How do you say the word "NO" to your 1 year old twins?

Rianna know the word "NO" means right away. She does not go anywhere where she is supposed to be at -- smart girl! (For now, but later?) Who knows!

On the other hand, my son, Justin does not understand the word "NO", or any other languauge such as Mommy says do not touch this, and etc. He just laughed at me! He does not command very well like Rianna does.

Any advice?

 

We used the phrase, "Off limits". It made it easier for NO! to be used in an emergency/danger situation.

 

I think he does understand no because he laughed. Next time he does something use your hands to block it while saying no, he'll understand that you're being serious.

 

QUOTE(Her Royal Jennyness @ Oct 30 2007, 04:21 PM) [snapback]474089[/snapback]
I think he does understand no because he laughed. Next time he does something use your hands to block it while saying no, he'll understand that you're being serious.

I agree.. if I tell my son to stop doing something, my daughter will head over there and do the exact same thing I just got done telling my son not to do. I think Justin knows what you are saying but is trying to push your buttons! They are smart! :umm:

 

I posted a similar post when we were just over a year (something like, Saying 'no" without using the word 'no).

Long story short, it didn't matter if I said no, we don't, uh-uh, stop, etc.

They still thought it was a HILARIOUS game (and still do).

Now, in addition to joining their brother in the trouble making when asked to stop, Nick likes to mock us and actually says "no no no" in a 'try-and-stop-me" tone as he's doing the prohibited activity. It's hard not to laugh, b/c he's so stinkin' cute, but it really does irk me!

 

We say "no touch" when they are about to reach for something they shouldn't have and they are getting pretty good at that. If they throw food on the floor I have been saying "cheerios don't want to be on the floor"...it's not working yet but I got tired of saying no all the time!

 

I try and tell them "that's not for babies" for most things. It generally works, with some inevitable testing.

 

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I try and tell them "that's not for babies" for most things. It generally works, with some inevitable testing.

Thank you for all your advices!
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How do I say no?...usually very loudly, and often. But seriously, I have heard all the advice about saying things other than no, but only no works with DS. He has heard it too often though, tonight we all were eating out, and DH was trying to help DS with the kids cup from the resturant (bad mommy, forgot the sippies) but he was determined to do it on his own. Everytime DH would reach for the cup DS would hug it with one hand and point to DH with the other hand and say DOH, DOH. It was hysterical I thought.

But as far as advice, I have none. I tell DS no and DD giggles, which enforces DS to continue doing whatever it was that he was doing. It's maddening!

 

When I say no the girls look at me, smile, laugh and then do what they aren't supposed to be doing. Sometimes they will stand in front of the outlet and wait for me to see them...then they smile at me.

So anyway, I know they know what I am saying, and sometimes they shake their head "no" but they could really care-less what I am saying. I am hoping that someday they will listen to me (of course once they are teenagers they will be doing the same thing they are now) but until then I just say no and move them away from what they are doing.

 

I actually think no is a good way to say it.....short & simple. Mine seem to get confused if I try a longer explanation. No works pretty good for us, or "no no area". I tried really hard at first not to overuse it, so they wouldn't get too used to hearing it....but that didn't work too well.

Without seeing him, it kinda sounds to me like he might understand. That's what my ds will do, too, laugh at me. But I know he understands.....almost all of our "no"s come from climbing behind the woodstove, and when I tell him to get down, he usually will. Laughing, of course!

 

Both of mine knew what "No" meant, starting at about 12 months, but Sarah usually completely ignored it (unless it was in that "you're about to run into a busy street" tone of voice, but you don't want to overuse that!). Even now, she pretty much ignores it -- her desire to do whatever she was doing is stronger than her fear of parental disapproval. I usually have to physically remove her from whatever it is.

We use "no touch" or "hands off" if it's a question of pushing buttons on the TV or messing with the cat's food. If it's a behavior like throwing toys or hitting, I phrase it more as "toys are not for throwing, rubber balls are for throwing" or "hitting hurts" -- something specific to the action.

If they are in imminent danger because of whatever they are doing (usually stepping off the curb), instead of "no" I say "stop!" That causes them to freeze in their tracks (usually).

My thinking is that "no" (or "uh-oh," or "don't do that") doesn't really tell them what you want them to do, which is partly why they ignore it.

 

We try and say "no touch". If it's going after my nasty shoe or dirt/rock/leaf, I say "that's yucky".

We are also going through the laughing stage with DS. DD listens so darn well - at least I have one easy one right now. DS will go up to the TV, look at me, BANG it and take off running. He's laughing the whole time. GRRRR.

We do physical redirection, but no slapping or spanking.

 

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We try and say "no touch". If it's going after my nasty shoe or dirt/rock/leaf, I say "that's yucky".

We are also going through the laughing stage with DS. DD listens so darn well - at least I have one easy one right now. DS will go up to the TV, look at me, BANG it and take off running. He's laughing the whole time. GRRRR.

We do physical redirection, but no slapping or spanking.

I just caught Justin climb up on the foot stool in front our our TV. We had the foot stool there to prevent them from touching our DVD player and the TV itself with finger print all over it. I took him down and tell him, No -- do not do that again. He just laughed at me but does not go back up there. He will do it again out of my sight. He is trying to "climb" on couch now.

Other than that, I just have to be patience and work with him to reinforce him. If he touch something he should have not -- I thought of putting him in the high chair each time like a time out.