How do I get through this? very long vent

Hi Ladies, well I guess it's my turn, I have hit some kind of wall. I've been crying myself to sleep for the last week from the pain. It sounds like the lady who posted about what might be gall stones. Anyway, I can barely get through the days, I have NO energy, even showering is too much. (I finally had one today after 4 days, yuck) I usually shower every day. I can't bath anymore, too hard to get in and out etc. My arms aren't long enough to dry myself. I have no energy to eat, I wish I had someone to put food in front of me but DH works very hard at his business during the week and we have a farm he works in eves and weekends. My DD usually helps a lot but is now back in school and has chores etc on the weekends. I'm stressed out because 4-H is starting when I am due and I don't know how I'm gonna get her to and from every week, especially the days she has to bring her horse. My sister/best friend has gotten herself involved with coke and has been in trouble for the last several months. I don't have her there for my anymore at all and I feel there is nothing I can do for her as I am 600 kms away and obviously can't travel now. Ugh, I just don't know how I'm gonna go another 6 weeks of this. all my family is back home, Mom is coming when the babies are born (thank goodness) Plus I'm still trying to get things organized and have no energy to do it. If I do anything but lay my feet swell. I can't close my hands and can barely walk in the mornings, my feet hurt so bad. Well I guess I'll stop now, there's more but I'm just grateful if anyone made it this far in my "poor me" post. Thanks to Twinstuff for being here for us to vent like this!

 

I am so sorry to hear you are having trouble.

Can you hire someone to help you around the house and with getting your daughter to and from her stuff?

 

I am so sorry you have hit that wall. I hit one about 31 weeks, and then again at 35. You will get through it (really there is no other choice). My only advice is try to get up and do something every day, even if it is as simple as paying the bills or taking a shower, it breaks up the day a bit. Also keeping yourself distracted helps, I have done more crossword puzzles in the last 3 weeks than I have in my entire life.

You can do it, you can do it, you can do it!!!

 

i'm right there with you! i hate sitting around, but i can't do anything because it hurts to much to get around. i actually have dreams of running and dancing, because i miss being able to move around freely! haha.
you're not alone. just think... we'll be done soon enough!

 

It's tough and I totally sympathize with you! I really hit my wall between 32 and 34 weeks and it just seemed like I couldn't possibly go any further. I think this experience has taught me to rely on my friends and family a little more. It's hard for me to ask for help and be humble enough to let people do stuff for me, but I've learned that they won't ask if they don't want to help. So...if you have people out there who want to come over and either keep you company or help out with something, let them! It's really a huge blessing.

I'm almost 38 weeks. You can totally do this, hon...just hang on a bit longer! It's really hard to feel like you're losing your independence, but just think of what you're gaining...two healthy babies! I second the crossword puzzles. Send DH out to Barnes & Noble and have him pick out some books, crossword puzzles, Sudoku, movies or whatever, just to keep your mind busy.

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You're doing great!

 

The reward is so worth it in the end. I promise you, two years from now, you won't even remember this. I know that doesn't help cure your immense discomfort right now, but I hope it gives you some comfort...you are about to experience the most wonderful, miraculous thing in your life. It will be soooooo worth it when this over. HANG IN THERE.

 

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The reward is so worth it in the end. I promise you, two years from now, you won't even remember this. I know that doesn't help cure your immense discomfort right now, but I hope it gives you some comfort...you are about to experience the most wonderful, miraculous thing in your life. It will be soooooo worth it when this over. HANG IN THERE.


Thank you for the encouragement! I think all of us nearing the end need to hear this frequently I have no doubt we would all be willing to do the whole thing over again, discomfort and all, once we lay our eyes on those babies.

 

i am so sorry that you are feeling so crummy. as far as the sister/best friend situation, i am kind of going through the same thing. she doesn't do drugs, through. her problem is that she was diagnosed bi-polar a few years ago and doesn't take her meds. she is not there for me at all.
twin pregnancy is so so very hard, especially in the end. it's like you have this immense urge to nest, but your body won't allow you to. it most definitely takes away your independance, that's for sure!!
hang in there, mama. you're not alone in the suffering department. there are a lot of us suffering along with you! we can do it, ladies!! pretty soon we'll have sweet little peanuts to show for it!!