How old were they...

Just curious.
I've been thinking about it, but I just am not sure I want to do it quite yet.
If we did it'd just be an hour or so to goto dinner or maybe brave a movie instead...
but I'm worried, plus with BF I dislike giving them bottles.
I'm worried that I'm too attached to their needing me.

 

This might sound crazy, but we went out two weeks after they were born. DH was in dire need of a break. His parents came over and took care of the boys.

That said, it wasn't the best of "dates." We were so exhausted after dinner, we decided to just come back home and sleep the rest of the time his parents were over! Fun date, huh?!

 

This the same question I have been wanting to ask. I get to thinking that I would like to go out with dh but then I am afraid I would miss them so bad that I wouldn't have any fun.
Missy

 

We went out to dinner for our anniversay when they were about 3 months old.

 

We went out for a movie when they were 3.5 months old and left them with the in-laws but they were already asleep at that point. I've never left them awake with anyone for extended periods yet.

 

It didn't take us too long, they were born early Feb and we went out to eat dinner on St. Patty's day, only ten minutes away, but we were out for a little while. I nursed them right before we left and my dad, his girlfriend and my MIL watched them. We talked about the kids the whole time, but had a good time too!

Last night I actually went out by myself to hang out with some friends for about three hours and left the kids with DH! They weren't the easiest on him, but he lived and so did they. IT WAS GREAT!!! I really miss just being able to go out to a friends house and just 'hang' for awhile. I LOVE the kids and missed them so much (especially since a friend had her little boy there who is two weeks younger than mine)! I couldn't wait to get home

 

3 weeks. My parents were in town and offered to watch them while we went to dinner. SO we fed them, then raced to the closest "nice" restaurant. We had dinner, relaxed a bit, and made it back in time to feed them again : )

we've done that every few weeks ever since - i don't feel bad leaving them with grandparents or their nanny (who all really KNOW the boys and their habits) but would be weary of anyone else b/c they are still so young.

 

I went back to work when the girls were 12 weeks and never wanted to leave them when I got home from work or on weekends! We've only left them once, to go to a wedding. We ate dinner and left! That was at 3 1/2 months. Maybe in October for our annivesrary!

In Laws are CONSTANTLY asking to babysit!!

 

I did it as quickly as possible! haha ... Probably they were 2 or 3 weeks old when me and DH went out for lunch for a few hours and my mom and sis babysat. Since then, we've seen 4 movies, gone to lunch 3 times, and out for an adult night out 3 times. It's been so wonderful! Now, I'm not breastfeeding, so that hasn't been an issue for us. But as much as we miss them when we are out, it's nice to be able to get out and miss them! haha ... And my mother sees them all the time, so they are fine for her, and she knows how to take care of them and keep them on schedule. Same with my sister and my in-laws. We have had 2 nights overnight without them as well. One time my sister took one and my mom took one. That was when they were about a month old and we just needed to sleep. Then last weekend me and DH were in a wedding of our close friends, so my parents took them to their house for the night so we could enjoy ourselves (read: get drunk) and stay at the hotel and party with everyone else. Needless to say, we did have a nice time.

I think it's important to try and get out and get yourselves some alone time, even if you talk about them the whole time!

 

MY SITUATION IS A BIT DIFFERENT..

WITH FIRST DS.. I WAS PLANNING A FAMILY OUTING AND STARTED HEMORAGING.. HAD TO BE TAKEN TO THE HOSPITAL FOR
A DNC.. INLAWS HAD HIM FOR AFEW DAYS AT 3 WKS OLD..

THEN AT A 1.5 MONTHS I HAD TO HAVE MY GALBLADDER REMOVED..
ANOTHER VIST TO THE INLAWS..

WITH THE TWINS..
I DIDNT LEAVE THEM UNTIL WE SPLIT UP AND COURT ORDERED HIM VISITATION..
GOD THAT WAS HARD..

I DID WK A 40 HOUR WK WEEK AND CAME HOME VERY AFTERNOON TO CARE FOR MY BABIES..

IF I HAD MY WAY .. I NEVER WOULD HAVE LET THEM SPEND A NIGHT AWAY FROM HOME.. BUT GOD HAD CONTROL
OVER THIS ONE..

NOW THEY ARE ALMOST 2&3 AND IM COUNTING DOWN THE MINUTES UNTIL THEY CAN SPEND A NIGHT WITH THEIR UNCLE..
IN ABOUT ANOTHER 3 YEARS

 

my parents took them for the afternoon/evening when they were about a week or 2 old - DH and I were exhausted and had been awake most of the week...my parents took them and ORDERED us to go home to bed - so we took them up on it...

they were about a month and a half or 2 mos old when we left them with my parents to go out to dinner and a movie...

I didn't breastfeed either so that wasn't an issue for us...

 

I left them with my mom several times, not really to go out. DH and I went out for our anniversary when they were about 4.5 months old and left them with a sitter for the first time.

 

Mine were only about a month old. My mom wasn't working at the time, so she would watch them usually every Friday night and me and DH would get time away. Now that she is working, she can only watch them a couple nights a month when she is off on a weekend. Still though, that is more than most people with children get out alone. I am very thankful.

 

my girls were born December 1st. On the 23rd i went to a friends house for a holiday party for a couple of hours and my sister stayed with the girls. It was really hard for me to be away from them, but it was good for me.

 

I'll let you know when it happens! LOL! We were able to go to an afternoon movie on our anniversary a month ago, and I was thrilled about that!

 

I must be crazy, I think I went out about 2 weeks after they were born for the first time with DH. We just went out to dinner and then the next weekend we went to the movies. We usually go out every other weekend, our relationship needs it. We have so much fun when it is just the two of us and it usually carries us through the whole week before we start getting aggrivated again. When we leave them it is always with my mom and she usually has my aunt come over and they have fun with them.

 

Mine were just over 3 months. It was wonderful. We put them down to bed and then we went out for a fancy dinner. My Mum stayed with them - she never heard a peep. We were back in time for their midnight feeding. I can't wait to do it again!

 

I'm the odd ball here, I didn't leave my girls until they were a yr old. :icon_eek: I know a little excessive but I had major anxiety about leaving them. I wanted to be the one that was there if they needed something. I wanted to continue nurturing that bond between us and I didn't want to risk hurting it by leaving and them needing me and not being there for them. I guess its the part of attachment parenting that I really believe in. My DH was very understanding about it and now that the girls are getting older I feel more comfortable leaving, but I'll only leave them with my parents. I'm very grateful I did it, and don't regret it at all. Its those moments I can't ever get back. They're only small for so long and I wanted to bask in it as long as possible.

 

I thought you meant when did I leave them with DH for a an evening out by myself with friends!! ha ha ha
I still have not done that!

 

In almost 8 months, DH and I have only gone out one night without the babies - my 37th birthday. The babies were a little over 4 months old. It is funny but we never really "went out" before they were born. We are homebodies! Our idea of a great night is sharing in getting the kids to sleep, eating dinner together (even if it is microwaved), talking about our days, getting a little "snuggling" in, and getting to sleep early. Romantic, eh? :wub:

 

We never really went out much before the twins. Couldnt now if we wanted to anyway because there is no one to help and watch them. I do miss the intimate evenings on the weekends. After being married for almost 18 years you kinda need that.

 

Still haven't done that yet but we need to! I went and played Bunco one night and left DH in charge...he did awesome but of course, I came running in the door just sure that they needed me...of course they didn't...both sound asleep!

 

Still haven't!!! We went out once for an early dinner on our anniversary and left them at his moms but they were home by bedtime.

 

WE still haven't done this and our girls are nine months.

 

Three weeks - we left them with two friends of ours for a couple of hours and went out for dinner - it was great! We have actually gone out a few times without them since then and I hope it continues. We do take them out to dinner every Friday and Saturday and it is really just as fun. They usually just sleep so it is kind of like being alone and it makes us feel a little bit normal again. They are 9 weeks now and have started waking up during dinner and actually "hanging out" while we finish and run out the door before all **** breaks lose. It is kind of funny. One night we dumped everything in to go containers and I stole the silverware and we drove around and ate in the car on the way home. Sometimes if we think it won't last we just ask for everything to go right off the bat and if we get lucky we eat it at our table out of the to go containers!

Amy

 

With DD, it was early on, but we had no choice. She was 3wks old when DH's dad died. On the day he died my mom was here watching her while we were at the hospital and then she was at my mom's and aunt's for the funeral. However, DH went out several times after she was born. She stayed overnight at my mom's when she was six weeks old. We have been very fortunate to have a lot of "alone" time due to family. However, it is going to change when the girls are born.

We do plan on going to Cedar Point for a day in October depending on healing. I also play Bunco once a month and have every intention on going in September. DH has no issue with staying with the girls by himself, but I will call a few times I am sure. Plus I told DD today that after the babies are born and I am able to drive that me and her are going school clothes shopping.

I think it is very important that you have time with just your DH. There needs to be a balance to make it all work. DH and I's will be decreased, but we need to make a point of us having our time with the girls. My sis and her DH made the mistake of not having anytime to themselves. My nephew is 5 and niece is 3 (and she is expecting again) and she just realized a couple of months ago that her and her DH need their time alone without the kids. She would complain all the time and being around the kids all the time and told her to call a family member and ask them to watch the kids (I know this sounds bad, but I do not like watching them....they drive me nuts her kids do)...if they do it for me they will do it for you.

Go out and enjoy!! You deserve it!

April

 

My mom and stepdad watched them a coupld of times at our house so we could have dinner. We too talked only about the babies but we enjoyed our time. Then at 7 weeks they stayed all night with my mom so i could sleep all night. I was still up when they were suppose to be up. We have not been out since 7 weeks excpet to have dinner one afternoon for our anniversary and for me to watch fireowrks on teh river (gone for 2 hours). After working all week and mom watches them i dont want to leave them and dont have anyone i trust other than mom and she is wore out so i would never ask her. Get out it feels good...

 

Wow...we've left them quite often since they were born, mostly because I had complications from my c-section and DH had to take me to the OB once a week and we didn't want to take them out before they were 4 weeks old. We left them with my mom when she was visiting, but we don't have family here so we leave them with trusted friends. I've actually joked that the people we've left them with - one a teacher and another a nurse - are actually better qualified to care for them than I am! I regard them as surrogate "Aunts" and I know they love my girls and will be in their lives much more than our families who are 1000 miles away.

They've watched the girls a few times so DH and I could go dancing. I knew before they got here that it would be necessary for my sanity for us to be able to go out when we wanted...both alone and with the girls. I miss them and think about them when we're away, but I'm glad we started when they were little so they will be used to being away from us.