How do you manage these?

Hi Ladies....

Just wanted to find out..how do you guys manage.

When do you eat your dinner?? What do u eat...do you cook everyday??

When do you go to bed?? I seem to be doing chores till midnite!!!!

I seem to feeding the girls all the time...breakfast, lunch & dinner!!! When do you go out with them? Do you feed them lunch when your out? How?? Mine makes a mess!!!

Also, does your body ache?? I'm aching all over...

Thanks
Hina

 

Unfortunatley my answers aren't going to be much help - since I am in the same boat! But here goes:
* I eat dinner when they eat around 6:00pm. My husband comes home at 6:30pm, has a salad, then plays with the kids until they go to bed at 7:30pm while I cook his dinner. We figure when the kids are older and I can actually cook while they play by themsleves for an extended period of time, we'll eat together
* I "try" to go to bed by 11:30pm, and get up at 6:30pm. I too am doing laundry, making my husband's lunch, their food, cleaning, picking up, sometimes grocery shopping, etc. etc. etc. until very late!
* I take them out right after lunch. I feed a bit differently than others: after each bottle (breakfast, lunch and dinner) I serve solids 1 hour MAX later. Most moms feed it 2 hours later. But this way, we have more time to be out if necessary. I have done solids while out but it is hard. I usually just keep it simple such as bread, crackers, nutrigrain bar, banana, cottage cheese, etc. I save the veggies and messy foods for home
* YES my legs ache a lot. I work out every day for 1 hour when they nap, and then sometimes we take walks, go to the park, in and out of the stroller a lot, etc. But I can't stay inside at home every day with them or I'd burst. So we go out, and my body suffers. (BUt I burn a bazillion more calories!
Hope this helps somewhat. You are not alone!
Kathleen

 

I know how you feel....

1. Now we eat dinner as a family with the guys in the highchairs eating finger foods. When they were younger we would eat when we could or put in a Baby Einstein with them in their saucers.

2. I cook everyday or make enough for leftovers the next night. Crock pot meals, casseroles. DH grills.

3. Go to bed around 11:00 if I have "chores" to do. I also have come to the realization what is not finished today can be done tomorrow.

4. Even now I find going out with the boys vs disruption of routine is hard for me. To try hard not to disrupt the schedule we do not go out until after morning nap and lunch...then we have a 2 hour window before afternoon nap. Unfortunately, most times they fall asleep in the car and the nap length when we do this is not as long as it should be.

5. The few occassions we have gone to lunch with the boys I bring their food (stage 3 or table food, bibs, wipes, and feed them what they will eat. Then I give them puffs and toasts to keep the occupied.

6. Even now all these months later my hips and knees constantly ache on some level. Part of it the dr. thinks is due to the amount/length of time I was on mag sulfate after delivery. I was on it for a week in critical condition. I do think since my level of exercise has gone down drastically since being pregnant/having twins that adds to the flare ups. I used to play/coach volleyball, yoga and walk. Now, since the boys are getting easier and we have a girl coming in a couple days a week for a few hours I hope to get exercise back into my life.

Like PP said you are not alone and we understand completely how you feel. :hug99:

 

My babies are over six months old so things are much better now than they were. I don't know how old your twins are but here is what we do:

I can count on one hand the times we have eaten before 8Pm. I don't think that I have cooked an actual meal since I went on bedrest in November last year. Luckily, my DH knows that cooking is not my thing so he hasn't really missed it. On the weekends, my DH grills steaks and chicken which we refrigerate and eat throughout much of the week on salads, sandwiches, etc. We eat a lot of microwave meals.

I usually go to bed between 10 and 11. If I can't get the stuff around the house done while the babies are napping or before 10pm, I just don't do them. It is more important to me and my DH that I get sleep so that I can be human enough to take care of the babies the next day. On the weekends, each of us takes an hour in the morning and an hour in the afternoon both days to work on stuff that needs to be done around the house. We keep an excel spreadsheet and mark things off as they get accomplished. As you can imagine it is a long list! We figure we will catch up in 2011 when the little ones go to Kindergarten!

I go out with the babies every morning (weather permitting) for a stroller walk just to get some fresh air. I plan all of my other errands and appts. in the late afternoon after the babies' 1pm nap and bottle. I always have a bottle with me for each of them just in case but most days we are home before they are hungry again.

Yes, my body aches. Right now, I am nursing a sore shoulder and back (my DD is teething so I have been holding her for the past 5 days almost constantly). Funny, in the morning, my feet ache like I walked 20 miles the day before. I should probably put on a pedometer because in my daily chores, I probably do walk at least half of that!

Take care! Remember, housework can wait!

 

GUESS WHAT? ENJOY YOUR BABIES NOW!!! THE WORK WILL BE THERE TOMORROW!!!! Will the world come crashing down if the dishes don't get done tonight? The laundry isn't a big deal, you can go naked. The floor will be dirty again tomorrow too. Don't wear yourself out trying to reach perfection or getting everything done everyday. Your babies are only babies once. Enjoy it while it lasts. There is a saying about when you die no one will care or remember how clean your house was, but they will know what kind of mother you were.

 

When do you eat your dinner??
-We eat after the babies are in bed. Somewhere between 7:30 and 9:00.

What do u eat...do you cook everyday??
-A lot of easy food - microwave stuff, salads with tuna or chicken.

When do you go to bed??
-I'm on my way now - it's 11:20 p.m. That's pretty typical I guess.

I seem to be doing chores till midnite!!!!
-I know, there's ALWAYS something to do. It's crazy.

I seem to feeding the girls all the time...breakfast, lunch & dinner!!! When do you go out with them? Do you feed them lunch when your out? How?? Mine makes a mess!!!
-My boys are 4 months. They take 5 bottles a day, sometimes 6.

Also, does your body ache?? I'm aching all over...
Yes, it does! My boys are big! Evan is 18 lbs now. He doesn't know he's big and wants to be carried a lot. My back is killing me - it's like being pregnant again.


Thanks
-You're welcome. I don't know how old your babies are but mine are WAY MORE FUN at 4 months than they were at 4 weeks (at that point I was trying to figure out how to send them back!!). Each week is better than the last and I love my boys more than I ever thought possible.

 

Hi Ladies...

Thank you so much for your replies. It's good to hear I'm not alone I am normally a very organised person but sometime you lose it! DH does help but in his own way...you know what I mean! Bless!

Our girls are 7 months (btw, I need to put that ticker thing at the bottom of my mesg...where do u attache it?)
I love the girls to bit & I love spending my time with them. But you also have to runt he household & do your chores.

I sched all my apps after their lunch but if they had a short nap in the morning it really messes the system up! Sometimes they will nap for 2 hrs or sometime 15 mins...it's all dependent on the pooo! They wake up to poo & it's hard to get them back for nap. & Yes, once they've had their nap in the car....it's all **** break lose from then on! Does your babies nap in the stroller?? Mine don't...they think they may miss out

Meal times are becoming a nightmare...how much should they be eating at 7 month? They hardly finish a jar between them for lunch. I give them mix cereal in the evening...only have a couple of spoons! It would be great to find out what I'm doing wrong!

Thanks for yr replies...
Hina

 

Although my girls are only a week and a half old I can say that they are on a schedule of 3 - 4 hours. They eat around 2pm, 5pm, 8 pm, and then 1am, 5am, 8am, and 11am. This schedule allows me to do a lot in between feedings--including sleep. I know that this schedule isn't set in stone but I find that I am actually looking for things to do if I'm not tired when they are sleeping. Both girls are up for about 2 hours a day just to look around and they fall asleep without me rocking or feeding them till they are asleep.

We eat breakfast at 7am, lunch at 12:30pm, and dinner at 6:30pm. For me this time around is easy even with twins. I know that it's not going to be like this forever, but as of right now I have found that it is easier than my other three kids. I guess that is because our girls aren't my first. If they had been my first I don't think that I'd be as cool and collected about caring for them plus having a 3 year old to chase--lol. And she is my official helper. She loves her sisters and is always trying to help. The big thing is that I have family here but I really haven't needed any big help unless I have to go to an appt.

Good luck!
Lots of love!
Meshell

 

Hi Meshell,

Congrats on your twins. I too found it so much easier when they were that small babies, but now they only have 2 naps & need to play a lot. Hopefully yours will stay the same....touch wood! It's the feeding that is becoming a nightmare! They only like certain food & it takes ages to feed them. Hopefully it will get easier.

Take care
Hina

 

When do you eat your dinner?? What do u eat...do you cook everyday??
We eat after the girls go to bed. So we start cooking at 7 and are done by about 8. When the girls were young we were big fans of the crock pot but now we just eat whatever. The girls have dinner between 4:30 and 5:30, depending on what time they get up from their afternoon nap.

When do you go to bed??
I would say that I am in bed every night by about 10:30. I don't do anything except dinner, dishes and cleaning up toys at night. I do whatever I can during the day and whatever else needs to get done we tackle together on the weekends.

When do you go out with them?
I try to go out between lunch and their afternoon nap. Some days we just don't go out...

Do you feed them lunch when your out?
We fed them at Chili's today and I think it was more trouble than it was worth. I spent most of the mealing picking up sippy cups and then had to clean the floor so the wait staff didn't hate us. Yes it is good to get out, but I also like staying home. I go out when I have errands to do but that's about it (except for weekends when there are two of us)

Also, does your body ache?? ALL THE TIME - and I am only 33!

 

You arent doing anything wrong. It's really really hard and some days are impossible. Are they on a routine? or would you prefer no routine? the most important thing that I found helped is that they are in sync.

Have you tried any stewed apples and pears? that was always a hit because its sweet and healthy. Try a couple of things slowly. Pumpkin, sweet potato and when you have found something they like, repeat it over and over. It may be boring for you, but not for them.

7 months is still very very young. If you manage to get out of the house, that is great, but if you dont, then focus on them. AND DONT COMPARE YOURSELF TO MOMS OF SINGLETONS.

Try to find other ways of measuring a succesful day. Instead of how much they ate and how much they slept, try things like ' they rolled or sat and looked at each other and smiled' or whatever.

I found that everything changed at 8 months, so hang in there, keep going, it gets better.

MIne stopped napping in the stroller at 5 months so i was constantly sprinting home in time for their nap while other moms were drinking lattes together

 

1. When do you eat your dinner?? What do u eat...do you cook everyday??

We don't eat dinner until the girls go to bed which is no later than 7pm. We usually eat around 7:30pm. There is the ODD day that we will eat when they are awake playing. What do we eat? Hmmmm...nothing special. Unfortunately we aren't eating as healthy as we used to because we usually want something quick. We are getting a bit better though.

2. When do you go to bed?? I seem to be doing chores till midnite!!!!

I go to bed around 10-10:30pm. I have NO energy whatsoever to do chores at night so I do them in the day if I can when the girls nap or when they are in their exersaucers or when my DH is home.

3. I seem to feeding the girls all the time...breakfast, lunch & dinner!!! When do you go out with them? Do you feed them lunch when your out? How?? Mine makes a mess!!!

I just posted about this. Look forward to the answers.

4. Also, does your body ache?? I'm aching all over...

My back hurts some days and other days it is my knees. I think after carrying them troughout the pregnancy, then carrying them now and also bending down and squatting to play with them doesn't help either.

 

When do you eat your dinner?? What do u eat...do you cook everyday?? I eat dinner before their 8 pm bottle. DH eats dinner after. We cook a couple of times a week and then live on the left overs.

When do you go to bed?? I seem to be doing chores till midnite!!!! I go to bed around 9pm. Never before in my life have I gone to bed this early (I used to be quite a night owl), but I'm just so tired and have to go to work early so we do bottles, put the girls to bed, prep the next 24 hours' worth of bottles and then I'm off to bed. Usually DH stays up until after the midnight feeding. Sometimes he naps on the couch before hand and then comes to bed after the midnight bottles.

I seem to feeding the girls all the time...breakfast, lunch & dinner!!! When do you go out with them? Do you feed them lunch when your out? How?? Mine makes a mess!!! Can't answer this question as my girls are still on bottles only.

Also, does your body ache?? I'm aching all over... YES! My arms are more toned than they have ever been in my life (those infant seats are getting *heavy*!), but my back and neck really hurt. My shoulder blades are actually numb most of the time so I'm sure I have something pinched, but no time to go to the doctor about it. I just don't think about the aches and pains and hopefully they will resolve themselves after the girls are more mobile.

Hope this info is helpful! -Leighann

 

When do you eat your dinner?? What do u eat...do you cook everyday??
We eat after they are in bed. Usually my hubby cooks - he does like to cook every night.

When do you go to bed?? I seem to be doing chores till midnite!!!!
I'm in bed no later than 930pm. We both work, but I'm the first one up in the morning (430) so I get to go to bed first. We share the chores and if we don't feel like doing something, we just let it wait until the next day. We realized pretty early that we wouldn't be able to get everything accomplished every day.

I seem to feeding the girls all the time...breakfast, lunch & dinner!!! When do you go out with them? Do you feed them lunch when your out? How?? Mine makes a mess!!!
It seems like that here, too. Just when they start to really get into playing with something, they realize they are hungry... We do take "emergency" stuff when we do go out, but really try to plan outings around meals. We really only go places on the weekend with them, by the time we are all home at night it seems like it is dinner, bath, bottles and bed because they play so hard during the day at "school". They do make a mess, but I figure that is what bibs are for.

Also, does your body ache??
Yes, always...it seems like when I'm home I am doing nothing but running up and down the stairs, and I am really into spinning... I figure that I won't hurt anymore once they go to college.

Hang in there, things will get better (I never use the word easier).

alexis

 

With a lot of help. My parents have been able to come and stay about half of the time for the first 6 - 8 months, while my 2 sisters have been in and out, and so have a lot of friends from work and church. If anyone offered help, I found a job for them to do. And I mean anyone and everyone. We're finally getting to where it's just our family in the house most nights.

Our twins are 10 1/2 months old. Our first daughter is 3. We are finally sort of eating as a family about 5:30. I feed the twins, husband comes home, crock pot is done, then the three of us actually eat while the twins play with or eat cheerios or finger food or part of our dinner if it's something they can have.

I go to bed about 9:00, but am up about 4:30. Husband goes to bed about 10, but is up at 5:30. We are trying to shift the babies schedules by an hour or so, since they are my alarm clock at 4:30, but they are sleeping through the night over half of the time, which started happening more over the last 2 months. Our 3 year old goes to daycare part time so she gets to play with some her own age, and that has been a big help. ALthough I feel guilty about it most days.

It seems easier in lots of ways now, but since I haven't slept enough in over a year (the twins went until 39 weeks in August - I was cursing my doctor at the time, but I never was on full bed rest, and it really was better for everyone), so I am just so tired all the time and so drained. We're starting to get out a little bit more, and I'm starting to exercise a little, which is really helping. Now that the girls are starting to talk, that helps, too, especially since both of their first words was Mama (followed quickly by Dada). But that's what works for me.

Good luck - and let me tell you I wish I had found this site earlier. Just knowing there are others going through the same thing helps. And we can get some sleep when they go off to college or something like that...

 

When do you eat your dinner?? What do u eat...do you cook everyday?? We eat dinner around 7.30 - 8 pm. The twins go to bed at 6.15-6.30 pm, my oldest at 7 pm, and then I cook dinner. I cook dinner 5 out of 6-7 nights. Easy, but healthy!

When do you go to bed?? I seem to be doing chores till midnite!!!! I go to bed at 9-10 pm since the twins still wake early (between 5 and 6 am, though they're not being fed until 6 am). I have a cleaning crew once a week to clean my house. I couldn't live without them.

I seem to feeding the girls all the time...breakfast, lunch & dinner!!! When do you go out with them? Do you feed them lunch when your out? How?? Mine makes a mess!!! At this point I mainly feed at home. I go out between 11 am - 12.30 pm (after first nap and before lunch) and between 3.30 - 5.30 pm (after 2nd nap and before dinner). I did the same with my first, so I am used it. I also have a sitter for 2 x 4 hours for the twins so then my oldest and I do things together.

Also, does your body ache?? I'm aching all over... Nope ...

Take care!