How rude!

We went to Target this morning to get me a new pair of maternity jeans. (I don't like the way they fit but until I can get to a Motherhood store they will have to do.) When I went in to try them on the pair I had grabbed were too big so I had DH go get me a smaller size. When he came back with them the fitting room attendant says to me in a very disgusted and rude tone "You're having another one!" I just grinned real big and said "Yup!" I really wanted to say "I'm not on welfare so you don't have to worry about 'taking care' of us. And my children are very well taken care of and loved so it's really NOT a bad thing!" UGH! I wish I could have said something to make her realize I did catch the way she said it and did NOT appreciate it.

I know we talk about it a lot but I really do not understand what people's problem is with other people having "lots" of children. It's like because we have the twins we aren't supposed to have any more. I've just never gotten that-except from DH's grandmother.

What bothers me the most is that DS is really starting to pick up on the little things that people do and say and I don't want him to start thinking that this is a bad thing. He has seemed excited and I want him to continue to be like that. I don't want him to start resenting (I guess that's the best word) me or the baby just because others make it seem like it's not "okay".

 

Big smile: "Yes, we're just THRILLED!" Makes it clear you aren't interested in her opinion without stooping to her level.

Although she is probably lucky she did not make this remark around my DH on a cranky day. He is apt to challenge people who assume they have a right to pass judgement. :spiteful:

Congrats, btw.

 

Just yesterday we were at walmart and one of the associates was saying how perfect our babies were and then she actually asked if I was "fixed". I said, "NO, we are going to try and make another baby or 2 tonight." You should have seen her face.

Just because I have 1 boy and 1 girl does not make my family complete.

 

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Just yesterday we were at walmart and one of the associates was saying how perfect our babies were and then she actually asked if I was "fixed". I said, "NO, we are going to try and make another baby or 2 tonight." You should have seen her face.

Just because I have 1 boy and 1 girl does not make my family complete.


Any time I got asked (before becoming pregnant again) if I was "fixed", I just replied "I was never broken!"

And good luck!

 

I can't believe people can be so rude.. I would have complained to her manager because obviously if she doesn't support your pregnancy she does not support you buying your pregnancy/baby items there either! I went out to buy maternity pants today actually (I show very early!) Kohl's if you have one near you is having a buy one get one!

Its amazing what people think its okay to say. I liked the comment about being fixed, who asks that sort of thing? This is our fifth child and its going to be a fun ride. I'm not very tolerant of ignorance and my goal is to work on snappy comebacks without being rude. My typical response to whether or not we're "done" is, "Why, are you asking?" My husband's response is typically, "Well the cable went out!"

 

That is so sad. I don't understand why people think having a bunch of kids is something bad. :hug99:

 

I will never understand people feeling they have the right to comment or ask questions about something of such a personal nature.... I feel like responding with something along the lines of..."well...so long as we're on the subject when's the last time you've been to see your ob/gyn?? " or modified for a man..."so when's the last time you've had your prostate examined?" ....or how about.."I wonder if your mother ever thought about being fixed before she conceived you??"

 

GRRR I too dont understand why people think its their business? I ran into someone I kow today and she saw my belly and just gave me a digusted look. I know why is it because we have twins means we are done? Did we miss that class or something? I am sorry Rhonda, I know how annoying it is.

 

The comment that is really getting me lately is, "You're pregnant? YOu look great" My belly sticks way out and nothing but maternity clothes fit. I'm glad to know that people think that I normally look this fat.

How rude of the lady to say that to you. I'd probably smack her.