How do you reward one for training when the other isn't ready?

I feel bad, I know that Atticus isn't ready yet, and Lydia is. So she can easily go anytime you set her on there. He can't, and isn't ready yet. So she gets a skittle each time she goes, but what do I do about him? I feel bad. I don't want to punish him for not going. Help please?

 

I didn't do food rewards so Kyle would just join in with rewarding Kayla (her reward was us clapping, singing, dancing and being all excited). He loved congratulating her as much as Kayla loved being congratulated but I never sat either of them on the toilet. Our training process consisted of them deciding on their own when they were ready to use the toilet. Kayla was trained 3 months before Kyle and when it was Kyle's turn to be rewarded she was right there dancing/clapping/singing right along with me. Not receiving a reward is not punishment in my opinion. I praise each of my children individually for their behavior/accomplishments........I don't believe I am punishing the other child by not praising them at the same time.

 

The first time Hannah went potty I gave her a jelly bean and Ben wigged out. I learned then and there that food rewards were not going to work for our family. So like Dianne, we use lots of verbal praise, dancing and singing. They also got to call someone when they went potty (i.e., Grandma, Auntie, etc.). That was a HUGE incentive!!!

 

I don't like food rewards either, so we used a stamp. just a cheapy little stamp they got in a favor bag from an easter party at church. Ethan started PT first, so he got a stamp any time he pottied. Tony wasn't ready yet, so at first, he got a stamp any time he went into the restroom with Ethan. As Ethan got better, he got a stamp only when he tried to poop in the potty, and Tony got a stamp when he sat on the potty. As they got better at pottying, the behavior that they needed to get the reward got more advanced. It worked really well for us!!! So I would suggest that you consider setting a goal for Atticus, even if it's just watching Lydia practice. And reward him when he does that. As he gets more ready, reward him for the next goal, then the next, etc.

 

We used food with Danielle. Rachel would get jealous sometimes and we told her that if she tried and made an effort, she would be rewarded for that as well. So, we did that a bit and other times we let Rachel give Danielle the treat. But, we didn't have to keep up the treats for too long. Danielle forgot to ask for them and we stopped giving them unless she specifically asked. Now, it's Rachel's turn and the food didn't encourage her so we started the stickers with a potty chart (big hit). But, Danielle felt left out so we started a chart for her for when she does good things. When they get to 10, they get a present from the dollar store. Rachel has gotten a TON more than Danielle, but they both seem happy so we are going with it for now.

 

Thanks so much! You girls are wonderful! I think that we will try the dancing around and have a fun time with it first. I appreciate all the help.

 

Carys trained at 22 months and got 1 M&M each time she went. Sam got one too b/c I thought he was just too young to understand why she was getting a treat and he wasn't. Plus, he joined in the cheering, handed her her tp, helped pull the stool up to the potty, etc.

I just started training Sam at 2y 4m. The first time he went in the potty and earned his own treat, he was so proud! He asked for one for sissy too, so he could pay her back for all the M&Ms she earned for him in the past 6 months!

Once they're trained, I moved from food treats to stickers and they love that just as much.