have to pack up all of our baby stuff from the basement. We're trying to make room for a temporary playroom for the twins.

Good luck!