Hi, I need help, my DD will not sleep through the night. I have tried to let her cry it out but sometimes she gets crying so loud and so upset I cave. I don't know the CIO method if there is one. SO please help. The other baby sleeps like a champion. I have read some good advice but it doesn't explain the CIO method. Also, how many nights do youthink it will take. She is waking up at least once and if I give her a bottle she is right back asleep if I don't she can be up for 2 hours crying and whining until I give in. She has been eating good in the day, however, she is smaller than the other baby. PLEASE HELP
There is a school of thought out there that babies sleep through when they are ready so any CIO before that time just causes stress on the kid and can cause separation anxiety issues over the long term. If your daughter is hungry, then, CIO is not going to work. The American Assoc of Pediatrics says that "sleeping through the night" equals 5 hours... I think many of us mom's have an unrealistic view of sleeping through. The key is to get the 5 hours in the middle of the night. Many kids will sleep through by 9 months -- and Cio works best after 9 months as a kid finally has "object permanence" -- which means that when you're not in sight, your baby knows that you're still there and nearby. Before this age, babies feel that you're gone when they cannot see you. So you can understand why CIO at such an early age can cause stress. You gotta do what works for you, and I have kids that still don't sleep all night, but I recognize that this is a short time in the big picture. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but I find that too many folks I talk to have not researched the science of brain development and therefore try to CIO way too early -- and this can have lasting implications on their kids. Good luck and feed your kid -- it sounds like the night's sleep can resume pretty quickly if she eats.
QUOTE If your daughter is hungry, then, CIO is not going to work. The American Assoc of Pediatrics says that "sleeping through the night" equals 5 hours... I think many of us mom's have an unrealistic view of sleeping through. The key is to get the 5 hours in the middle of the night. Many kids will sleep through by 9 months -- and Cio works best after 9 months as a kid finally has "object permanence" -- which means that when you're not in sight, your baby knows that you're still there and nearby. Before this age, babies feel that you're gone when they cannot see you. So you can understand why CIO at such an early age can cause stress. I can only go by my experince as I respond to the above quote. I did CIO at 5 1/2 months and I have the happiest little boys. EVERY morning, they are as happy as can be to see me. They talk in their crib in the morning and wait for me to open the door. As far as being hungry and CIO not working...I have to greatly disagree. My boys were eating an average amount of food during the day and still woke for TWO bottles at night. After a few days of CIO, they did not wake to eat which led them to eating more during the day. After a few days of CIO, they slept 11 hours at night. I dont want to get into anymore of the AAofP because truthfully, I find it to be a bunch of bolony!! My boys love me to death and I did not harm them by doing CIO at an early age. In fact, I think I have given them a wonderful gift; The ability to calm themselves and put themselves to sleep shall they wake up in the middle of the night!
Really you have to do what works for you. My suggestiong is to get this book: "Healthy Sleep habits, Healthy Child" - I followed it to the 'T' from 2mo-on! My 4mo they were sleeping through the night! I started reading it, as well as my mother when I delivered. I know that others wouldn't agree witht the CIO, but it works. Here's a small jist of it: You rock them until they are almost asleep, lay them down in their crib when they aren't quite asleep. Put on soft music, or mobile and walk out Let them cry for 5-10min, if still crying go in and rub their back, don't pick them up, you can sing or humm to them Leave again and after 15 total, so 5min later if they are still screamming!! then you can pick up and rock again. This teaches them to self sooth themselves to sleep and realize that their crib is a place to sleep and is safe. You only let them CIO for 15min then you pick them up. Quinn and Bella now lay down for naps, cry for no more than 5min and are out for 2hrs. Sometimes they stay in their cribs and play, laugh, sing for 30min then fall asleep. It's funny! I highly reccommend getting that book, I have told many nother mom's to be to get it. Good Luck!
our ped said between 6 and 7 months was perfect time to CIO We did it at 7 months and with in a week they were sleeping from 6:30ish to 6am That says to me they were waking out of habbit to eat and not because they were hungry Good Luck to you!
I used a modified Ferber method... Cry for 5min and then go in and comfort for 1min cry for 10...go in for 1min cry for 15.... (you get the idea) we never went more than 15 mins.... HTH
QUOTE(kma13 @ May 3 2007, 12:51 PM) [snapback]242159[/snapback] I used a modified Ferber method... Cry for 5min and then go in and comfort for 1min cry for 10...go in for 1min cry for 15.... (you get the idea) we never went more than 15 mins.... HTH We used that, too! They never really cried...they seemed to just be ready to sleep. (Oh, I never never let them cry for more than 5 minutes...I just couldn't do it!?!?!) Now, when my dd wakes in the night, she whines for only about 5 minutes and falls asleep on her own. I do not even go in there because if I go in...she will start to cry. You have to do what works for you and your family. Whatever you feel comfortable with is what you should do. Never let anyone guilt you into doing anything. CIO (when done correctly) is not bad and neither is going in when they cry. There is no wrong or right...only what works the best for you and your family. Good luck! jen
I found the more I went in the worse they did. So once I made up my mind to do it, I really didn't go in at all. Consistancy is key to using the CIO method.
I would say that since she's drinking her bottle, she may not be ready. Some babies still need food till at least 9 mos. - At this point I would go ahead and feed her quickly and get her (and you) back to sleep quickly and you'll be better off. When she's no longer taking the bottle or just sucks weakly, then you can start CIO. Since she's smaller etc., you probably are stuck with a feeding. Also, CIO isn't for everyone. Every baby reacts differently and some can't tolerate it. I totally recommend Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child (Weissbluth). It was a savior for me!
Thanks for all the suggestions, the first night went really well, she woke up at 12:00 cried for aobut5-8 minutes then I went in to check on her and she was fine and fell back asleep. Last night I let her cry and then finally I went in there she was soaked from head to toe, so I changed her and put her back to bed and she slept the rest of the night yeah. I just felt bad that she was crying and she was wet. Does anyone have suggestions for overnight diapers because they are getting everythign so wet. Thanks everyone.
