Husband at the hospital?

I am having a c-section. I am hoping to have the babies in the nursery most of the night and maybe try to do one feeding. Will I be ok on my own? Will the nurses be helpful? My husband was going to only stay the first night then sleep at home after that. Please be honest!

 

You will be fine. Jeff only stayed the first night because we had 3 more at home! I had the babies in the room with me the whole time and we did fine. GL!

 

You should probably double check with the hospital to see if the babies will be allowed to stay in the nursery. At our hospital, there really wasn't that option. Will was in the NICU for the first 28 hours, but we had Andy in the room after the first three hours. So, if the hospital allows you to sleep alone, then you probably won't need your husband.

That being said, I've had a couple major surgeries, including my c-section, and I have thanked the Lord each time that DH was in the room with me at night. Sometimes things come up and the nurses get really busy. Even as stupid as grabbing you a cup of water or scratching your back, I'm glad DH was there so I didn't have to wait on the busy nurses. I don't react very well to most pain meds, so it was nice to have someone there to help advocate for me or bring me something to hurl in.

On the other hand, hospital rooms really are not the comfortable, so if you live near the hospital and your DH can go home for 5-6 hours of good sleep, that may be very important.

 

For the first 24 hours after a c-section the babies were not allowed to stay in the room with me alone. Someone had to be there. After that, providing that I was able to move around, it was ok. I'd double check on policy.

 

I think every hospital has it's on procedures.. Do they have a tour that you can take? That really helped us! All 3 of my c-sections were different. My first was in a big hospital and they had a lot of space so they did take my son more and my dh was able to go home and get some rest. However when I had the twins they didn't even have a nursery! So the twins were with us the entire time, my dh was able to stay the whole time with me. My last baby was at the same hospital but it was very crowded and since I only had one baby my dh had to go home at night. The nurse's were a great help but they too were busy!
You can do this no matter what the obsitcle, it will work out! :hug:

 

DH stayed the first night (I had a failed induction) and then the 2nd night (I was very ill after my section from the magnesium) but then went home the other 3 nights...our hospital strictly does not allow babies in the room at night with the moms - they feel that moms need as much rest and recovery as possible...if you are bf'ing they'll bring you the baby every 3 hours for a feed but in between they take them back to the nursery....and there was 11 babies in the nursery when I was there!!! the nurses were feeding them in the lounge at times and they were never too busy to answer my call in the middle of the night...

 

My DH never stayed (we only live a mile from the hospital) The nurses were awesome and my boys were in the nicu the whole time. I went in every 3 hours to BF, except during the night.

 

My DH stayed with me the entire time and I am sooo thankful! I had a really hard time healing, and was super swollen - so it was helpful that he was there. He did go home for a few hours in the early evenings to walk/feed the dogs, etc. The babies stayed with us the entire time also. I tried to put them in the nursery so I could sleep for a few hours, but they brought them back within an hour b/c they were hungry and I was trying to b/f. The nurses were helpful, but for us, it was the best decision to have DH there most of the time. GL!

eta: we live about 30 min. from the hospital, so he did not want to make too many trips each day...worked out for me!

 

While our hospital had a nursery but they preferred if babies stayed in the room with you, so DH stayed with me except for the last night, I was so exhausted the nurse decided I needed to sleep more than anything and kept the babies for most of the night. My mom ended up staying with me (although she slept most of the night - wasn't much help ) and DH went home and had a full 10hr sleep. That worked great for us.

 

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My DH stayed with me the entire time and I am sooo thankful! I had a really hard time healing, and was super swollen - so it was helpful that he was there. He did go home for a few hours in the early evenings to walk/feed the dogs, etc. The babies stayed with us the entire time also. I tried to put them in the nursery so I could sleep for a few hours, but they brought them back within an hour b/c they were hungry and I was trying to b/f. The nurses were helpful, but for us, it was the best decision to have DH there most of the time. GL!

eta: we live about 30 min. from the hospital, so he did not want to make too many trips each day...worked out for me!


Ditto! Except we lived about 15 min away. Our babies were with us the whole time and I could not have imagined him leaving for a long period of time. It was wonderful to have him there to hand you the babies when it was time to eat or help with diaper changes. After a c-section, IMO, it is very difficult to move around especially the first couple of days.

 

I'll be honest, with my first my husband stayed the majority of the time, and didn't stay at all with any of the others. I'm glad he didn't stay. He snores, and I couldn't tell him to roll over like I can at home I was perfectly happy to put my babies in the nursery...I knew I'd have them the rest of our lives, I could take the worryless sleep.

Seriously, you are on edge when they make noises, and on edge when they don't make noises. And you know there are nurses watching over them in the nursery...so they are just fine there. In fact, when I had Will, nobody else used the nursery...so they all had so much fun with him. He was the most loved baby in the hospital. They even gave him a special go home outfit because they enjoyed him so much :lol:

 

My husband stayed a few nights with my first, but he was in the NICU so there wasn't much to do.

After my second and the twins, my hubby stayed both nights as I only stayed over 2 nights each c/s.

IMO I needed dh there, getting in and out of bed for each time a baby needed me would have been very difficult to do. Especially if dh isn't working, and there's no kids at home, I think you'd be happier if he was there with you.

And I hated putting my kids in the nursery. Kaelyn never went once, and the twins only went one time, the morning after my c/s I was so exhausted I let them take them for about 3 hrs, that was it they stayed with me the rest of the time

 

You will be just fine. Like pp said just check their procedures. My husband was with me all day and went home at night to shower and sleep and feed the cats. I sent them to the nursery so I could rest and they were suppose to bring them in to me to feed but the hospital was horrible and forgot. Anyway, I digress, you will be just fine.

 

Dh stayed with me the whole time even though we only live 1 mile from the hospital. I'm really glad he was there because he was my crowd control as well as my go to guy. I had really bad pre- e and my face (well, my whole body) blew up like a puffer fish. I couldn't even see out of my eyes. Whenever I needed something he was on it like white on rice. We left after 2 nights.

 

He was there the whole time and I really needed him. I felt awful from the bedrest and surgery and could barely stand up. The babies spent the night in the nursery but the days with us, and I couldn't even care for them myself -- all I could do was lie in bed and hold them. He did everything else, plus helped me.

The nurses were very friendly, but overworked. I even had to remind them half an hour in advance of when my pain meds were due, or else they would bring them to me an hour late. And while they cared for the babies who were in the nursery, they didn't care for them in the room at all, other than to bring more supplies if we needed them. I literally could not have done it without DH. If there had been some reason he couldn't be there (like other children at home) I would have had to get a friend to come stay with me.

 

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For the first 24 hours after a c-section the babies were not allowed to stay in the room with me alone. Someone had to be there. After that, providing that I was able to move around, it was ok. I'd double check on policy.

I was going to say the same thing. Def. check at the hospital. My boys were in the NICU so DH went home for nights and actually went right back to work on Monday (boys were born Fri. am) so that he could take his paternity leave when they came home from the NICU instead of when I really didn't need him. My mom came into town when I went home from the hospital so I had help there too.

 

Ive never had a c-section. We live 15 minutes from the hospital and stayed 2 nights there. DH stayed with me both nights.
He did go home during the day to check on our dogs, shower, eat etc. I loved having him there.
For the most part the babies were always with us. At night we would send them to the nursery but the nurses brought them to our room every 2-3 hours to bfeed. It was great to have my DH there, to bond with us, and see our inital learning how to nurse etc.
He was a source of comfort for me in a world that was completley new with 2 beautiful little people. I wouldnt have changed it for the world.

Im not sure what we will do this time when baby #3 comes...with the twins at home. I guess it will depend if the baby comes during the 10 days we will have company

 

I had 1 daughter in NICU and her sister stayed with me in an incubator in my room, although the nurses came in to do the feeds for the first night. So thankful as i was sooo high on morphine i doubt it would of been safe for me to handle my precious teeny tiny daughter!! Day 2 i got up out of bed and felt 100% better than laying in my bed catheterized. Like i say i was caring for just one of my pair but i was able to do it by day 2. Wishing you lots of luck!

 

QUOTE(kacy79 @ Jun 21 2009, 11:25 AM) [snapback]1362762[/snapback]
I am having a c-section. I am hoping to have the babies in the nursery most of the night and maybe try to do one feeding. Will I be ok on my own? Will the nurses be helpful? My husband was going to only stay the first night then sleep at home after that. Please be honest!


I have no idea how I would have managed anything without DH. It was very painful to get up - he changed diapers, helped me to the restroom, dealt with visitors, etc. Especially as a first time mom, I would have him stay.

 

QUOTE(kacy79 @ Jun 21 2009, 11:25 AM) [snapback]1362762[/snapback]
I am having a c-section. I am hoping to have the babies in the nursery most of the night and maybe try to do one feeding. Will I be ok on my own? Will the nurses be helpful? My husband was going to only stay the first night then sleep at home after that. Please be honest!


I had no issue with this. My DH never spent the night. He wasn't allowed ... I was not in a private room, and only if the room was private could your DH stay over. I did not breast feed, and the babies spent the entire night in the nursery. The nurses did the middle of the night feedings ...

We had the phone # to the nursery, so as soon as I would wake up, I would call them and ask me to bring me the babies ... they would roll them in ... and I was fine ... DH came and stayed all day ... but you are specifically asking about night time. That's what the nurses are there for!!! Remember, people have twins, triplets, quads, etc ... even with their DH, you can't feed them all at the same time! Take advantage of your nursery, as the nurses would say to me "Stop feeling guilty! Go to sleep, we will feed them, you have the next few years to spend not sleeping!"

You'll be fine!!! Like others have said, some DH's don't stay because hey have other kids to take care of! I can't imagine a hospital that wouldn't help you! That would be insane!

 

I am making my DH stay with me unless for some reason when the time comes I feel like I don't need him there. We are equal partners in this and I'm not about to stay in a hospital all by myself - he can suck it up! But other people are probably sweeter than I am ; - )

This is our first, and we only live about 5 mins from the hospital so he can go home and shower etc... but for the most part I expect him to be there.