how much do you hold your twins?

After reading the thread about where everyone's twins spend most of their time it got me thinking, how much do you hold your twins?
My girls spend most of their time on the floor but I am right there with them on hands and knees. I hold them when I nurse them (individually, I do NOT tandem feed), they get a good mommy snuggle before naps/bedtime and I try to give them each a few minutes of mommy time each day. They get held quite a bit by family though.... aunts, grandparents, etc.

 

I am similar to you. I do tandem feed during the day, though, so that is different. I am always with them as they cry when I leave the room ... they spend most of their time sitting on the floor with me right there with them. They also go in the jumperoo, highchairs, exersaucer, stroller ...

I always take some time to hold, snuggle and/or play with each one individualy during each awake time ... and when my hubby gets home, I usually have him take whoever has been more demanding so that I can snuggle with the "neglected" one =)

For naps I rock one and put the other in the swing for a few minutes then lay them in their beds. The next nap, I switch. I feel like remembering who was where and when is challenging and I try to tell myself that all I can do is the best I can do ... I DO feel like I wish I could give more to each one individually though.

 

Most of the time my boys don't want to be held - too many other fun things to do I guess. But, I do sneak in hugs and snuggles when transporting them from room to room or to the highchairs. I also do some one on one time before bed. That is when they usually snuggle back and give me big wet kisses.

 

i always feel guilty cuz i feel like i dont' hold them enough. i feed them at the same time (bottle), so they sit in the bouncies during that time. but during their night feeds, i feed one at a time, and i snuggle them as close as i can, and hold them extra long while i watch tv, just to get extra snuggles in. DH does the morning feed, adn he plays with and cuddles with whoever gets up first, then i give them morning hugs and kisses. during the day, if one is sleeping and one is awake, i'll snuggle with the awake one, tho marina doesn't like to sit still, so it's hard to snuggle her. lol. then in the evening i give them hugs and kisses before DH takes them to do the evening feeding. and they get held A LOT by grandparents! and if they're on the floor or on our bed, i right there with them kisssing them all over!

here's my thing... ivana is very affectionate and cuddly; she's very happy to just sit and be cuddled. marina, on the other hand, is always on the move, and doesnt' like to be held for too long. so it seems like i am holding ivana more, but i think she needs it more...? but then i feel bad because while i'm cuddling one, the other is always watching...

 

I feel like I am always holding a baby. My two are very very needy. They both like to be held and loved A LOT. Sometimes I do feel guilty though because most days I am holding my DS more b/c I breastfeed him and I bottlefeed DD and if they want to eat at the same time she usually gets her podee hands free bottle while I am breastfeeding her brother. DD is also more content when I put her in the jumperoo or exersaucer.

 

I tandem feed throughout the day--it's just more efficient and I enjoy it. I often hold them afterwards. They play on the floor a bit and I'll play with them. Then, they spend time in the jumperoo or exersaucer (I have to get some things done!). I also carry them one at a time depending on who's fussing. I feel like they get a lot of attention. When I was pregnant I worried I wouldn't be able to give enough to each, but that's not how it turned out. Oh, they also have 3 older sisiters who still enjoy holding them and playing with them all the time---another surprise--I thought the novelty of new brothers would have worn off by now!

Lisa

 

Not enough !! Even with bf individually and pick them up everytime they cry, it still seems like I'm rotating them between activity centers (swings, bouncer, floor, etc.) I can't wait till my husband comes home so I can just focus on one, and that is usually the same baby cause I have one who is more "needy"during the day.

Heather
g/g twins
3.5 months

 

I feel like I don't hold them as much as I should, but with a 3 year, a husband, a full time job- I guess I'm doing the best I can...there are seriously not enough hours in the day...

 

I don't hold mine very often at all. They don't mind it and neither do I. In fact, I really don't want to have either of them dependent on me holding them to be happy. They are 5 mos old now, 4 adjusted and I think I've done a pretty good job of helping them to be content on their own. The last thing I want, or need, is to have them cry if not being held-- I think I'd cry!

So.. the answer here is-- not very much. I do hold them one at a time to feed them and if one is upset- I hold him but to be honest- it doesn't seem like either of them NEED to be held.

They are easily entertained by themselves which I am digging after the first 14 weeks, I was doubtful I'd ever NOT have a baby growing off of my body!

 

I'm glad this thread is here because I was just started to get a complex about not holding them enough! I mean I do hold them and cuddle them a lot, and play with them, but between the two, it just seems like never enough. Dannielle, I know what you mean that the other one is watching!! Sometimes I put them in their bouncers or on the floor and I feel so guilty! Heck, I even feel guilty when I put them down for a nap.

 

I agree with ivfbound. I have worked to teach ehtmto be happy on their own.i used to spend lots of time talking, singing, getting attention when they would fuss without picking up so they could learn how to be happy. Oh don't think I don't hodl them, I do plenty but I also want them to be able to be happyon their own. i also have a more demanding DD and I think I held her twice as much as a newborn. Now she is crawling so even if I am holdling her she is crawling all over me and she prefers to be down except when she is sad. She has been teething again so I have held her almost all the time the last 2 day. Hurry up teeth.

Don't feel guilty for teaching them to be happywith out holding. Get your snuggles in and hugs and kisses.

 

I try to as much as I can. Honestly, they both don't like to be held long. They are very independent (they get that from me...lol) I am happy that they can be content on their own and don't constantly need to be held 24/7. I can say that DS enjoys being held more probably, but he usually just tries to "jump" out of my arms to get on the floor and play, play, play. They are both too mobile to stay in one place too long, especially a restricting place like someone's arms. What usually happends is they try to climb up me and over the shoulder...lol...So, needless to say, they love the floor but will tolerate the jumparoo since it goes up and down. Not so much the excersaucer. Too restricting. They will stay in there for about 5 minutes before trying to get out and scream.

All babies are different, but I am overall happy to not have clingy babies, epsecially with twins!

 

As much as I can--they won't be tiny forever!

 

I feel like I've always got a baby in the Ergo on my back. When I sit to eat I have someone on my lap. They both nurse at least 15 times a day. And I'm only on-line when I'm nursing someone. And one babe sleeps with me. Other than that they are roaming the house on search and destroy missions or in the car transporting older sibs.

 

Not very much, admittedly. But then, my older DD never wanted to be held, and was very content in the bouncy, and then exploring on the floor -- so she wasn't held much either.

My DS is very snuggly, but also very wiggly -- so if I'm holding him, he's head-butting me, giving me open-mouthed kisses, pulling my hair, pulling my necklace, etc. My DD isn't snuggly at all -- she'll sit still, but arches her back and leans away to look at everything.

But, both were perfectly content to sit in their bouncies -- and now that they're mobile and done with those, they LOVE to play on the floor! Neither wants to be held.

Last night, DS was fussing after I put him to bed, so I went and got him and held him for a few minutes, and walked into our bedroom....DH asked me, uh, what are you doing? He's fine, why don't you go put him down?

I surprised myself by answering, um, I just like to hold him...he's growing up too quickly.

 

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I don't hold mine very often at all. They don't mind it and neither do I. In fact, I really don't want to have either of them dependent on me holding them to be happy. They are 5 mos old now, 4 adjusted and I think I've done a pretty good job of helping them to be content on their own. The last thing I want, or need, is to have them cry if not being held-- I think I'd cry!

So.. the answer here is-- not very much. I do hold them one at a time to feed them and if one is upset- I hold him but to be honest- it doesn't seem like either of them NEED to be held.

They are easily entertained by themselves which I am digging after the first 14 weeks, I was doubtful I'd ever NOT have a baby growing off of my body!


I feel like I don't hold my girls that much either. I feel guilty about it too, but there's just not enough time in the day. I work full time and when I come home I will try to play on the floor with them. I bottle feed them one at a time and try to hold them at other times too. They are able to entertain themselves on the floor and hardly ever asked or want to be held. I actually think it's kind of sad that they are used to not being held and therefore don't need to be.