How to explain to my singleton...

My son is 3 and a half. Recently we went to a get together where my husbands aunt had her new baby girl, and her son was there who is 4. Her son had apparently walked into the room shortly after his sister's birth and asked, "Where's the other one?", thinking that bc my son had two little sisters so should he. So then they had this conversation, my son is C and I'll refer to his cousin as H.
H: How come you have two sisters?
C: That is how they come.
H: I only got one.
C: What happened to the other one?
H: I dunno.
C: My mommy is having more sisters. She comes home from the hospital with them this summer.

I am only having a little girl, not two in June, so you can sightly understand why I am about to ask this. But shortly after their conversation on the way home my son also asked me where his twin was. How do I explain singletons and twins to a 3 year old without making him feel bad for not having a twin? I don't want to say something generic, like the stork made a mistake, or that they are special (that would kill him bc he is already lacking attention). How did you explain it to your kids?

 

My DD was 3.5 when our twins were born and she never asked where her twin was. We explained that our family was extra blessed to be having 2 babies since most mommies have 1 at a time. She was fine with that and it hasn't come up since. Good luck.

 

We just told our oldest DD that we were lucky to get twins. She actually wanted twins before we knew we were having them because of Big Sister Dora, and she has twin siblings, so she knew about twins. We just told her God gave us two babies instead of one and that we were lucky, she was fine with that.

 

Our kids are older so I just explained the whole thing, but at 3 I imagine he would be satisfied with most often mommies have 1 baby, sometimes 2, sometimes even 3 or more. They don't tend to need lots of detail at that age. You could always give more information, but I find no matter how much I talk, kids of any age take in what they can process & discard the rest.

 

I can imagine mine will probably be wondering where the new babies twin is as well... it will be a neat convo if they do though, LOL

 

Joel was 2.5 when the twins were born, and 4.5 when Joy was born. He was sure I was having twins again. Though he knew other women had single babies, I think he assumed I was only able to make two at a time..

I just told him that sometimes God puts one baby in a Mommy, and sometimes he puts in two, or three, or four, etc. . They are all special, because they were made by Him. That seemed to make perfect sense to him.

 

I told my son (who is 3) that God thought he would be such a good big brother he got two babies. That way HE is the special one for having twins in the family. The twins get plenty of attention for being twins from strangers and other family members, so I want him to know that I think he is pretty special since my opinion of him matters the most to him. I think it has worked out pretty well because he calls him OUR babies and brags about them and takes very good care of them. No animosity yet (but we're only 3 weeks into the reality!). I like the pp suggestion to keep it generic and just say "sometimes mommies have one baby, sometimes they have more." It's just like sometimes a mommy has boys and sometimes she has girls. I don't think he's looking for some kind of emotional validation or anything, so a simple response should do fine.