how long do you let them fuss.......

How long do you let them fuss when they are going back to sleep/taking nap/down for the night before you decide forget it, it is not happening and take them out of the crib? My two usually get up for an early bottle, well today it was 5am and then go back to sleep for a bit not too long after and well they are still awake. I know they are tired, you can see it. It is dd that is the problem, ds won't go to sleep until she is because he hears her fussing. Then when she is alseep, it is extremely tough to get her to sleep. It can be like this for naps and at night too. Any tips or advice?

 

Is there any way to separate them for naps only? I had to do this around the same age. Naps just aren't as deep of sleep so babies can disrupt each other more. I put a pnp in my bedroom and left one baby in their room and naps got back to normal. I now (at almost 1 yr) am sleeping them apart as well cause we're trying to sleep train and it's hard to do that together. but we hope to get them back together for bed soon.

Cheers.

Teri D

 

Hi,

Like the PP, I seperate mine for naps as well. DS always ended up waking up DD until we put her in our room in the PNP for naps. Now, they both get at least an hour in for each nap and if one needs to sleep longer, they aren't disturbed by the awake one.

Good Luck!

 

Same thing here, we separate them for naps, and once I've had to move a loud one very early in the a.m. and they both did get back to sleep without any problem.

 

Ok but still, how long would you let them fuss before deciding it is not going to happen? Thanks!

 

I would let them go for 15-25 minutes, or if it just got worse and worse I would know that was it, time to just get up!

ETA: But if it started getting less and less I would let it go longer!

 

I was nervous about separating mine for naps too often, because I wanted them to get used to each other's "noises". I generally let one or the other fuss for about 15 minutes and by then they are usually both asleep. One of my boys needs less sleep than the other, and he tends to wake earlier during naps. I let him fuss for a few minutes(on the off-chance he'll fall back asleep), and then go and get him out of his crib so my second son can sleep for longer.
This has been working pretty well for us... they generally nap about 45 minutes in the morning, and then DS1 naps for about an hour in the afternoon (and sometimes needs a third nap of about 30 minutes), and DS2 generally naps for about 1.5-2 hours in the afternoon.
The 5 am wake-up is a toughie, though... I think I might try separating them for that sleep time, if it would help them to BOTH sleep for a couple more hours. 5 am is a very early hour to start your day!

 

Most experts agree that you can let babies fuss/cry for 15 minutes at a time without any adverse effects.