Husband issues

I am a SAHM, so I am the person who puts the kids down for naps most of the time. I tutor twice a week and my DH covers that time with the kids alone. The issue is that they have been giving him a he// of a time when he tries to put them down for naps. Is this normal? I wouldn't think that they would be so used to one person being so young, but I'm starting to think it could happen. Any suggestions on trying to handle this? I think that I'm going to have him put them down this weekend and he already does at night...it's just that he does it differently than I do. Is anyone else facing this?

 

My DH sometimes has a hard time with the babies, naps, baths, general crying. Most of the time he is great with the kids, but every once in a while they give him a run for his money. I come home and he says thank god we didn't have triplets! I think that if babies get out of routine in any way they fell it. DH was bathing the kids different than me and I didn't know it and he was having a hard time I finally had him give them a bath with me there and I showed him how to do it my way, he hasn't had a problem since. Naps of course are different than baths, but maybe he is doing something different than you?

 

I am not sure what age it started, but ours clearly differentiate us as parents. For a while they actually went down easier for DH than they did for me. So it wasn't uncommon for him to put both of them down for bedtime because they didn't even make a peep. When I put them down they were fine, but when I started out of the room they went beserk.

Now, it doesn't matter. Sometimes he puts both of them down, sometimes I do. Sometimes we each put one down. They just know the routine and happily babble to sleep.

It doesn't hurt for him to do it more often. Is he anxious about it? I imagine when they fuss and throw a fit he gets nervous and then he dreads doing it because he wonders if he is doing something wrong? And the little stinkers pick up on everything. Fear especially and it makes them tense and nervous. The more he does it the more confident you both will be in it and the babies will respond to that in my experience.

Good luck!

 

Babies can so tell a difference between people! I'd suggest to let your dh put them down more often. When they are used to it, they will do better with him. Try to keep the routine the same. I"m sorry he is having a rough time. I know it pulls at your heartstrings when this happens.

 

My DD has rejected my DH altogether.  She gets a pouty lip if he even comes near.  We have no idea why this happened, they used to have all kinds of special time together.  It's very sad and we're hoping it's just a phase.  I agree though about getting out of the routine.  Babies are so in tune with routine.

 

I don't "allow" my DH to be or feel alienated by the babies... way to easy to bow out for him :lol: ! He is much more comfortable with our older children... but when the babies give him h***, I just let him know that "THAT is exactly what I go thorough when I tell you we did not have a good day... I love you, deal with it." Seriously, what mom doesn't have her share of cry-fests at nap? It's ok for Daddy to figure it out (and know that it is not just him, and he does not get a "get out of jail free" card... at least at my house :lol: !!)

 

i do everything with the babies, sometimes dh wont see them for days. i went to get my haircut, was gone an hour and a half, and they both screamed the entire time i was gone lol. youre not alone!