How do parents of singletons do it? How do they go through one pregnancy per child? How do they entertain their babies when the baby has no playmates? How do they feed just one baby every few hours? How do they have the patience to feed just one baby solids a few times a day? What do they do with all that free time they must have? They must be bored stiff. How do they cope when the carpool lane requires 3 or more in a car (they have these special carpool lanes in some areas here)? How do they keep track of buying different sizes for all their children? How do they deal with buying clothes knowing that only one baby will wear them? How do they deal with buying toys knowing that only one baby will use them? Oh, so many questions. It must be really hard having babies one at a time. :blbl:
:rotflmbo: Rough day Lizzy?? There are days when I really think I'd be bored with just one, but most of the time I'm run ragged! Big hugs!
LOL@ rough day. My boys have been ill lately and they handle it differently. One sleeps a lot and the other stays awake and fusses about it, especially when the other is asleep. When they are both awake they are fairly content keeping each other company. When the one sleeps a lot, though, the other one demands my constant attention, which made me wonder if that's what it's like to have a single baby. It made me realize how delighted I am that my boys are at a point where they play with each other, leaving me a little time here and there to get some laundry done, wash bottles, use the bathroom, etc.; time for things I was never able to do the first few months of parenthood. With one baby, there is less work on feedings, etc., but I can imagine it would be harder to keep the baby entertained. Plus, I appreciate that when I buy clothes, toys, and supplies, the boys can share them, though it is more expensive than having one baby because I have to buy more. I'm just thinking about all the plusses of having twins and feeling very blessed! I do hope to have more children soon, and hope I get to experience what it is like to have a singleton. Someone said in another post how we are blessed to have this experience of parenting twins. I agree! My post was meant to be tongue-in-cheek. I mean no offense.
QUOTE(Lizzybo @ Apr 22 2009, 01:02 PM) [snapback]1284017[/snapback] It must be really hard having babies one at a time. Ya know, we have had a rash of these threads in FY lately singletons vs. twins. I think it's really hard to pass judgement or make a comparison unless you have actually had both experiences. KWIM? And my older DD was a much harder baby than my twins ever were. I never really had too much free time either. I dont know why it has to be so much of a competition. ardon: ETA: spelling
QUOTE Oh, so many questions. It must be really hard having babies one at a time. Or losing one of your twin babies and being left to raise a singleton.
Given all the questions we get from complete strangers on "how do you do it with two?" I find the humor in your post. Love it!
Oh gosh. Really, I meant it in a humorous way, not serious. It's really hard to convey that in black and white. Some of these threads are taken way more seriously than intended. I never saw the other threads as judgmental or complaining, either. It's all in the interpretation and probably your mood and thoughts you have when you read them. I wasn't serious! I have no experience as a parent of a single baby, nor do I have the experience of losing a twin (even though I nearly did). Wow, the gravity this thread has taken. I'm so so sorry!
QUOTE(TwinsInFL @ Apr 22 2009, 11:03 AM) [snapback]1284143[/snapback] Given all the questions we get from complete strangers on "how do you do it with two?" I find the humor in your post. Love it! That's exactly what got me thinking in this direction. My answer is that I have no other experience on which to judge. I just started thinking how funny it would be if I replied with "how do you do it with one?" They ask me because they have no experience of twins. I was just trying a little role reversal in a way. But now I feel a little crappy as I realize that some people wouldn't understand that this was meant to be humorous and not a serious complaint or gripe. It was anything but. Those who know me know that I am not a complainer. I like to see the bright side wherever I can.
i thought the OP was funny. no reason to get our panties in a wad over something that was intended to be a humorous attempt to blow off steam. it's okay to voice irrational thoughts sometimes.
QUOTE(piccologirl @ Apr 22 2009, 02:32 PM) [snapback]1284206[/snapback] i thought the OP was funny. no reason to get our panties in a wad over something that was intended to be a humorous attempt to blow off steam. it's okay to voice irrational thoughts sometimes. I am glad that you thought it was funny. And I think it is perfectly acceptable for me to voice an opinion too without the "panties in a wad" label. Everyone is entitled to their feelings on a certain subject.
I took it as tongue-in-cheek as well. I get asked all the time how I "do it". It is my normal and do wonder sometimes how it is done with just one at a time. I by no means think twins are harder. I actually think the opposite at times. A legitimate post that wasn't meant to be mean, just show the same questions we hear all the time from a different perspective. Very creative IMHO.
Gee, I wonder what people with only two kids must do with all their free time? They must be bored stiff! :rofl:
QUOTE(ThreeLittleSnowflakes @ Apr 22 2009, 02:43 PM) [snapback]1284230[/snapback] Gee, I wonder what people with only two kids must do with all their free time? They must be bored stiff! :rofl: Yeah, my cousin has triplets ... she must think my life is a cake walk ... I, on the other hand, do not think so. Personally, if I hear how "blessed" I am one more time for having twins, I am going to stick a fork in my eye.
Having been there done that with 2 singletons and 2 twins I will tell you they are equally hard! And I found the post funny too! The only difference (so far, granted they are only 2 months old), is I have to use 2 hands to feed them bottles and have 2 diapers to change instead of one, and carry 2 car seats around, otherwise they are on the same schedule and I do everything much the same way I would my singles!
QUOTE(ThreeLittleSnowflakes @ Apr 22 2009, 02:43 PM) [snapback]1284230[/snapback] Gee, I wonder what people with only two kids must do with all their free time? They must be bored stiff! :rofl: I know! I have twins AND a singleton baby! I wonder what people with just two three-year olds DO all day!
QUOTE(Snittens @ Apr 22 2009, 03:58 PM) [snapback]1284345[/snapback] I know! I have twins AND a singleton baby! I wonder what people with just two three-year olds DO all day! 3? Puhlease. :lol: Totally kidding Kelly. There have been a rash of threads lately re singleton/twins, who has it worse, etc, etc. Bottom line is being a mom is hard. Period. Everyone is different, has different kids, faces their own sets of struggles. I know I thought it was hard when I had one, two, three, then five kids. And then I look at my cousin, who has an 11 year old special needs child, who will never talk and never be out of diapers, and I wonder if she thinks her life is hard? Probably so, she's a mom, but I have never heard her complain. I guess I just don't understand the competition between moms, which I think is what others were getting at. We should be supporting each other, not trying to knock each other down. Lizzybo, I understand you were trying for a light-hearted thread. You never know! :catfight: :lol:
QUOTE(piccologirl @ Apr 22 2009, 10:32 AM) [snapback]1284206[/snapback] i thought the OP was funny. no reason to get our panties in a wad over something that was intended to be a humorous attempt to blow off steam. it's okay to voice irrational thoughts sometimes. Wow, really?? QUOTE(DATJMom @ Apr 22 2009, 10:36 AM) [snapback]1284212[/snapback] I am glad that you thought it was funny. And I think it is perfectly acceptable for me to voice an opinion too without the "panties in a wad" label. Everyone is entitled to their feelings on a certain subject. I agree. EVERYONE has a right to express their feelings, just like the OP. I also agree only twins? What is everyone complaining about? I got my anties: on!!
QUOTE(twoplustwo @ Apr 22 2009, 04:59 PM) [snapback]1284445[/snapback] Wow, really?? I agree. EVERYONE has a right to express their feelings, just like the OP. i'm glad we're on the same page. and i'm glad you recognize my right to express my feelings that some of the responses were more negative than the initial post warranted. it's just interesting to see people snap at the OP for expressing her thoughts, then get defensive at the mere implication that someone is criticizing their thoughts. it's a two way street.
QUOTE(piccologirl @ Apr 22 2009, 05:23 PM) [snapback]1284471[/snapback] i'm glad we're on the same page. and i'm glad you recognize my right to express my feelings that some of the responses were more negative than the initial post warranted. it's just interesting to see people snap at the OP for expressing her thoughts, then get defensive at the mere implication that someone is criticizing their thoughts. it's a two way street. I totally agree! Very funny and interesting thread!
QUOTE(piccologirl @ Apr 22 2009, 05:23 PM) [snapback]1284471[/snapback] i'm glad we're on the same page. and i'm glad you recognize my right to express my feelings that some of the responses were more negative than the initial post warranted. it's just interesting to see people snap at the OP for expressing her thoughts, then get defensive at the mere implication that someone is criticizing their thoughts. I think it was the "panties in a wad" comment that did it. ardon:
Hmm, I'll try to answer.... QUOTE(Lizzybo @ Apr 22 2009, 12:02 PM) [snapback]1284017[/snapback] How do parents of singletons do it? How do they go through one pregnancy per child? They don't have bedrest, twin comlplications, extra worry, or all that twin skin!! How do they entertain their babies when the baby has no playmates? They get to spend so much more one on one time when there is "only" one. How do they feed just one baby every few hours? They get to relax, nurse or bottlefeed, and read a book or talk on the phone at the same time. It's wonderful! How do they have the patience to feed just one baby solids a few times a day? They have more time to sing songs, make meals, and clean up! What do they do with all that free time they must have? They must be bored stiff. They do laundry, clean the house, play with their older children, talk on the phone, pay bills, or even take a nap! How do they cope when the carpool lane requires 3 or more in a car (they have these special carpool lanes in some areas here)? No clue! How do they keep track of buying different sizes for all their children? They just buy the size their child is wearing and save it when they outgrow it for future children. How do they deal with buying clothes knowing that only one baby will wear them? They give them away to their friends who have same-gendered children, donate them to needy families, or save them for their next child! How do they deal with buying toys knowing that only one baby will use them? See above! Oh, so many questions. It must be really hard having babies one at a time. :blbl: ardon: Hope that clears up any confusion! :lol: Everything is based on personal experiences. We each have our own perspective based on our own experiences! I get the humor, but I also get why people would be offended. The competition among moms gets old. I haven't seen any threads that have the title of "How do people who only have twins do it?" Being a mom is tough, no matter what!
QUOTE(piccologirl @ Apr 22 2009, 04:23 PM) [snapback]1284471[/snapback] i'm glad we're on the same page. and i'm glad you recognize my right to express my feelings that some of the responses were more negative than the initial post warranted. it's just interesting to see people snap at the OP for expressing her thoughts, then get defensive at the mere implication that someone is criticizing their thoughts. it's a two way street. No harm done OP. I got your point
To the OP... I get what you were saying... it just so happened that my thoughts instantly went to a couple of my good friends here on TS. But hey, if someone posts something... and like a pp said even an irrational thought, then they should be ready to read any and all responses to it. QUOTE I know! I have twins AND a singleton baby! I wonder what people with just two three-year olds DO all day! We made plans to send them to pre-school earlier than most kids... then we did. QUOTE 3? Puhlease. laugh.gif Show off! I can't wait to see what Briana and Pam have to say to you.
QUOTE(Anne-J @ Apr 22 2009, 10:55 PM) [snapback]1284925[/snapback] Show off! I can't wait to see what Briana and Pam have to say to you. :escape:
I totally get your post! I think it was funny! I have a couple friends who just have a singleton and when our families get together its funny to watch how different it is just having one! Not to mention, one girl has the easiest baby I have ever seen and she will try to help with my girls and just be lost. Just like I would be lost with just one easy baby!
